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The Gaza Tunnels-Hannibal Procedure


 
This article was constructed with the help of either writings, lectures or shiurim of Rabbi’s  Beryl Wien, Yossi Bilus, Dr. Abba Goldman and Mr. David Chodgebecov with excerps from The New York Times

 

Devarim parshat Eikev, 10-19 ” You should love the convert because you were strangers in Egypt”     ” Jews should learn from the Egyptian experience that G-d does not like the persecution of strangers” RAMBAN

One should know included in the commandment ” love your fellow (Jew) like yourself” is “love the convert” so why is there a special commandment, this week? 
 Human nature is such that we might be less inclined  in performing this Mitzvah because the stranger is unlike us. Therefore, the Torah repeats and emphasizes so we don’t diminish the commandment.- Sefer Ha’chinuch.
 It also seems that  if G-d shows such sensitivity in our treatment towards the convert, then the intensity of love one should have to his fellow Jew should be even greater.  We have the means within us to go the extra mile for our brother.
There is a powerful  lesson I’ve learned of loving your fellow Jew in researching this weeks topic that I would like to share. Lets start with excerpts from a very interesting New York Times article published last week titled:

 

     “Israeli Procedure Reignites Old Debate”
By ISABEL KERSHNERAUG. 7, 2014 

 

    JERUSALEM – It was one of the bloodiest episodes in the just-paused conflict in Gaza.
Less than 90 minutes into a temporary truce last Friday that was supposed to have ended the fighting, Hamas fighters emerged from a tunnel and ambushed an Israeli unit, killing two soldiers and snatching a third, prompting the Israeli Army to pursue the captors and unleash a barrage of artillery and airstrikes on a heavily populated section of the southern border town of Rafah.
When it was over, 120 Palestinians were dead, along with the captured soldier.
It was one of the rare invocations of the Israeli military’s “Hannibal procedure,” one of its most dreaded and contentious directives, which allows commanders to call in extra troops and air support to use maximum force to recapture a lost soldier. Its most ominous clause states that the mission is to prevent the captors from getting away with their captives, even at the risk of harming or endangering the lives of the captured Israeli soldiers

In last Friday’s episode in Rafah, it appears unlikely that the Hannibal procedure caused the fatal injury of the missing soldier, Second Lt. Hadar Goldin, who was later declared killed in action.
Still, its use has reignited debate about the decades-old directive, which was long kept hidden from the general public by military censorship and is rarely discussed in Israel. Captured Israeli soldiers are a valuable and highly sought prize for Hamas, which held one such soldier, Gilad Shalit, for five years. It ultimately traded him for more than 1,000 Palestinian prisoners, many of them convicted of deadly attacks against Israelis.
But there is increasing reluctance to continue the practice of trading so many prisoners for captive soldiers, with critics arguing that each lopsided deal only encourages future abductions. Military service is compulsory for almost all young Israelis, making the return of captured soldiers an even more emotionally and politically weighted issue.
 
Brig. Gen. Michael Edelstein, the commander of the Gaza division, said Thursday in a telephone briefing that most of the casualties in Rafah had occurred in the first hours after Hamas fighters “tried to kidnap our officer and bring him into civilian places.” But he said that the forces had targeted “terror sites,” not civilians.
The Hannibal edict was drawn up by three senior officers in Israel’s northern command in the 1980s after two Israeli soldiers were captured by Hezbollah in Lebanon.
“We understood that when it comes to kidnapping, there should be a very clear order so that ordinary soldiers on the ground should not have to hesitate and make their own assumptions,” said Yaakov Amidror, a retired Israeli general, former national security adviser, and one of the authors of the directive as a colonel in the northern command from 1986 to 1989.
 
 
The name Hannibal, recalling the Carthaginian military commander who poisoned himself rather than fall into the hands of the Romans, suggests a shocking act of self-sacrifice. But Mr. Amidror says it was chosen randomly and has no real significance.
“Morally, it’s a big question: What can you do or not do to prevent a kidnapping?” Mr. Amidror said. “The order was that you have to do all you can, including risking – not killing – the soldier.”
If a captive soldier is known to be in a certain vehicle, Mr. Amidror said, it is permissible to fire a tank shell toward the engine of the car. “You for sure risk the life of the soldier, but you don’t intend to kill him,” he said.
Asked whether it was morally acceptable to risk a soldier’s life in this way, Mr. Amidror said: “You know, war is very controversial. Soldiers have to know there are many risks in the battlefield, and this is one of them.”
But for some Israelis, the practice is unacceptable.
“The procedure is morally flawed,” said Emanuel Gross of Haifa University, an expert in military law and a former military judge. “We have no right to risk the life of a soldier only to avoid the payment for his return from captivity.”
Instead, Mr. Gross said, Israel ought to stand more firmly against the inflated demands of the captors.
Still, officials and experts said they could not recall a case in which the Hannibal procedure was activated and a captive soldier was hurt.
When three Israeli soldiers were snatched by Hezbollah along the Lebanese border in 2000, attack helicopters were dispatched with orders to shoot at any vehicle trying to leave a nearby Lebanese village, according to Ronen Bergman, an Israeli journalist specializing in security affairs who has contributed to The New York Times Magazine, who documented the case in his book “By Any Means Necessary: Israel’s Covert War for Its POWs and MIAs.”
But from the radio talk and testimonies of pilots, Mr. Bergman said in an interview, the order “was not followed, at least not strictly.”
“I think the helicopter pilots were very cautious,” he said.
Mr. Amidror said he had been appointed by the chief of staff to investigate what happened in 2000. “In this case, there was no problem to resolve, because nobody was there to take any action to stop the kidnapping,” he said, adding that the helicopters came in too late and “didn’t identify any relevant target.”
After an investigation, the Israeli authorities pronounced the three soldiers dead in 2001. Their remains were returned to Israel in 2004 as part of a prisoner exchange.
Some of the details of what happened in Rafah remain murky. Lt. Col. Peter Lerner, a military spokesman, still could not say, a week later, whether the Hamas fighters had included a suicide bomber, or whether Lieutenant Goldin, 23, had been killed in the initial attack.
“We know he was at least wounded,” Colonel Lerner said, based on the evidence later found at and near the scene.
The Hamas attackers dragged Lieutenant Goldin with them back into the tunnel. A few minutes later, a fellow soldier who has been identified only by his first name, as Lieutenant Eitan, secured permission from a senior commander to enter the tunnel in pursuit with two other soldiers.
They were too late. There was no contact or engagement between the soldiers who entered the tunnel and the captors, Colonel Lerner said. But he said some evidence found in the tunnel later helped the military determine that Lieutenant Goldin could not have survived the initial attack. He was declared killed in action by late 
Saturday night.
Reached by telephone 
on Thursday, one of Lieutenant Goldin’s relatives said the family was not ready to answer questions about his death.

A version of this article appears in print on August 8, 2014, on page A10 
 
What are the Israeli’s trying to prevent by implementing the Hannibal procedure?
Israel’s euphoria surrounding the release of Gilad Shalit notwithstanding, everyone knows something must change.  Kidnapping has become a standard weapon in the guerilla arsenal, while terrorist demands grow with every prisoner swap.  At celebrations throughout the occupied territories Palestinians greeted freed killers with chants of  “The people want another Shalit!” while Hamas commander Ahmed Jabri declared that kidnappings would continue.  No surprise here – the public likes success. The “revolving door” policy of arresting terrorists just to free them again.
 
Nevertheless, there is a downside to Hannibal; what tends to happen is similar to “Pinchas the zealot”,  Both, for the most part, can cause one to go against proper human behavior. In the famous passage in the Torah, Pinchas took the spear and killed the two who rebelled against G-d. Today, however, one can not be a true zealot. One, often, sub-conciencly, has ulterior   motives. Just because one thinks he has the love of G-d on his mind doesn’t give him the license and permission to act as he pleases. However, though, that is what tends to happen. When the flag of G-d is raised, with a little too much enthusiasm,  sensetivity to others takes a back seat. Therefore one misapplies  the word zealot. 
  Similarly,  the hanibal procedure can stretch out ones ability to pull the trigger unjustly giving him permission to murder.
 
Rabbi Beryl Wien, noted historian and lecturer comments on the dilemma of captive soldiers:
 “The Israeli army and government has had to deal with this painful problem quite a number of times over the past decades. Its main purpose, in the past, has always been to return the captive home in the best condition possible. Great debate has always accompanied this situation and policy and I am grateful that such terrible decisions are not mine to make. Many have said that the past prices paid were “exorbitant.” Others say that the price was worthwhile and justified. Perhaps only Heaven itself can decide on such impossible Hobbesian choices. 
Jewish history is replete with such incidents of hostages and captives. In the thirteenth century, the great rabbi Meir of Rottenburg, was taken hostage by one of the local dukes. Rabbi Meir was one of the great Ashkenazic scholars of the Middle Ages. He was the mentor and teacher of Rabbi Asher ben Yechiel (Rosh) the greatest of the latter Tosafists and one of the basic decisors of halachic law. The duke demanded a great ransom for the release of Rabbi Meir. The Jewish communities of the area, out of their great love and respect for Rabbi Meir and their loyalty and honor to Torah scholars, were prepared to pay this exorbitant ransom. However, Rabbi Meir himself forbade the Jews from so doing, arguing, undoubtedly correctly, that payment of the ransom would only encourage the duke to repeat his evil deed with even Rabbi Meir himself becoming the victim a second time. Under his mentor’s advice, Rabbi Asher fled the German area and took up residence in Toledo in Spain. The duke did not relent on his extortionist demands and eventually Rabbi Meir passed away in the prison of the castle of the duke. The duke then demanded the very same exorbitant ransom for the release of the body of Rabbi Meir for Jewish burial, also a cardinal principle and commandment in Jewish life and law. Again, according to the wishes of Rabbi Meir as he expressed them during his last years of life, the ransom was not paid. The duke held the body for ransom for thirteen years. Eventually, a very wealthy Jew from Mainz came to a settlement with the duke and Rabbi Meir was buried in the ancient Jewish cemetery of Mainz. Next to his grave lies the body of the wealthy Jew who obtained the release of Rabbi Meir’s remains. These two graves in the Jewish cemetery remained a place of Jewish visitation and veneration even until our very day.  The problem of an “exorbitant” price always remained within the Jewish community and apparently remains so until our day. Judaism abhors simplistic answers to very complicated problems and issues. There has never been a simple answer to the question of ransoming Jewish prisoners or hostages. There obviously is no simple answer to this issue today. We can only pray for wisdom, patience, balanced behavior and Godly inspiration to help us arrive at the correct decisions in such matters, if and when, God forbid, they arise.”  The topic of the Hannibal procedure is a hot debate. One can give a legitimate argument for either side.
  
 
I went to drop off my shirts at the  cleaners the other day and the owner, David Chodjebekov had the most profound insights  on the topic. David, an Israeli, who served in the Army as well as being a former soccer player, shook his head with a grin as I mentioned the pros and the cons of the topic. He said to me ” how can you give a halachic ruleing? Once your in war everything is different. Every move you make is made on instinct. One doesn’t have time to think of what my superiors expect. Its an emotionally charged moment. ”
 Perhaps that’s the reason the Torah is very delicate when discussing a soldier who captures a beautiful enemy. He desires her and wants to make her his wife. The Torah un-charachtaristicly  permits it however with a number of stipulations. The Torah knows as time passes and he returns home with the intense atmosphere behind him he will act differently seeing her in a different environment.
 
David asked me ” I know you’re very good friends with my cousins since childhood”. In (a) time of need would you help them?” I said “of course! I have  a great concern for them; I consider them as if they’re my brothers; when they hurt I feel the pain”.
 He said “(a) soldier feels the same but on a more intense level. They eat together, sleep together, laugh, cry together and form a very strong bond over the course of time. They are protecting their country but even more so, protecting each other. They’re prepared to die for their country and for the most part take the bullet for their comrade.”  
  “One should know” he said “One cannot negotiatefor hostages with Arabs. For the most part, if one doesn’t capitalize on this small window of opportunity, by rescuing them then and there, then their as good as dead. We have to try any desperate measure to get them back dead or alive at that very moment. Even retrieving the soldiers bodies, from the Arabs, is a humiliating task”.
 He said” I do not believe one can compare the zealot to the soldier. At this very critical and emotionally charged moment one’s survival instincts are on. When one is in a state of fear there is no evil inclination. Man is sincere in his actions when fear is upon him. The soldier is risking his life  to bring back his friend. Love for your fellow Jew is in the forefront. Its not an issue of  being cruel to your fellow Jew Quite the opposite its loving your fellow Jew like yourself at the highest level. 

Va’etchanan/Nachamu

First Portion
* This Parsha reminds me of my great grandfather, and many like him, that when arriving in the land of Israel in the late 1800’s, would kiss the ground and thank G-d for having been privileged to be there. They actually found his and my great-great grandfather’s grave in Har Hazetim recently which was under Arab control. Unfortunately, it wasn’t so with our leader, as we see in the beginning passages. Moshe prays to G-d intensely, to overturn a decree that he shall not enter the Promised land. The Chasam Sofer holds that G-d did indeed listen to Moshe’s prayer. We have a rule under certain circumstances prayer accomplishes half. Moshe prayed, “Let me please pass over and see.” (Devarim 3:25) and the prayers were answered in that G-d told Moshe “see with your eyes, for you will not pass over this Jordan.” G-d answered part of the prayer regarding seeing, but not the part of entering the land. There are many new insights we can derive from these passages; the power of prayer is one. G-d tells Moshe to stop praying for if he prayed a little more, G-d would have to negate on his oath that he will not enter the land. Another crucial point of these passages as the Ibn Ezra relates is that the main purpose here was to endear Eretz Yisrael – the land of Israel – to the Jewish people. If the people would be understanding enough to appreciate the land in the way expressed by Moshe’s prayer, they would surely keep the mitzvot (commandments) in order not to be exiled from their land. One question is asked, if he so desired the benefits of the land why is it not mentioned that he became satisfied from its fruits? He could have ordered out. I guess take out wasn’t as popular then like it is here in New York. From here  we see that there is an added benefit besides the physical. The Shelah mentions that the air of Eretz Yisrael makes one wise. It is there that one receives the crown of Torah. Perhaps, Abarbenal adds, this is why our Parsha begins and ends with the topic of the land of Israel, with the giving of the Torah in the middle.
* “Do not add nor subtract from my commandments.” Many Sages comment how an extremely important commandment this is. It is self-preservation par excellence. Human nature is such that one gravitates and alters things during the course of time. Although it’s inevitable that modern technology has altered our lives, however the Torah is designed to withstand the changes and many of the core laws are performed as our ancestors did thousands of years ago.
 
Second Portion
* “There you will serve other G-ds.” Once the new generations will be removed from the revelation at Sinai, then they will be more susceptible to stray. Moshe prophesizes that generations to come will try to gain acceptance from the non-Jews at the expense of our tradition. This happened many times through the course of history. Rabbi Beryl Wien, a famous historian, explains when Jews have no respect to their host countries then assimilation is at a bare minimum. However, if Jews look up to their host countries, whether in education, culture, fashion/style, then assimilation rises. The assimilation is at 60% in the US.
 
Third Portion
* City of refuge, where if one accidentally kills a fellow Jew, which was designed by Moshe in Reuben’s territory, the town of Betsar. Afterwards, Moshe designed the Town of Ramos in the territory of Gad and Golan, Menashe’s territory on the eastern side of the Jordan.
 
Fourth Portion
* After the Israelites were receptive to Moshe’s criticism, he then repeated the Ten Commandments. One who is open and eager to learn will advance tremendously. So, Moshe thought it’s a perfect opportunity for the nation to hear. It’s important to note, many who were present did not hear the revelation at Sinai. That generation died over the course of forty years.
* One of the differences of this version and the one in the book of Shemot is in the commandment of Shabbat. There it says Zachor – remember the Shabbat. In this version, it says Shamor – be careful of transgressing the Shabbat. There is both a positive and negative commandment regarding the Shabbat. It’s not enough to just sleep and lounge around in pajamas for 24 hours. One has to enjoy the Shabbat with all its rich traditions. The Shabbat table has to be performed with respect and dignified manner; that is zachor – remembering.
 
Fifth Portion
* Passing the tradition is crucial in Judaism. It’s a big aveira – sin – to break the chain. The parent/child relationship is important and should be handled with a great deal of responsibility. Education in Judaism is key. Let’s say, though, one didn’t have religious parents whom followed the tradition, or for that matter, if one doesn’t have parents at all to learn from. I know a fine person who grew up without a father and yet had the most amazing Shabbat table one could imagine, week after week. This person will have a tremendous reward after he passes on. Those people have an added test in life. So if they keep the tradition of their ancestors once removed, they will reap tremendous rewards.
 
Sixth Portion
* After the war, they gathered all the older toddler orphans and they wanted to tell which one is Jewish (boys are easy to tell). How are they able to determine if they’re Jewish?  Answer: scream out to them SHEMA YISRAEL, most likely, if they are Jewish, they’ll answer back: “HASHEM ELOKANU, HASHEM ECHAD.” That is the power of the Shema. It’s the first phrase Jewish parents teach their toddlers.
 
Seventh Portion
* G-d emphasizes separation from the non-Jews and reiterates the seven nations that are currently living in the land would be bad neighbors and should be removed from the country. Israel should be pure and only marry among themselves is repeated. The Jews are now leaving the secluded comfort zone of the desert and will be faced with new challenges in their homeland.

Daring us to take the next step-Shema Yisrael

Teachings of Rabbi Yissachar Frand, contributing Esther Matmon, Dr. Joseph Blum.

When my father’s last chemotherapy / hormone contraption did not work, I turned to the doctors and asked “What’s next?”. They answered me: ” It’s time to pray; there’s nothing more we can do”. In other words the doctors are saying “we are not in control anymore; now, its up to G-d”. Well, I got news for you, they were never in control. G-d pulls the strings. Although, we have to do our effort, that’s important. However, at the end of the day, all matters are in G-d’s hands, from the inception of life to the very last breath.

 There was an interesting story I heard from my wife I would like to share:

 Three Israeli friends went to visit someone. The host places in front of his guests watermelon, as a CHIBUD KAL-light refreshments and informs them “I have to attend, briefly, to something important, in the next room. Please make a bracha and help yourselves”. One should always show hospitality by presenting chibud kal-light refreshments when guests enter your house. The three guests, who were not very knowledgeable in Jewish religious matters, were puzzled on what to say. “What bracha do we recite for watermelon?” one asked the other. “I think its BOREH PRI HA’ETZ” one said. “No, I think its “BOREH PRI HA’ADAMA” said the other.  The third person said confidently “Oh, I know, it’s SHAHAKOL NIYA B’DVARO and I’ll tell you why”. He eagerly wanted to tell his story. “When I was in the war in Gaza in 2008, I was operating a tank in combat with a team of two others.  We were firing at the enemy however missing our targets. As a result they were making advances on us. It was getting quite scary. “Why are we missing our targets”, we asked each other, alarmingly?! One of us desperately said” I think we have to make a bracha before we fire”; anxiously, we allagreed, “Yes, but what bracha? Oh, I know, when I was a little boy, my grandfather used to give me candy and say “Here, get the candy, make a bracha SHEHAKOL NIYA B’DVARO! Yeah, yeah lets try it!! So when we spotted our target we started to shout BARUCH ATA HASHEM ELOKANU MELECH HAOLAM SHEHAKOL NIYA BIDVARO!!!!————–BOOOOM!!!. What do you know, it hit the target!!  Lets try it again…. BARUCH ATA HASHEM ELOKANU MELECH HAOLAM……..BOOOM!!!!… Once again, It hit the target  Again!!!…and again.  We, then, were able to successfully reach home and accomplish our mission.

  So you see, if the bracha works on destroying our enemy surely it will work on the watermelon.”

  There are two very important insights one can derive from the incidences above. The first, we see many times, whether in our history or from our own personal experiences, our Jewish nature is such that we tend to gravitate to G-d at certain times. Extreme positive or negative occurrences, in these cases, the moment of gloom and despair, automatically,  is set to autopilot. The soldiers at their time of desperation reached out to their Creator.

 I’m not sure if its medical protocol where the doctor addresses the patient’s family by saying “now it’s in G-d’s hands” when he doesn’t have the answers. Perhaps doctors are reaching out to G-d, out of frustration, proclaiming “You run the show…tell me what to do!!”

   Secondly, curiously,if by any chance, the blast would not have hit the target, would the soldier have maintained their faith in G-d?  Well, I’m not sure. Perhaps, seeking G-d at those intense moments is just a temporary first reaction.   Who knows, perhaps the next step, if they have continued to miss their target, would have been to scream out “Simon says” before firing and, maybe then, if successful, the soldier/guest, would have suggested to recite that instead of shahakol for the watermelon.

 So in other words, perhaps, it’s a temporary leap of faith where if it doesn’t go your way they tend to go to a different direction.

Interestingly, whenever a Jew experiences danger or triumph, he turns to G-d and the one phrase that personifies the connection,  is the SHEMA. In this week’s parsha we read the famous powerful catch phrase that all Jews know SHEMA YISRAEL HASHEM ELOKANU HASHEM ECHAD. This phrase is the embodiment of faith.   Despite the plurality of our universe, the Shema stresses that all the forces in nature (denoted by the name Elokim or Elokeinu) emanate from a single, Source (Hashem) – “Hashem Elokeinu Hashem echad”. He is the Indivisible One. And accordingly, the Jewish people seek to become one with Him.

  Shema is essential to Jewish belief because this is the basis for Acceptance of G-d’s Absolute Sovereignty that forms the foundation for all divine service by the Children of Israel. The universe was fashioned solely for kavod Hashem, the glorification of G-d (Avot 6:11). It acts as a constant reminder for the Jew to always involve G-d in all his endeavors. The Children of Israel are dedicated to spreading the Name of G-d in the world – even at pain of death such as Rabbi Akiva’s heroic Shema just before the Romans murdered him (See Talmud, Brochos 61b), as well as the example we used in our previous newsletters of Rabbi Fiefer. Rabbi Fiefer was a high school Rabbi in my Yeshiva, YHSQ. His wife and daughter were taken away before his eyes and later killed by the Nazis. He also, said the Shema when presumably was about to die.

  Intriguingly, one has to wonder why we cover our eyes when saying this important prayer. There are many beautiful explanations which, some, we actually mentioned.  Recently, though, I heard something riveting by Rabbi Yissachar Frand which is worth sharing.

  When Yaakov, our forefather, met his beloved son, Yosef, after 22 years, when he thought he was dead, Yosef emotionally embraced him while Yaacov was so grateful to G-d that he covered his hand on his eyes and recited the Shema.

  A little time before their famous emotional reunion as Yaakov was about to make his journey to Egypt, G-d appeared to him and told him: “I am the G-d – G-d of your father. Have no fear of descending to Egypt, for I shall establish you as a great nation there. I shall descend with you to Egypt, and I shall also surely bring you up; and Yoseph shall place his hand on your eyes.” [Bereshis 46:3-4]. Regarding the words “and Yosef shall place his hand on your eyes” the Zohar comments: “This is what the secret of Krias Shma is all about.”

 In order to fully understand the Zohar, Rabbi Frand brings a vital but mystifying passage in the Torah.

The Kol Aryeh cites his great teacher the Chasam Sofer (who lived 1762- 1839 in Hungary), who explains the Almighty’s answer to Moshe’s request “Show me, please, your glory” [Shmos 33:18]. This incident occurred when Moshe was on Mount Sinai meeting with G-d to receive the Torah on behalf of the Jewish people. Based on the Gemara [Brachos 7a], Moshe was thereby asking the profound and age-old question: “Why are there righteous people who suffer and wicked people who prosper?” The Almighty retorts back: ” You will see My back, but My face may not be seen.” [Shmot 33:21-23]. The Chasam Sofer explains the idea of seeing G-d from the back but not from the front allegorically. “My face may not be seen” means “understanding things while they are happening”. Man is incapable – from his perspective – of understanding the idea of the righteous suffering and the wicked prospering.Only if man “stands with G-d” and can see all of history from beginning to end will he have the ability to understand things in context and appreciate that everything is in fact for the best. “My back” means in retrospect – from the rear. The belief that G-d always does what is good, is essentially what we say when we recite the Shma Yisrael. Hear O Israel, the L-rd (Hashem) our G-d (Elo- keinu), the L-rd (Hashem) is One. We are familiar with the idea that the word Elokeinu (our Elo-kim) is the Name of G-d that represents His attribute of Judgment. The name Hashem  (Yud-Kay-Vov-Kay) is the Name that represents His attribute of Mercy. The interpretation of the declaration of Shma Yisrael is the following: “Understand O Israel the Name Hashem (Yud-Kay-Vov-Kay) representing mercy and compassion is identical with the Name – Elokeinu – our G-d of Justice; it is all One. He sometimes appears Merciful and sometimes as a Strict Judge, but we must believe that ultimately it all emerges from the name Hashem – the Name associated with Mercy. The Talmud states [Berachos 13b] that when Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi recited  the  Shma Yisrael, he would cover his eyes. Based on this passage, the Tur in Shulchan Aruch rules – and this is the universal practice – that every Jew should cover his eyes when reciting Krias Shma. Why do we do this? Because sometimes, when we try to say Hashem Elokeinu Hashem Echad [the L-rd our G- d the L-rd is One], attesting to our belief that the attribute of Mercy and the attribute of Justice are all the same, there are too many troubles right before our eyes to allow us to truly believe this testimony. It becomes difficult for us to say that everything is for the good. Therefore, we cover our eyes so that, symbolically at least, we do not see all the troubles.

The Kol Aryeh states if we want an example of this concept – that everything that the Almighty does – regardless of appearances – is truly all for the good, we can find it in the life of the righteous Yosef. His life personifies this belief. He was hated by his brothers, thrown into a pit, sold as a slave, defamed and framed by his master’s wife, and put into a dungeon where he languished for 12 years. What was he thinking through all of this?

However, eventually, because he was in this dungeon in Egypt, he became known to Pharaoh, he became the second in command in Egypt, he sustained all of Egypt, and eventually saved his brothers and family from starvatio n. In the end, Yosef saw how all that happened to him indeed was for the best.

Therefore, G-d told Yaakov not to fear as you downgrade to Egypt. Although Yaakov perceived prophetically that this would be the beginning of a long and bitter exile, G-d reassured him by saying, “Yosef will place his hands over your eyes.” In other words, G-d was reminding Yaakov of all that happened to Yosef and that despite the trauma and troubles, all had worked out for the best in the end. Yosef personified the idea that apparent troubles can foreshadow great and positive outcomes.

“Yosef will cover your eyes.” The Zohar states – “this is the secret of Shma Yisrael.”

Now we understand the Zohar. The secret of Krias Shma is the unification of Hashem [G-d of Mercy] with Elokeinu [our G-d of Judgment]. This is sometimes hard to perceive unless we cover our eyes. Yosef (and all that happened to him in his life) should be our metaphorical model for covering our eyes and allowing ourselves to be convinced of the truth of this declaration of unification of G-d’s attributes.

  The soldier/guest reached out to G-d in a moment of despair, like we all do, because that is what the pure soul of a Jew gravitates to. However the next step is most critical in reaching true and powerful faith. This is personified by the Shema Yisrael, where we learn everything we experience is for the good. However, we’re human and at times it’s hard to comprehend the negative. The soldiers in the tank reciting the bracha of shahakol are alive, however, there have been soldiers that have perished in this year’s war in Gaza. How painful it is for their families. Let us cover our eyes and say Shma and perhaps G-d will answer our prayers. Perhaps the attribute of mercy will stand out and Jews around the world will not see more anguish, Amein!

Parshat Devarim Highlights

First Portion: * Rebuke is as popular as a bad stomach ache: no one likes rebuke. Apparently, 37 days before Moshe died, he began rebuking the nation; what a way to go. I tip my hat to Moshe, our leader and Rabbi, how he was able to keep the audience interested and then to come back for more abuse the very next day. There are those who like getting pounded on the head; they would rather receive the stick than the carrot. The Israelites, remarkably, listened for thirty-seven days! How, in the world did he manage that? There are ways of saying things and there are ways of saying things. One popular answer is that he never mentioned the crime, just the crime scene. He mentioned the place where the transgression happened; however, not the transgression. Also in the middle of the rebuke, Moshe starts to bless the people. The sensitivity Moshe showed of smacking one minute and being nicey-nice the next was a stroke of genius.

* The book of Devarim is known to be a review of the previous four, with the exception of a few new commandments like Yibum, which we were introduced in the incident with Yehuda and Tamar in the book of Bereshit, and the laws of slandering a virgin bride, divorcing a woman, conspiring witness, etc. Therefore, many call this book Mishnah Torah – review of the Torah. The commentary, Abarbanel, says the book of Devarim is meant to explain those matters about which doubt had arisen in the minds of the Jews and thus need a special explanation.

Second Portion: * In this section, Moshe emphasizes the importance of a fair and righteous judicial system. Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz z”l once pointed out the importance in which both parties should be present when the case is being presented before the judge. The individual not present is at a tremendous disadvantage and the judge, on a subconscious level, would favor the one present in the room.

Third Portion: * Moshe brings up an uneasy memory of the spy incident. The Israelites wanted to be assured that the promised land they were getting was indeed special. So they requested spies to probe the land for reassurance. The spies came back with a tainted, biased, self-centered report in which they instilled fear, paranoia, and doubt in the Jewish nation.

Fourth Portion: * After realizing their mistake with the spy incident, the Israelites insisted to fight an ill-advised war with the Amorites, the neighboring country to the new promised land. Strangely, as Moshe recollects, he compares the incident to getting stung by a bee. Just like bees die after they sting, so too the Amorites after they stung the Jews, they died. Apparently, the Israelites won the war. However, it was a war of nuisance and menacing pain similarly to getting stung and feeling very uneasy. Although it was considered a punishment for the Israelites, getting stung and bruised, nevertheless, they were victorious. G-d wanted them to realize they had sinned. However, he wanted them to feel superior to the enemies and prove the spies wrong.

Fifth Portion: * G-d instructs Moshe not to conquer the land of Amon, Moav, and Seir. This is a reward for Lot, whose descendants are Amon and Moav, for keeping silent and not telling Pharaoh that Sarah is Abraham’s wife. Seir, one of the descendants of Eisav, permitted the Jews to buy provisions from his people. Moreover, G-d rewarded Eisav’s descendants because of the tremendous respect Eisav gave his father, “You should live by the sword”. Furthermore, G-d warned the Israelites not to antagonize and respond to Eisav’s descendants militarily because of the bracha Yitzchak gave to his son Eisav. The Jews should conceal themselves until his wrath subsides.

Sixth Portion: * When G-d says to hold back and don’t provoke, one listens and when G-d instructs us to be the aggressor and fight, by George, we fight. The Israelites went to war with Sichon, King of the Amorites and Og, King of Bashan. However, Moshe was hesitant to fight Og because of his past merits.

Seventh Portion: * Moshe concluded, “I divided the lands on the Eastern side of the Jordan, which we captured from Sichon and Og among Reuben, Gad, and half of Menashe. I warned them, “Even though you have received your portions, you may not remain here. It’s preferable you march in the forefront of the Israelite army to cross the Jordan and conquer the land. I encourage my successor Yehoshua. You have seen what G-d has done to Sichon and Og. Have trust that he will likewise deliver the thirty-one kings of the land of Canaan into your hands”.

The reason why we’re suffering so much-Tisha b’Av

 Many of our sages reason that Yom Hashoa which commemorates the tragic deaths of  six million Jews during the Holocaust should not be commemorated on this day. They say we should mourn the deaths of those Jews who perished during that dark period of our history on Tisha b’Av. It is written in many of our holy books that the source of all our problems stems from that tragic day. All our suffering, all the Jewish blood that was spilled through the years throughout the world is connected to Tisha b’Av.

It seems like everybody has their personal Tisha b’Av.

There have been many wars fought by our brethren, in our homeland, over the last 50 years however this war that we’re fighting today has touched a very sensitive cord. When the three boys were kidnapped and killed it was very hard to comprehend what had transpired, especially after  a  rally was held on their behalf and one of the mothers spoke so emotionally. Many people came and showed support. It was solidarity at its best. However, seeing those clips of the rally and knowing now, in hindsight, that those boys were already dead a week before gave  many an uneasy chill.

  Over the course of history we’ve always had bad luck the weeks leading up to Tisha b’Av.  One of the reasons why we’re suffering so much is the result of what  transpired during the second Temple era.  The Temple  was destroyed due to baseless hatred which stems from not giving people the benefit of the doubt.

 Life is a learning experience and there was an incident where I learned a very valuable lesson about people. I guess one can say my maturity level  increased a few notches that very day. As a high school student I always felt that I was never understood by my teachers and Rabbis.  Some students were  not able to relate to the Rabbis of  our high school who came from old Eastern European, Israeli Sephardic  and American born but with religious Boro Park  backgrounds.    We were very proud to be born and bred in America and found the authority figures to be lacking in the culture we students were accustomed to.  Although our parent were  Israeli Bukharian, Persian and many from Eastern European    immigrants, we students were seeking a connection to the seductive American culture. As a result, perhaps deep down we were hurt that our needs were not addressed by the school faculty. Therefore, we  rebelled and did not take the learning curriculum or its teachers & administrators seriously.

 However, one particular day things changed just slightly. It was Yom Hashoah and the entire school was  asked to attend the ceremony. It was mandatory, as almost everything is in high school. The auditorium was filled but I did not see the guest speaker. That’s because there was no guest speaker. One of the old eastern European Rabbis, Rabbi Fiefer, was going to address the crowd.  “Wonderful”, I sighed;’ what is he going to speak about?” I said to myself with sarcastic annoyance.

As he got up to the podium, with his thin high pitched voice and thick accent, the short pudgy Rabbi began to speak. “Boys I am a holocaust survivor

I was married and had a young daughter when the Nazis YEMACHSHEMAM took us all away to the camps. I never saw my wife and daughter again. They perished in the camps”

 The students were stunned. We never knew  Rabbi Fiefer was married before and had a daughter. We knew he had one adopted son who actually attended our school. I was taken aback by the hurt this man must have experienced losing his family. I was imagining the Rabbi playing with his daughter and the next moment having to say goodbye to her abruptly, with tears in his eyes, as she was being pulled away with her mother by the Nazi monsters. This Rabbi went through hell and actually, in a sense, still was. One thinks “oh he’ll just pick up the pieces and move on”. However I’m sure his daughter’s laughter and tears are memories going through his mind constantly. We have to believe that it was G-d’s plan and it was designed that way. I’m sure that heshmulps us cope with any tragedy and it most likely helped him. Nevertheless, we’re human and its difficult. We never had experienced such atrocities living in our safe haven of Queens with our parents. I couldn’t imagine how this man was able to put that memory aside and teach a class.

 Although we still couldn’t relate to Rabbi Fiefer and learning was always difficult in his class, we had a lot more respect for him. No one misbehaved anymore. We did not want to get him upset in class because perhaps it might jar some other difficult memories. Yom Hashoah was a learning experience that year.

 My  learning experiences didn’t end when I graduated. Rabbi Jack Zucker was the executive director  of finance of the school. We, as students, always thought he was very aloof. He rarely smiled and never  interacted with the students. Some of the student found the slight coldness as offensive and they would make jokes about it. Boys will be boys especially high school boys and the jokes can be immature and at times vicious.

 One of the boys who was a good number of years older then me worked for Rabbi Zucker  after he graduated in the school finance office for a year or two. His parents and mine knew each other.

 Tragically this boy later on in life, in his thirties, married and with kids, was murdered.  Many of us from our community attended his funeral.  One can imagine it was a very sad funeral. However we did not anticipate what we saw next. Yes, it was difficult to see the kids crying “Daddy”. That was predictable. However, we kept on hearing loud weeping from the far corner of the Shul. After a while we realized it was Rabbi Jack Zucker. He was crying  uncontrollably. The friends who went to our high school were surprised to say the least by the uncharacteristic display of emotions of Rabbi Zucker over his former employee.  Perhaps Rabbi Zucker was  a father figure to the boy; apparently the boys father past away at  a young age.   It seemed like the tin man actually had a heart. One never knows what kindness one does and how he does it, as he did with this boy. We judged him completely incorrectly. Later on I met Rabbi Zucker’s sister who said “Jack wasn’t at all like that, (cold) when you got to know him. He has a good heart and a great sense of humor”.

So much for high school legends

 Rabbi Ilan Feder  a high school Rabbi at Yeshiva Chofets Chaim once  experimented with his class by giving each member a Waldo puzzle and asked each student to circle one item in the picture that they find most interesting. (American Puzzle Factory produced a series of Where’s Waldo? jig-saw puzzles between 1989 and 1991. They ranged in size from 100 pieces to 550 pieces. These puzzles were releases of classic Waldo scenes from Where’s Waldo?, ) Astonishingly,  very few students picked the same item.  Considering these student come from the same background. Most of their parents are Rabbis living in Queens. There are all the same age.  One would figure  perhaps out of a class of 20, 12 or 13 would choose the same figure.  However, we see how each individual is different and one can not judge their fellow because they’ll never be in his shoes. We’re designed to be different

One of the aspects of judging one favorably is preventing one from speaking bad about someone (lashon harah).

The Chofetz Chaim says that most occurrences of Lashon Harah happen because the violator did not give the benefit of doubt (lo danu l’kaf zechut) to the person about whom he spoke. The root of the problem thus does not start with one’s mouth. The problem ultimately begins with a negative assessment. A person makes a judgment or assessment about someone and the problem is in the assessment. If, writes the Chofetz Chaim, people would always take the trouble of giving their fellow man the benefit of the doubt, Lashon Hara would not begin.

 Rav Chaim Shmuelivitz points out that the punishment of the Spies for speaking Lashon Hara against Eretz Yisrael was “a year for each day” — forty years corresponding to the forty days that the spies were in the Land of Israel. But that calculation is problematic. They did not speak Lashon Hara for 40 days. They only spoke Lashon Hara one day, the day they returned from their 40 day mission! The Lashon Hara that they spoke is covered in a handful of pasukim. At most, it could not have taken more than 10 minutes to speak those words. So why were they punished with forty years? The answer is that the punishment did not just come for the speaking of Lashon Hara — it came for the negative judgment as well. The negative assessments and perceptions that they developed during the 40 days of travel in the Holy Land caused them to be punished 40 years for 40 days. This, says the Chafetz Chaim, is where the battle lies. The battle lies in training ourselves not to jump to negative conclusions. Lashon Hara is not merely a crime of speech. It is a crime of perception. The distance between character assessment and character assassination is very small.

 An important note is that sometimes one is so careful to judge his fellow favorably that he is taken advantage of. Sympathy is tremendous but it should be practiced with intelligence. At the end of the day misplaced sympathy is dangerous as we are witnessing in the current Gaza war.

  There is a practical advantage that a person accrues by judging his fellow man positively. The way in which a person treats and judges his friend is the way that he will be judged in Heaven. The Mishneh [Avot 3:16] teaches that “Nifrain min ha’Adam m’daato v’shelo m’daato” a person receives his punishment in ways that he knows about and in ways that he does not know about. The Ba’al Shem Tov (1698-1760) explains the idea that a person will be punished without his knowledge (shelo m’daato) as follows: If a person witnesses an incident involving his fellow man and jumps to the conclusion that his friend is a thief, a liar, a wicked person – the “witness” will be judged similarly in the World of Truth. Rav Pam cites a famous story of Dovid HaMelech [King David], who took Bat Sheva as his wife. Bat Sheva had previously been the wife of Uriah the Chittie. (Uriah was in the army of David and the practice back then was that soldiers going out to battle would first divorce their wives.) Despite the fact that she was technically not a married woman, our Sages note that this was an unbecoming act on the part of David HaMelech. Natan HaNavi [Nathan the Prophet] came to David and told him a hypothetical story of a rich man and a poor man. The poor man had only one little sheep, while the rich man had everything. The rich man, however, came and took this sole possession of the poor man away from him. Natan asked the King for a ruling in this situation. “David became very angry and said ‘As G-d Lives, this man who did this is deserving of death!'” [Samuel II 12:5]. The prophet then responded “You are that man.” He declared that David would be judged according to his decree in the hypothetical case. “The very same sword that you proclaimed upon him will come back to haunt you and your household.” The Baal Shem Tov says that this dialogue between David HaMelech and Natan HaNavi is exactly how it will happen to each of us in the World of Truth. We will come before the Heavenly Court and we will be given a ‘hypothetical case’ to judge. We will be told “There was this person and he did such and such. He desecrated G-d’s Name; He was not honest; and so forth. What is his fate?” We will show righteous indignation and offer all the appropriate condemnation of such a person. We will proclaim him deserving of harsh punishment. And then we will be shown that we, in fact, committed all of these sins and that we just declared our own fate.

That is the result of being unwilling to give people the benefit of the doubt. Such an attitude will eventually come back to haunt us. This is the meaning of the Mishnah that says that a person will be punished “without his knowledge”. We would not have imagined that this particular trait of ours would come back to haunt us and seal our own fates.

The Gemara [Shabbath 127b] records that “One who judges his fellow man favorably, will in turn be judged favorably”. This is more than “measure for measure”; this is just the way it happens. The way we ‘rule’ (pasken) about others – the same words, the same approach – is the way that we will be judged.

The next time that we have a doubt about someone, let us not immediately jump to conclusions. It is well known that people often like to jump to conclusions, specifically regarding the more distinguished members of the community – the Rabbis, the Torah Scholars, the leaders of the community. The “bigger” one is, the more people are apt to jump to the opposite conclusion rather than giving them the benefit of the doubt. However, one day this tendency will, Heaven forbid, come back to haunt us.

Perhaps the solidarity that was shown at the rally for the murdered boys was  a slight push forward toward reconciliation with our brethren toward  a more everlasting unity. Perhaps G-d will see us merging together more often and end the Tisha b’Av incidences. Perhaps Rabbi Fiefer z’l and people like him will not be separated from loved ones, perhaps no one will shed tears of grief anymore, only tears of joy….Amen

Parshat Ki Tisa

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 Parshat Ki Tisa
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In This Issue
Parsha Ki Tisa Highlights
Touching Hearts
A Different Kind Of Hero
The Importance of Washing Hands
Kid’s Section by Rabbi Gedalia Fogel
Candle lighting Times

Parshat Ki Tisa Highlights 

deep understanding of a portion of our prayers
 

Introduction: WHY DO BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO THE RIGHTEOUS AND THE WICKED HAVE IT EASY?
This week we read a passage in the Torah (Shemot 31,16) which we recite every Shabbat day, which is “VESHAMRU” the kiddush blessing over the wine at the Shabbat day meal.
When we give a present to someone, one must say (with a smile) “G-d is sanctifying you”.
G-d said to Moshe, “I’m giving you and to the nation a secret special gift and that is Shabbat”. “There are many wonderful things about this day, and some deep spiritual levels can be reached on Shabbat.
It says in Tractate Sanhedren “Angels have six wings and every day of the week, another wing sings praises to G-d. However on Shabbat it’s our turn to lead the concert”. HEY YOU OUT THERE, HOPE YOU CAN HOLD A TUNE!! Throughout the Shabbat, our prayers consist of Psalms and praises which have some of the nicest and most memorable tunes to them.
If one notices in the SHACHARIT-morning prayers before we recite the SHEMA, we recite the prayer of BARCHU, YOTZER KOL. We recite a similar prayer before Shema during our weekday prayers. However, on Shabbat there is a slightly different variation. We add “HAKOL YODUCHA HAKOL YEHSHABECHUCHA  VEHAKOL” etc. It seems like we recite the word HAKOL-all, the whole picture, many times throughout the Shabbat prayers.

 What intention did the sages want us to have when we say HAKOL in our prayers?
We once mentioned that there are four types of life in the world. The lowest level is an inanimate object, called DOMEM. DOMEM consists of rocks, earth, a table etc. Next level up is TZOMEACH-vegetation, for example, flowers. A step higher is CHAI which consists of animals. The highest level is us, Humans, we are called MEDABER. The literal translation means to speak.

Let’s take soil, which is the inanimate object of DOMEM, and plant seeds in it. Within a short period of time, plants and vegetation will grow. This is called TZOMEACH. The animals, CHAI, then proceed to eat the vegetation. Man, MEDABER, then captures the animal, slaughters it, and then consumes it. Now man has nourishment to complete his mission in life and be perfect.  However, the time necessary to achieve perfection was spread out awhile. It’s also interesting to realize how everything is connected and everything flows to one destination, one cause, us.

RAMCHAL teaches us that it’s important to have the right perspective in life. He says that we have to train ourselves to think that there is a broader picture and we should not get caught up in one particular event.

 This week we read in the Parsha that Moshe, when he was up on the mountain receiving the Torah, asked G-d if He can reveal His presence. G-d responded “no one has seen my face and lived”. Many commentaries give various explanations as to what exactly Moshe was requesting. Some suggest that perhaps it was the ability to see the “whole picture clearer”, fulfilling the mandate of Ramchal.
 Returning to Shabbat, G-d said to Moshe “I have a special gift and that is Shabbat”. WHAT DID G-D MEAN BY THIS STATEMENT?
The Malbim says that the pleasures of OLAM HABAH- the heavenly pleasures of the next world, cannot be attained as long as man lives and is connected to the physical body. Physicality acts as a divider to the real pleasures of the future. However, through Shabbat which is a sixtieth of OLAM HABAH, one can taste and feel what pleasure really is. We see that even the physicality taste better. Perhaps through the singing and the learning of Torah one can see through a lens the HAKOL- the whole clear picture.
THE MAIN THEMES OF THE PARSHA

CENSUSES- The unification of the people through the common giving of the half-shekel, combines the merits of the people, raising them to a higher level, and offering protection (atonement) to the individual.

THE GOLDEN CALF- Its hard to understand the episode of the Golden Calf. Having just experienced the Sinai Revelation and the miracles of the Exodus, how could the Chosen people have deteriorated so Quickly as to trade G-d’s glory for an Idol?
THE THIRTEEN ATTRIBUTES OF MERCY-We are introduced to this prayer which contains thirteen names and descriptions of G-d, all of them referring to his compassion in various situations. It is recited in a time of crises and would gaurantee to invoke his mercy

 

First Portion: * ‘When you take a census of the Israelites, each man shall give a ransom for himself to G-d so the census does not lead to plague’ (11:12)

What’s the connection between plague and census? Rashi and many commentaries say that the plague results from the evil eye – not from sin. The tally draws every individual from the general mass, establishing him as a separate unit so he’s judged independently. Therefore, plague strikes him more severely than if he were being watched as part of a community. As a result, G-d instructed Moshe to collect from each individual coins as opposed to counting the individual person. The custom remains today of not counting our brethren individually.

* The reason why a half a shekel is required is to show that G-d has forgiven the Israelites for the sin of the golden calf. They sinned after a half of day when Moshe didn’t return.

* Here is another example that the Torah is not in chronological order: The census took place after the sin of the golden calf which we will read later in the Parsha.

* G-d ordered that a large copper basin with spouts be constructed and put in the yard of the Mishkan. It was filled with water every morning, so the kohanim poured water over their hands and feet before commencing their task. This water was not meant to cleanse them for health hygiene purposes, but more for enhancing them spiritually and to cleanse themselves from impurities. The power of water can change and elevate one spiritually. Here is the source of washing hands whether for the morning ritual, meal ritual and bathroom rituals.

* The shemen hamishcha was prepared by taking numerous spices. Each spice was crushed separately; then they were blended and soaked in water so that their aroma would be absorbed in the water. Olive oil was added to the water, and the mixture was boiled until the water evaporated and only the spiced oil remained. That oil (oil of anointment) was preserved in a flask to be used for the purpose of anointing the kohen gadol and kings from the dynasty of David.

 

Second Portion: * The power of evil strikes again invoking an uneasy feeling that the Israelite leader, Moshe, is dead and therefore confusing the Jews in their calculation of when his return was to be. As a result, they came to their second-in-command, Moshe’s brother, Aharon, and demanded a new conduit, a new go-between to G-d. Apparently Aharon, feeling pressured, instructed them to build a golden calf. The steps Aharon comprised to get to this golden calf was difficult and he believed would take them some time. This delay, Aharon thought, would give Moshe the time needed to return before it was built. However, in their haste and enthusiasm, they finished it rather quickly.

* There is an expression ‘one sin leads to another sin’. Many sages comment that the celebration of the golden calf led to sexual misconduct.

* It’s not exactly clear what was Aharon’s role in this tragedy. The fact that he and his sons remained in the most coveted position in the nation indicates he was not at fault. Although, some commentaries say he did get punished for his role; they hint that there is a link between the sin of the golden calf and the death of Aharon’s two sons, Nadav and Avihu.

The fact, though that the incident occurred under his leadership; even though he personally was not involved, he has to take the responsibility. The captain is responsible for anything that occurs on the ship.

* Moshe breaks the tablets after returning from the mountain and seeing the Israelites in a state of sin. He then punishes the aigel worshipers with death and tests the Israelites with the waters of sotah. This was done by taking the golden calf and burning it; crushed the remains; mixed it with water; and had the Israelites drink it (the sotah was a married woman who was suspected by her husband of adultery. Her integrity was tested by having her drink specially prepared waters, causing her to perish if she was guilty).

 

Third Portion: * Moshe goes up the mountain a second time to get a second set of tablets.

 

Fourth Portion: * Moshe was only able to see the backside of G-d. Apparently seeing the front would be too much for a human to handle. Many commentaries ask what exactly did Moshe mean by saying ‘let me see your presence’.

 

Fifth Portion: * G-d reveals the thirteen attributes of mercy. He informs Moshe a method of guaranteeing mercy in which we invoke as the crux of our Yom Kippur prayers. We frequently apply the virtue of our forefathers Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov. However, these thirteen attributes, if said with proper concentration and sensitivity, will be very effective. Sephardic custom is to say it daily as well.

 

Sixth Portion: * Observing Pesach is mentioned.

* Here is the source of pidyon haben; the redeeming of the first-born. If a person becomes a father of a first born, he has to buy his baby back from the kohen.

* The holiday of Pesach is mentioned.

 

Seventh Portion: * The meeting with G-d on the mountain puts Moshe on the status of an angel. He didn’t sleep or eat for that period.

 Touching Hearts
I found this beautiful and inspiring story thanks to Nili Barocas Haimoff. Nili was a childhood friend. She was one of the little rascals, part of a gang that we were a part of. We were a small but intimate group of Bukharian families living in a very uncrowded late 60s and early 70’s Queens. She has a natural gift of spreading Torah, whether in her neighborhood, at work or on facebook. Nili continues to spread goodness in the world.
Touching hearts.

As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant.

It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X’s and then putting a big “F” at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child’s past records and she put Teddy’s off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.

Teddy’s first grade teacher wrote, “Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners… he is a joy to be around..”

His second grade teacher wrote, “Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle.”

His third grade teacher wrote, “His mother’s death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn’t show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren’t taken.”

Teddy’s fourth grade teacher wrote, “Teddy is withdrawn and doesn’t show much interest in school. He doesn’t have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class.”

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her holiday presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy’s. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper That he got from a grocery bag Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume.. But she stifled the children’s laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, “Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to.” After the children left, she cried for at least an hour.

On that very day,  she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her “teacher’s pets..”

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling* her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he’d stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor’s degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer…. The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.

Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last holiday together.

They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson’s ear, “Thank you Mrs. Thompson for* believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference.”

Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, “Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn’t know how to teach until I met you.”

(For you that don’t know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist Hospital in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)

Warm someone’s heart today. . . pass this along. I love this story so very much, I cry every time I read it. Just try to make a difference in someone’s life today? tomorrow? Just “do it”.

Random acts of kindness, I think they call it?

“Believe in Angels, then return the favor.”

The story is fiction but had been circulating in the 90’s.
This story reminds me of several girls that I knew who had attended Shevach High school and Prospect Park High school for girls. It’s a custom among the girls who attend Jewish schools to do kindness and volunteer to visit an assisted living facility in their spare time. The Chofetz Chaim Yeshiva also sends their students on Shabbat to conduct Jewish prayer services for the elderly.
 A friend of mine, Rafi Fuzieloff, told me over a conversation he had with his daughter. He was concerned that his daughter was not studying enough by attending these assisted living facilities. She said to her father, “isn’t that the main lesson of our Torah, to do CHESSED-KINDNESS”. She was involved in the homework of touching hearts.

A Different Kind Of Hero


 

One of the major questions in the Torah and a story line that’s difficult to comprehend, is how is it possible the Israelites, our ancestors, can sin with the golden calf after seeing so many miracles that G-d has bestowed on them? The whole Egypt experience, the plagues upon their persecutors, and the splitting of the sea was so mesmerizing that all the nations trembled upon hearing what had occurred. However, there were those who spoiled it for the rest. Perhaps an example of the most ineffectiveness of G-d’s revelation is the shameful and pathetic story of Micha. It says that he clung to his idol through the plagues of Egypt and the splitting of the sea. Can you imagine the audacity?

           We read with awe the sages words “even a maidservant was able, at the splitting of the Red Sea, to perceive of the Divine what Yechezkel ben Buzy was unable to grasp”. Our ancestors saw more firepower miracles during that generation, than in any time in history. So how can the Jews be so confused and wither away at the first wimpy test of faith?

            In order to answer the question, we must take a closer look at the statement about the maidservant we just quoted. If indeed a maidservant was capable of such lofty understanding, why is she still referred to as a maidservant; she should be called a prophetess?

            Apparently, these unique events and highly energized spiritual revelations on their own do not create a prophet. The maidservant, after all the hoopla, still remained a maidservant. To develop prophet status or reach spiritual heights, one must go through character development and self-perfection. The sages have a regiment through the guidance of the Torah on how to achieve these goals. It’s humorous to read about these adventurous Hollywood stars, as well as rock and roll artists, studying Kaballah or whatever the organizers of that contraption call it. For one to get to that lofty level, one would have to go through many steps of Torah study and character fixing. Though one can reach a very high level through being nice, considerate, and kind, where he will develop a tremendous sensitivity toward others. Reaching that level of sensitivity to one’s fellow man, to an extent where the world feels a lot more crisp and sharp, along with the conscious effort to progress in learning Torah, will breed a level of contentment, happiness, and perfection. If these Hollywood stars would have gone through the true Torah system, they wouldn’t be called Hollywood stars, they would be called kaballists!

            The Mesilat Yesharim equates us to soldiers, and the true heroes are the ones who can control their desires. Apparently, that’s the definition of a strong man, Ish Chayil, one who is able to grow and develop, then he will appreciate the miracles.

 The Importance of Washing Hands

 

There are two reasons for the washing of the hands. King Solomon instituted washing for sanitary reasons.
     I remember taking a course in college on how to do well in an interview.
  Interviews are generally conducted in a restaurant over lunch or dinner. This is done deliberately to see how one conducts himself among people. Personality and even more so manners is looked at with a magnifying glass. After all, they are hiring an individual who will represent them.
  Not to minimize the sanitation issue, there happens to also be a spiritual importance in washing hands as well.
In this weeks Parsha we discuss the KIYOR, the copper lever, from which the Kohanim-the priests would wash their hands and become pure to enter the Tabernacle.
One may ask why is the Kiyor not mentioned with the other vessels of the MISHKAN-Tabernacle?
The reason is that the Kiyor’s function was different from the others. The other parts and utensils caused the Divine Presence to rest on the Tabernacle. Whereas the lever served to prepare the Kohanim to carry out their mission.
 WHENEVER THE HOLY TORAH WRITES TWO SUBJECTS NEXT TO EACH OTHER, THERE MUST BE SOME CONNECTION.
 What is the connection between the KIYOR and the topic of SHEKALIM?
There were three gifts of a half a silver coin given by the people to cover the cost of the Temple. Two were required and one was voluntary.
 The Kiyor would be filled by rain water. The shekalim were TZEDAKA-CHARITY. In the merit of the charity, abundance of wealth is brought down to the world. The wealth comes from rain water which fills the land and nourishes crops and farm land. That is the connection between the two.
WHAT LESSON DO WE LEARN FROM THE KIYOR?
 We see from the washing of the hands that one has to prepare and ready himself to do a Mitzva-commandment, just like the Kohanim prepared before doing their job for the Temple. We emulate the KOHANIM. Their job was to beg for mercy for themselves and for the Jewish people. Our goal is also to ask for mercy from G-d. We have to feel as if we are in the Temple doing the service.
WHY DO WE WASH OUR HANDS BEFORE WE EAT BREAD?
Prayer and eating go hand and hand. We learn in tractate Brachot (55) “Open with the altar and finish with the table(meal)”. This is in reference to the services performed in the Mishkan. The Avodah began with the bringing of the Korbanos and concluded with the eating of the meal consisting of the Korbanos. When we conduct ourselves properly during meals, we receive mercy as a reward.
WHY DO WE WASH OUR HANDS BEFORE THE MORNING PRAYER, SHACHARIT, AND NOT BEFORE THE OTHER PRAYERS, MINCHA AND ARAVIT?
This is because when one goes to sleep at night, his soul leaves his body. The soul returns when he gets up in the morning. Therefore, he is considered as if he was reborn. We have to thank G-d that we were created for His honor. This is the reason we say so many BRACHOT-blessings in the morning, all to honor him for our rebirth. We wash our hands to start off with a new fresh start.
Washing of the hands carefully will bring PARNASSA-livelihood.
In summation, and in relation to the aforementioned Kiyor, we must realize that we were put into this physical world for a reason. We have to utilize its resources. Water, we learn from the Torah, is a powerful ingredient to become pure. Therefore, the Kiyor and all the sinks since then that help us purify ourselves are means to get close to G-d.

 

 

Kid’s Section  

by Rabbi Gedalia Fogel – Pre 1A – Yeshiva Ketana of Queens

Hi! This is Rebbe speaking:

 

On Purim we read the Megillah, the complete story of Purim. Now that Purim has passed, what lesson can we take with us throughout the year?

 

In the Megillah we read that Esther, a Jewish maiden, was taken as Achashveirosh, the king’s wife. When we think into this we realize that for a Jewish girl this is probably one of the worst things that could happen. But when we read on, we see that only because Esther was the Queen did the redemption of the entire Jewish nation come about.

 

This is the lesson we can take with us. When one finds himself in a hard situation one should think that this just may be the means to a salvation. Or even greater yet; it may be the salvation of another tragedy or hardship.

 

Leibel approached the holy Baal Shem Tov for a blessing for his daughter who was paralyzed in both her hands and feet. The Baal Shem Tov told him “I will be traveling tomorrow. Come with your daughter in your wagon and follow me.” Leibel was up bright and early the next morning. He carried his daughter, Shaina into his wagon and went to the Baal Shem Tov. He followed closely behind the Baal Shem Tov’s wagon until they reached an inn. “Bring you daughter into the inn.” commanded the Baal Shem Tov. He then commanded Dov, the owner of the inn to lock all the doors and windows. Dov, immediately followed the instructions of the Baal Shem Tov. He knew what a great Tzaddik the Baal Shem Tov was, for he frequently stayed at his inn. He knew better than to question the saintly Rabbi. The weather outside was stormy and frigid. No sooner did they hear knocking. “Do not open the door.” The knocking soon turned into pounding accompanied by threatening shouts. “Do not open the door.” the Baal Shem Tov repeated. Dov, Leibel and Shaina were soon horrified to see the door of the inn come off its hinges. “How dare you not open the door! You will pay for this with your life.” The angry man pointed his gun at Dov. “I was commanded to do so by this holy Rabbi. I had no choice.” “Very well. I will kill the Rabbi then.” Leibel could not believe his eyes. His paralyzed daughter, Shaina ran towards the man with the gun. The man dropped the gun and Shaina picked it up. Shaina, who had not been able to move her hands and feet! They then realized that the man could no longer move. He had become paralyzed. Shaina was miraculously cured. She was now able to move about freely. What the innkeeper, Leibel and Shaina had assumed was the worst scenario, really turned out to be a salvation to Shaina’s paralysis.

 

There is another story told about the Baal Shem Tov that brings out this point. The Baal Shem Tov was marrying off an orphan. He had offered a dowry of 2000 rubles. The day of the wedding arrived. “I will not allow the wedding to take place until you give the groom the 2000 rubles that you promised.” said Reb Wolf Kitzis, the rabbi helping the groom who was an orphan too. The Baal Shem Tov had emunah. “Do not worry. I will get it somehow.” But as the day when on there was still no sign of any money. Mid afternoon there was a knock on the Baal Shem Tov’s door. “You are being summoned to the Poritz, the landowner. He says you owe him 500 rubles.” Not only did he not have the money for the dowry but now he had another debt. The Baal Shem Tov hurried to the Poritz. “Are you sure I owe you this money?” The Poritz called his bookkeeper and commanded him to go over the payments that the Rabbi his paid. “There has been a grave error. Not only do you not owe me 500 rubles but I owe you 2000 rubles.” This was the exact amount that the Baal Shem Tov had promised for the orphan’s dowry. The Poritz handed the Baal Shem Tov the money and the wedding was able to proceed. What seemed so despairing had turned into an answer to his first predicament.

 

What have we learned today?

 

What great lesson can we learn from the story of Purim?

When one finds himself in hard times, he should believe that there is a salvation in store. And not only that, but this may just be a salvation for another tragedy or hardship.

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Essence of a Perfect State of Mind
Father and Son Relationship
Kid’s Section by Rabbi Gedalia Fogel
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Parshat Terumah Highlights 

Introduction: One has to have faith every moment of the day. When the destruction of the Temple took place and the enemy was taking apart the building, they came across the KODESH HAKADASHIM- the holiest part of the Temple containing the two KERUVIM which were, strangely, embra-cing one another. This was odd because we all know that when they embrace each other it is a sign that G-d loves us and is embracing us. However, it didn’t seem like that was happening!! The destruction was one of if not the darkest times in our history. How can they be embracing?

 

Rav Baruch Dopelt quotes from the Chassidic sources saying that the month of Av, when the destruction took place, is when G-d is with us the most.

 

There is a Torah law that when a husband is about to go away for an extended period of time, he has to spend time with his wife, physically. The reason is be-cause before any separation; the love shown has the longest lasting impression.

 

G-d too is with us in a very intense way before separation. Perhaps, one has to maintain faith in times of trial and despair as well, for it to materialize.

 

One such person was Palti ben Layish. When one does what is expected, the Torah adds a name to him. Palti’s name was amended to Paltiel, adding the name of G-d. He was truly a man of faith who passed a very difficult test. He was forced to marry the King’s daughter, Michal, even though she was technically still married to David. Throughout the seven years of marriage to Michal, or I should say seven years of just being with her as “friends”, he refrained from having any relations with Michal.

How did he control himself?

 

Rav Chaim Shmuelvitz quotes the Gemara who says that he stuck a knife in the middle of the bed the first night and declared “whoever crosses this line deserves death”.

How can a sword alone deter them in a time of passion?

 

Obviously, Rav Shmuelvitz explains, it’s not the sword; it’s the reminder to a moment of strength. The sword will remind one of the holiness he experienced at that moment. The Gemara says that when he had to give her up to David, her true husband, he wept as he escorted her out. It was bittersweet; he passed the test, however he got used to looking at the beautiful Michal. One gets used to someone and feelings develop.

 

This period was Paltiel’s most troubling. It was a tremendous test and he passed it!

Presumably, this is when Paltiel felt that G-d was embracing him the most. After all, G-d added his name as a stamp of approval. Conversely, during a difficult time is when we should embrace G-d the most.

 

First Portion: * The Jew of today goes to Synagogue daily; some go weekly; there are those who go less frequent. In essence, we are practicing what the Torah describes ‘And I (G-d) will dwell among them’ the question is asked why does it say ‘them’? it should say ‘dwell among it ‘; the subject is the sanctuary, the one central Temple. However, the spirituality of the sanctuary has been transmitted to every local synagogue and study hall where optimally the Mikdash brings a man so close to G-d, all feel Him within them, where G-d approaches each being according to what he can endure. Although our great nation is part and parcel with each other and we all follow the same central laws; however communicating with G-d is also very personal.

 

* When one is considering moving to a new neighborhood, one of the first and foremost items on his list are that he should seek is a temple of his liking.

 

* It is odd that G-d instructed us to make a sanctuary and limit the spirituality and to confine G-d to a concrete area, the Mishkan. It sounds like a contradiction to the essence of Judaic belief of G-d, which is, G-d is everywhere. However, it became essential because man needs that central figure to reinforce the strong commitment to G-d. Unfortunately the lack of temple added to the temptation that caused the Israelites to sin at the golden calf incident. For this reason, now we can answer why the sequence of events is in question because apparently the sin of the golden calf was brought before the building of the Mishkan, and here the parshiot are lined up the opposite. As we know, the Mishkan was enacted because of the sin of the golden calf. Rav Zalman Zorotzkin suggests perhaps we see a pattern how G-d runs the world; He never gives the diseases before the cure.

 

* Mikdash – according to Maimonides and other commentaries – means ‘house of appointment. The main purpose is to prepare oneself for tomorrow.

 

* Every person volunteered something that was from thirteen raw materials that was found in the Mikdash.

 

* The Aron (Arc) was the most essential part of the Mishkan and therefore discussed first. Apparently, it was constructed before the Mishkan itself.

 

Second Portion: * The Keruvim were the most intriguing part of the Mishkan. They were set on top of the Aron. The two Keruvim were baby-faced and had wings. If at times, the Israelites’ prayers were accepted, the Keruvim would embrace each other, and at times when the prayers were not accepted, they would turn away from each other. Their wings thrust upward signifying that man should always aspire for spiritual heights.

 

* Atzai Sheetim/cedar wood was the wood used for the Mishkan. Why did G-d prefer the wood of the Sheetim above all other kinds of cedar? The Sheetim were picked since it bears no fruit. G-d wanted to set an example for people who build a house. They should reason that if G-d constructed His Mishkan from the wood of a barren tree, we certainly should not use the wood of a fruit tree for this purpose. (One should note it is not permissible to cut down a fruit tree.)

 

Third Portion: * The menorah had seven lamps, which corresponded to the constellation of the seven stars. The seven stars represent the course of all natural events in the universe. The flames, which were lit with the purest of olive oil, symbolize the illumination of the intellect, and will rise above the mundane nature of the world. The center flame represents Shabbat, and the other six flames; three before and three after represent the days of the week, which get all their power and resources from Shabbat. The Shabbat represents time, and the Mishkan represents the place where G-d brings down spirituality.

 

Fourth Portion: * There is a tremendous emphasis on wood in the Mishkan. The Temple represents peace and all the components that go with it. Our Father, Abraham, received guests, the three Angels, under difficult circumstances. The kindness which he performed by serving them under a tree; this is the kind of tree that is represented in the Mishkan. Later, Our father, Yaacov instructed his children to plant these trees in Egypt, knowing they will not find trees in the desert, where they would take the cedar wood with them.

 

Fifth Portion: * The Shulchan (table) was the medium through which the blessing of nourishment flowed to the entire world. G-d therefore commanded it should never be empty since His blessing rests on substantial matters. This was hinted by Elisha the prophet who told an improvised woman that she must have something in the house upon which G-d’s blessing could rest. It’s also important to note never to say that the bracha is finished; one should conclude ‘the bracha is plenty’.

 

* Some communities have a tradition to place the twelve breads that were presented in the Mishkan, and place them to say the bracha ‘Hamotzi’ at their Shabbat table.

 

Sixth Portion: * The Altar is where the sacrifices take place. Many miracles were performed in the Mishkan. It’s fascinating how a fire from the heavens comes down and consumes the sacrifice in which the individual brings; that signifies that it has been accepted. Imagine, I can’t help but think how that’s a very significant way to get close to G-d.

 

Seventh Portion: * If one notices there is no metal or steel in the temple, that is because metal symbolizes war and the Mishkan represents peace. There are communities that remove the knives from the Shabbat table meal before birkat hamazon because the Shabbat table represents the Mizbeach, and believe it or not, is a great way to get close to G-d.

Pagen Ritual or the Truth
 

The obvious question that everybody on the planet asks is: “aren’t the KERUVIM-the angel like statues on the ARON a form of idol worship?”

 

Even if the Jews of that time period were 100% believers, wouldn’t it still be putting a stumbling block in front of a blind man, considering that this was the number one temptation of that time period?

Boy, the KERUVIM sure seem to go against a prime directive of “do not make for yourself any carved idols or any likeness of anything that is in the heaven above or here on earth below” (Shemot 20:4). We all know how our forefather, Avraham, broke all the idols in his father’s store. Then he placed the hammer into the hand the the biggest idol and when his father came in, Avraham simply pointed to the last remaining idol, and said he did it!

 

Speaking of Avraham, we find a similar incident. What made the test of the AKAIDA (G-d told Avraham to slaughter his beloved son) more difficult was that all his life he was preaching to  the world “it’s not proper to sacrifice your children to your gods” and here he is, Mr. self-righteous doing the same!

 

Similarly, the Romans ridiculed us after they conquered and destroyed our Temple. They brought out the KERUVIM and said “look they worship idols just like we do, they are no different”.

 

The Abarbanel explains that images were only forbidden if it was the intention to worship them.

 

The KUZARI explains regarding the sin of the Golden calf that the Israelites did not deny G-d’s existence rather they only wanted to make their worship of Him more concrete.

 

Interestingly, G-d issued two commandments regarding engraved images that seem to contradict each other. This is reminiscent of the Talmudic dictum that “whatever the Torah forbade, it made permissible by other means”. Thus, when G-d said “do not make for yourself carved idols” He also said “make two KERUVIM”. Likewise, one is prohibited to marry the wife of his deceased brother, but is commanded to do so if he dies childless. We are forbidden to wear any garments made of wool and linen, but the next verse states “make yourself tzitzit on the four corners of your garment” and these garments may wool even if the corners are linen. The Torah states that “those who violate the Shabbat shall be killed”, yet He commands “On the Shabbat day, a two year old lamb without a blemish shall be brought”. Such an offering involves acts that violate the Shabbat.

 

All of the above do not come close to the wonderment expressed regarding the commandment of placing the KERUVIM on top of the ARON which mimics idol worship. It sounds heretical, but mustn’t we ask-“what was G-d thinking?”

 

Perhaps that’s exactly the point. We have no authority or right to probe into something that G-d did not provide us answers for. We just have to follow the commandment and do G-d’s will. We tend to forget the proper outlook we should have; our religion is a belief. That’s the challenge. Belief comes from the heart. So one should not say “HEY MAN PROVE IT”. We answer to him ” WELL CHABIBI HOW DO YOU FEEL?”

 

Still, the KERUVIM remain one of the most perplexing mysteries in our religion.

 

This Dvar Torah is the fruit of a quick conversation had with Rabbi Lenny Bromberg plus some thoughts culled from the Nachshoni.

 

Essence of a Perfect State of Mind  

Starts at Home

  

Rabbi Baruch Dopelt quoting the Ramban.

 

It’s important that when we leave our home in the morning we should depart with the right and healthy frame of mind. The home is an important setting in our attempt to attain spirituality.

The book of BERESHIT is called the book of YETZIRA- creation, while the book of SHEMOT is called HAGEULAH- the redemption. Really, the book should finish at the end of Parshat BESHALACH, after G-d split the sea and the Jews were saved and they lived happily ever after as they entered the desert. However, the book doesn’t end there. A parsha later, our parsha this week, Teruma, the narrative begins teaching us about the Temple, the building of it. Even the clothing of the high priest is discussed. What does the redemption from Egypt have to do with the pants of the Kohen Gadol? What’s the common thread that connects them together? Is there one?

As we know, our forefathers were the pinnacle of perfection. We read about them in the book of Bereshit. They endured many challenges in their life, but they persevered. We should learn a lesson from them and try to emulate their strong belief.

When Avraham lost his wife, Sarah, after passing the most crucial test ever THE AKEDA or sacrificing of his son, he subsequently found a wife for their son, Yitzchak. Yitzchak brought Rivka, his new wife, back to his mother’s tent and he loved her. Thus, Yitzchak was consoled over his mother’s death.

The commentaries say that there were three special brachot in Sarah’s tent. Firstly, the candle lit again from Shabbat to Shabbat. Secondly, there was a bracha in the dough. Lastly, there was the special cloud over the tent.

The three things appear in this week’s parsha as well. The ANAN- the cloud of glory hovered over the Jewish people commensurate to the cloud above the tent. The miracle of the long lasting LECHEM HAPANIM, the bread baked in the Temple, corres-ponded to the bracha in the dough. Finally, the NER HAMAARAVI- the light of the Temple was equivalent to Sara’s candle.

The cloud was the source of protection, the bread was the source of sustenance and the light represents the eternal soul of man.

These three are understood as representing the achieving of perfection. Sarah passed the baton onto Rivkah as a sign that the tradition continues. Our mothers and wives are called the BAYIT-house, as we see in the Megillat Esther, when we refer to Esther who, according many, was Mordachai’s wife, as the house. The women are the foundation of the house. They raise the children. They are the backbone while the fathers are front and center of the family. The husband and wife shape the family to perfection, raising the children in the right path.

One cannot merit redemption without attaining perfection. There has to be a protection – a cloud of glory. The Malbim says that the KERUVIM protected the ARON. Similarly, the Angels in heaven who are also called KERUVIM surround the heavenly throne. Our protection for our home is the MEZUZA. The dough, as we mentioned, is the sustenance. In order to achieve satisfaction, one has to give 10% of his earnings to charity. It is also crucial to maintain a peaceful home. Light is another name for the Torah. Once we accomplish these goals utilizing the light, the cloud and the dough, can we be mentioned in the same category as our forefathers and ultimately be redeemed. It seems that indeed the second half of the book of Shemot if fulfilled correctly will lead us on the path to redemption, just like the first half of the book. 

Father and Son Relationship

 

The most intriguing and fascinating items of the Mishkan (Tabernacle) are the Keruvim. They were found on top of the Aron. They were two child-like faces with wings pointed upwards. When the Israelites were close to G-d, they would embrace each other, and when the Jews were not on the standards that they should be, the Keruvim would face away from one another.

The sages say, when G-d wanted to give the Torah to the Jews, he asked for a guarantor. So the Israelites replied “Our Forefathers, Abraham, Isaac and Yaacov would be perfect.” G-d refused, stating “They owe me. How can they be guarantors?” An example was given, if a man wants to borrow money from someone and demands a guarantor, and the potential borrower says how about Joe? The potential lender refuses stating “how can he be a guarantor? He owes me money himself.”

G-d said to the Jews” bring me someone that doesn’t owe me.” The Israelites answered back “We know someone who doesn’t owe You a thing, the children; they’ll be the guarantors.”

Apparently, there are a number of different opinions as to who exactly were the Keruvim; some say it’s a boy and a girl; others say it was a boy and a man. Yechezkel’s vision was that of a boy and a man.

What’s the meaning of having a boy and a man on the faces of the Keruvim? Rabbi Noach Isaac Olbaum explains this is the essential part of

Judaism. It’s the father and son relationship that’s crucial to the continuous existence of our nation. It’s the father’s obligation to pass down the tradition to his son. Without a doubt, the fact that the Keruvim were placed in the holies of holies on top of the Aaron shows the importance of the relationship between the father and son. You can’t get holier than that place.

Therefore, we have to examine and fortify our relationship with our children. It should be healthy and communicative. The parody of the American dysfunctional family is brought out very well in the satirical TV series, The Simpsons. It’s been awhile since I’ve seen television and that show in particular. The show, indeed, well written, was very funny but very sad; but most important, a very true portrayal of many family structures, or I should say dis-structure in the western world.

The Torah emphasis the importance of the bond of father and son and the crucial treasure the Torah, passing down the tradition, that’s at stake. So perhaps what we could do is go out for a burger with our son; have a catch when the weather gets nice and most important, learn Torah with him. It’s important and it’s a priceless moment.

 

Kid’s Section  

by Rabbi Gedalia Fogel – Pre 1A – Yeshiva Ketana of Queens
Hi! This is Rebbe speaking:

In this week’s parsha, Parshat Terumah, it speaks about the building of the Mishkan, a resting place for Hashem. Today we do not have the Mishkan, but we have the opportunity to make our homes into a Mishkan. When we do the will of Hashem and we have harmony in our homes we allow Hashem to dwell there thus creating a Mishkan. A synagogue is also called a Mishkan. We must make sure to have the utmost respect for a synagogue since it sanctified and holy.

There were many Tzadikim that were the caretakers of their synagogues. No matter how many times others offered, they did not want to give up the privilege of sanctifying the Mishkan.

A Shul, a synagogue, is a place for prayer. One must refrain from speaking during prayers. Some are stringent not to speak about mundane matters even before or between prayers. Some believe that certain synagogues were destroyed because their congregants spoke during Tefillah, prayers. There are those that have a custom to kiss the wall of the shul every time they enter.

Reb Chananya Yom Tov Lipa Heller, the Tosfos Yom Tov, made a special blessing that is said when we read the Torah, blessing all those that refrain from speaking in Shul.

There was a famous shul in the town of Brod that had learning sessions 24 hours. There was never a moment without Torah learning or prayers in that Shul. It is stated that this is where Hashem’s presence truly rested. Many great Tzaddikim learned in Brod. The Baal Shem Tov used to periodically give a gold coin to upkeep the Shul in Brod.

There are stories told of people who tried their utmost to make their prayer house a Mishkan. They would donate candles. They would spend extra time after prayers to return the Siddurim to the bookcase. Some spent extra time straightening the chairs or tables.

There was an inspiring story about a simpleton. Gershon heard the Rabbi say that in the time of the Beit Hamikdash, the Holy Temple, there were Lechem Hapanim, twelve loaves of fresh bread.  When Gershon decided he wanted to sanctify his synagogue, he thought of a great solution. Thursday evening Gershon’s wife set aside two of her freshly baked Challot.  Gershon lovingly sneaked into the shul before dawn and placed these two loaves into the Aron Kodesh, the Holy Ark. Unbeknownst to Gershon, the Gabbai, the caretaker, cleaned the shul Friday before the morning prayers and removed the mysterious Challot. Gershon excitedly return to his wife and announced “Hashem has accepted our gift. He has taken the Challot.” This scenario repeated itself week after week. Gershon and his wife were ecstatic. One Friday morning the Rabbi of the shul entered a few minutes earlier than usual just in time to see the caretaker remove the Challot from the Holy Ark. “What is the meaning of this?” asked the Rabbi. “I do not know. Each Friday there are two Challot in the Holy Ark.” The Rabbi decided to come much earlier the next week to see who was behind all this. When Gershon returned the next week and was lovingly placing the Challot in the Ark, the Rabbi emerged from his hiding place in the woman’s section. “What is the meaning of this?” Gershon excitedly replied, “Each week on behalf of myself and my wife, I place a gift for Hashem, two fresh Challot into the Holy Ark. I see Hashem really appreciates this gift for he takes it each week.” “Hashem does not take your Challot. The caretaker removes it.” Gershon walked home dejected. He gloomily told his wife his naïve mistake. Both Gershon and his wife were inconsolable.  The holy Arizal saw what had transpired through Ruach Hakodesh and reprimanded the Rabbi of the Shul. “Do you realize the repercussions of your actions? You have dejected and embarrassed Gershon. You have taken away Hashem’s greatest pleasure. In heaven they had stated that since the time of the Holy Temple no one had brought an offering to Hashem until the loaves from this simple couple. Gershon was able to accomplish the unachievable.” His seemly silly offering of two Challot brought great joy and merit in Heaven.

When Mashiach will come we will merit the building of the Beit Hamikdash, the most magnificent dwelling place.

 

What have we learned today?

 

How can we create and upkeep a resting place for Hashem? We can build a Mishkan in our homes by living in the ways of Hashem and we can sanctify a prayer house by refraining from speaking during prayers and keeping the shul clean and neat.

 

What are some of the things that we can do to sanctify our synagogue, our place of prayer? We must make sure never to talk during Tefillah, prayers. We must be extremely careful to act properly and respectfully. We should help keep our synagogue neat and clean. Do not throw garbage on the floor or on the tables. Help put the prayer books back on the shelf after Tefillah. Even children can be a part in making their synagogue holy.

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What’s so special about the Torah?
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Important to Be in a Safe Environment
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Parshat Yitro Highlights 

The Power Of Torah

This article contains excerpts from a shiur given
by Rabbi Isaac Oelbaum Shli”ta.

The Yakut Shemoni mentions an incident in which a talmid chacham – a wise man – Rebbi Pinchas ben Yair, who, in light of an urgent matter, wanted to cross a river. He approached the waters and said “split”. However, the waters disregarded his request. He then demanded firmly, “I am Rebbi Pinchas ben Yair and I order you to split or else I’ll dry you up”! His threats frightened the waters and they were forced to split, making way for him to cross. Pretty cool, wasn’t it! He split the river with no effort! Strangely though, if one would ask your average run -of the mill Torah knowledgeable  Jew if they ever heard of Rebbi Pinchas ben Yair, the answer would be “no”. It seems like not a lot of fan fair was attributed to his little miracle. Apparently, there also wasn’t much attention given to the important event where the Israelites on their final journey before entering the Promised Land were required to cross the Jordan River. “NO PROBLEM”, YEHOSHUA SAID. As soon as the Kohanim, who were in front leading the way, stepped foot into the Jordan River, the waters split. WHAT A MIRACLE… WELL…NO BIG DEAL, REALLY!! 

Never the less, a lot of emphasis is placed on Moshe and the Israelites when they participated in the much talked about historic event, “the splitting of the sea”. Dramatics par-excellence! We read about it every day, including on the Shabbat in AZ YASHIR. That is the song which refers to the great miracle. Some children in grade school even had to memorize the song, including yours truly! However, it seems like Yehoshua and R’ Pinchas Ben Year’s splitting were ignored. Perhaps they too should be discussed and sung on a daily basis? Rebbi Pinchas ben Yair should be a house hold name!  Why is AZ YASHIR, the Jews crossing the sea during Moshe’s time, singled out?

Interestingly, it seems like it wasn’t such an easy task for the sea to split during Moshe’s time. Moshe raised his hands and prayed, but to no avail. It wasn’t until Nachshon ben Aminadav, showing true belief in G-d, jumped in and when the waters reached his mouth, in conjunction with Yosef the tzadic’s coffin being visible, then, and only then, did the waters cooperate. Their kishkas came out till the waters split, a real nail biter! Talking about working up a sweat!

The key to understanding all this is hinted in the dialogue between Moshe and the waters. Moshe said “split”. The waters retorted, “We don’t have to listen to you for man was born on the sixth day and the waters were created on the third day, we’re older and therefore we are superior to man”. However, we learned that the first thing G-d created was the Torah. The Torah is the blueprint of the world. G-d looked at the Torah and created the sea, the land etc. After the revelation at Mount Sinai when the Jews received the Torah, the entire dimension of “who was created first” changed. If a Jew is ensconced in Torah study, if he’s committed, then he is considered as if he was created first. This is where the concept of being a BEN TORAH-a son of Torah, comes from. If one immerses himself in it, he becomes a living Torah. Rabbi Pinchas ben Yair and Yehoshua and his generation had an advantage over Moshe and his generation; they received the Torah. Therefore they can claim, “We were created first”. The power of Torah is such that whoever is an expert in it has the ability to manipulate nature. Whoever is created first has the ability to control whatever is chronologically inferior.

Therefore, in Moshe’s time when the sea split, that was indeed a true miracle and one to sing about every day. When the sea split for Rebbi Pinchas ben Yair and for Yehoshua generation that was just another act of Torah scholars changing the course of nature.

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First Portion: * Yitro was Moshe’s father-in-law as well as a former advisor to Pharaoh. Yitro actually advised favorably for the Jews on the subject of the Israelites’ fate. However, his advice was not taken well, and he was forced to flee. He also was a high priest in Midyan.

 

* Many nations had seen and heard the miracles that G-d performed for the Jews in Egypt and at sea. However, Yitro comprehended what G-d had done. He was impressed to the point that it changed him and he was ready to convert to Judaism.

 

*Originally, Yitro’s name was Yeter, only later the letter VAV was added to his name, making it Yitro. This served as both as a sign of his having become a Jew and to indicate that the parsha of appointing Judges was added to the Torah in his honor. In many instances, the Torah adds a letter to a person’s name as a sign of his having acquired greatness. Conversely, a letter is omitted from someone’s name if he fails to maintain his spiritual status.

 

* Moshe sends a message to Tziporah, his wife, to meet him at a certain point in the desert. Yitro arrived with Tziporah and Moshe’s two sons at the scheduled meeting place.

 

* A meal offering was initiated by Yitro commemorating his circumcision and his introduction to Judaism. We see many years later that the King of Israel, Shaul, warned the Canaanites, who were the descendants of Yitro, to leave their residence within Amalek (enemies of the Jews) because war was imminent. The reason for such concern as to not to harm them stemmed from this meal celebration between Moshe, Aharon, Yitro, and other high-ranking officials. We see the power of a sit down meal celebration when done for the sake of mitzvah, and how positive it can be so that it has long lasting effects, even hundreds of years later.

 

Second Portion: * Yitro’s experience in public office where he had had a high ranking position in Pharaoh’s super power government, enabled him to advise Moshe on how to be more proficient in his duties and make the justice system run better.

 

* There is a question as to why Moshe wasn’t able to derive the advice that Yitro gave him from the Torah itself? We have to understand that although the Torah provides us with great wisdom, there will be, on occasion, an individual who can provide sound advice. G-d’s purposely teaching us that it’s not the intellectual superiority which is the main part, nor are we more culturally advanced than the other nations, rather the focal point is the spiritual superiority.

 

Third Portion: * Moshe took the advice of his father-in-law.

 

* Yitro decided to return to Midyan.

 

* Why did Yitro decide to return to Midyan? Wouldn’t he feel more comfortable with his new comrades (his fellow circumcised Jews)? (See one of my schmooze in the email newsletter). One should note that Ruth the Midyanit convert decided to go to Israel with her former mother-in-law rather than go back to her former home. It would be most difficult to maintain one’s religious level among people who do not have the same goals as you. So indeed, why did Yitro return to Midyan?

 

Fourth Portion: * The Israelites arrived at Mount Sinai and Moshe went up to receive the Torah.

 

* G-d told Moshe to tell the people, “If you keep My Torah, I will hold you in great esteem”.

 

Fifth Portion: * Moshe came down from the mountain and related everything that G-d is demanding of us. The elders, the leaders, all answered back “We will do whatever G-d says”.

 

* Moshe gave instructions for the preparations necessary to receive the Torah.

 

* The nation gathered at the bottom of the mountain.

Sixth Portion: * G-d’s aura had descended and rested upon the Israelites. This was the closest the Jews have ever been to the presence of G-d.

 

* The first two commandments were recited by G-d. However, the people weren’t able to withstand the rays of G-d’s presence. Therefore, Moshe recited the last eight.

 

* The Ten Commandments are divided into five and five. The first five on the right are commandments between G-d and man, while the second five are commandments between man and his fellow man.

 

Seventh Portion: * One cannot even imagine what a special moment in history this was. The scripture says they actually saw the voices!!

 

* Only three Jews did not witness the revelation at Mount Sinai, Yitro and Moshe’s two sons. How can that be – Moshe’s sons? This was designed by G-d so that Moshe can perform what every father and Rabbi is commanded to do, to pass down the Torah to the next generation. Almost the whole nation experienced the Sinai experience, so there was no passing down for a while. Still, they learned from the best teacher and the best lesson; Moshe taught his two sons.

 

* Three million Jews witnessed the receiving of the Torah. No other religion has witnesses of this magnitude that have seen the revelation of their religion.

What’s so special about the Torah?
 

If one goes to a Yeshiva study hall, one will see a whole bunch of guys immersed in their books studying. SO BIG DEAL!  WHY ARE ALL THESE RELIGIOUS JEWS MAKING SUCH A HOOPLA OUT OF LEARNING TORAH?!

 

Another question one has to ask is regarding the famous SHEMA that we say every day. In that prayer we start off, immediately after the proclamation of the sentence SHEMA, “VEH AHAVTA ET HASHEM ELOKECHA”- “and you should love your G-d”. How can one love G-d? One has never seen him or touched him?!

 

Rabbi Baruch Dopelt quotes many sources as saying that the essence of G-d can be found in the Torah and if one wants to get to know Him, one has to study the Torah. This idea is brought out by the Zohar based on the first word of the Ten Commandments, ANOCHI. The four letters of the word ANOCHI represent ANA NAFSHI KETUVIM YAHAVAT-“My essence is in the scriptures that I gave”. Learning Torah is different from any other subject. When one learns Gemarah or Chumash, for example, one becomes attached to G-d. We have all lit candles for a deceased loved one. The departed soul is represented by the fire; fire connects to fire, spirituality connects to spirituality. By learning His Torah we become infused with the essence of G-d.

 

The SHEMA continues and says “VEHAYU HADVARIM HA ELEH”-“and these words”. This is referring to the Torah.

 

There is a preconceived notion that people who learn the Talmud become smart. The Torah is G-d and G-d is infinite. Therefore, if one studies the Torah, which is His CHUCHMA-intelligence, he ultimately becomes infinitely more intelligent. This is the reason why there are so many explanations of each word of Torah. All are correct; each one is just a different facet and angle. Hence, it is infinite.

 

This is the way for us to show that we love G-d. In any relationship, one needs two sides to participate. When we pray, we talk to him. When we learn Torah, He talks to us.

Careful About Giving Advice!

D’var Torah heard from Rabbi Shalom Ber Hecht
and Rabbi Offer Davidov.

Yitro was a very smart man, and when he came to the Israelite camp in the desert, he saw a severely overworked leader in his son-in-law, Moshe.

Yitro advised him to spread the wealth of knowledge and to assign the task of judging the people to others. Although Yitro’s advice was successfully implemented, one has to be careful in giving advice. It could be devastating to the person receiving it and even more damaging to the one giving it.

 

There was a story about two young, ambitious, Jewish business partners who were looking to make it big. They would buy here and sell there and make a few dollars. However stressful and difficult, they would never give up on their dream.

 

One day, the opportunity came their way. One of the partners, Moshe, received a tip from a lawyer friend from the next town that his rich client had

passed away and had left a warehouse full of good merchandise. His daughter, however, did not want to burden herself with the business and was looking to sell the entire stock of merchandise for a bargain price. It would be an opportunity that would take these boys to a different tax bracket and would change their financial lives’ drastically.

 

After agreeing on the price, through this lawyer friend, the boys borrowed money to pay for the tremendous shipping expense of the enormous stock of merchandise as well as for the purchase of a nice size warehouse. They figured it was a “done deal” and all that was left was just to sign on the dotted line. They would be well prepared.

 

Before traveling to the next town where the business transaction was to take place, the lawyer prepped them as to what to say and how to act when they meet his client, the daughter. They must be extremely polite because his client never met Jews before. At first, she was hesitant to go forth with the transaction, however, the lawyer assured her that the Jews do not have horns and don’t bite. In those days, Jews and non-Jews almost never interacted.

 

They met the lawyer at the house of the deceased man where his daughter now lived alone. The papers were drawn up and the partners already signed, all while waiting for the young lady to come down. Again the lawyer reiterated that they must act properly and be polite. When they finally met, the boys made such a good impression and the daughter was really impressed. She was especially taken by one of the partners, David, noting that he had a great smile. The meeting was a huge hit and the papers were signed. Moshe told David that he will go back home to wait for the shipment, while he should stay and make sure the shipment is sent properly.

 

The next day, David gets a message saying that there is one important document that the daughter forgot to sign and he should meet him and the daughter at the same place that night.

 

When David entered the house that evening, he was greeted by just the daughter. “Where is our lawyer friend?” he asked. “We really don’t need him tonight; he gave me the document this morning”. David asked if she could sign because it was getting a little late, however the daughter had different plans. “If you want me to sign this document and transfer the merchandise, you have to sleep with me tonight” she said to him. David was taken aback. He tried to persuade her to reconsider, however she was adamant; either she sleep with him or the deal is off.

The next morning the merchandise was on their way to the partners’ home town where Moshe greeted David with such enthusiasm. However, the enthusiasm was not so shared by David. Over the next four months, Moshe witnessed a change in David. He became more serious, he started to attend Torah lectures, he was more diligent in going to minyan, and he dressed more modestly. He wasn’t the same fun loving David.

One day Moshe confronted him and asked him why he is acting so differently ever since they came back from the business trip. Dave confessed that he had slept with the non-Jewish woman. Moshe thought about it and advised David, “You’re missing out on all the fun stuff, especially now that we’ve accumulated so much wealth. I’ll tell you what; I’m going to buy your sin with the woman for your portion of the partnership. What do you say? Deal?”

 

Eventually, David agreed. The two wrote out a contract, shook hands and went their separate ways.

Forty years later, the wealthy Moshe became ill and after a few months he died.

 

When Moshe came to be judged, he was given a very harsh judgment. Surprised, Moshe was reluctant to accept it and asked why. The answer was because he slept with the non-Jewish woman. He complained that “it wasn’t me; it was my partner”. He was begging. “I swear it was him not me!” Bet Din said, “If you are correct, prove it!!”

That night, Moshe appeared to David in a dream and told him that “I need you to come up here to testify on my behalf”.

 

David shrugged it off as a bad dream. However, the next night Moshe again appeared to David in a dream, only this time it was a bit more intense. It was after the third time when he felt Moshe was choking him and demanding that he join him in the heavenly court, did David seek help. He approached the leading rabbinical figure of the generation, the Maharsha, HaRav Shmuel Aidels (some say he was the last Rabbi to write commentary with RUACH HAKODESH-Divine inspiration).

 

The Maharsha instructed David that next time Moshe appears in your dream demanding that you go there, tell him, “this issue can only be resolved in this world. If he wants, he has to come here in BET DIN OF YISRAEL”.

 

The next night, Moshe indeed appeared and received the Maharsha’s instructions. A date was set to stand trial against David.

This is one of the few times in the history of the world where a person who had gone to the other world came back.

 

In the court there was a section where Moshe would sit alone. The courtroom was very crowded. The Maharsha heard both testimonies and concluded: “Moshe you are guilty of giving the wrong advice. David committed a sin and he was repenting. He became a changed man. However, you interfered with his growth in Torah and spirituality. After the transaction when you purchased his sin, he became more lax; he regressed in his AVODAT HASHEM-serving of G-d. You have not only interfered with his life, but you also affected his future generations. Therefore, your purchase of the sin will be dealt with severely”.

 

Everyone in the courtroom heard as they were dragging Moshe away to Gehinnom.

Important to Be in a Safe Environment     

The sages say that one of Moshe’s grandchildren didn’t turn out up to par like the rest of his family. One may ask, “What went wrong?” After all, Moshe was very close to G-d; a perfect leader. In fact, there is no argument; he was the best leader we ever had. Actually, perhaps one can argue and say we see very often, the children of some of today’s leaders have a hard time with their famous parents.

 

We learn something astonishing about the relationship between Moshe and his father-in-law, Yitro. Apparently, Yitro made a deal with Moshe that his firstborn would be educated by the Grandfather through idol worship. Yes, you read it correctly, idol worship. But how can that be? Didn’t Yitro convert to Judaism? We also learn that he was a great believer. So that really doesn’t make sense. Furthermore, how can Moshe allow his son to participate?

 

Yitro was a very smart man who came to the realization that Judaism and the Torah is the real deal. But Yitro came to that conclusion through experimenting with every type of idol worship that exists in the world and at the end, when the smoked cleared, only the Torah remained standing. The greatest spiritual high and the closeness to G-d were attained through this method.

 

Yitro wanted his grandson to reach the same conclusion as he did and he persuaded Moshe to permit his son to attempt to reach this exclusively high level of closeness to G-d. However, this was very dangerous and it backfired. Although Yitro felt his grandson had a similar personality to his himself, nevertheless, apparently that was not the case. Everybody’s different.

We find that Ruth (the convert) realized that if she would go back to her country, she would regress in her spiritual quest to Judaism, and therefore decided to go travel to Israel with her former mother-in-law.

 

The sages teach us one can find all the wisdom that other religions offer, in our Torah, and there is no need to venture out.

 

We often think we are infallible and are able to maintain a level in any place, whether it is at work or moving to a new neighborhood where the level of religion is not so strong. We are human and are vulnerable and are influenced by the society around us. It’s an element of survival to surround oneself with a community, proper schooling, and friends.

 

There was only one Yitro; his uniqueness was singled out. It would be unsafe – to say the least – to do what he did.

Kid’s Section  

by Rabbi Gedalia Fogel – Pre 1A – Yeshiva Ketana of Queens
Hi! This is Rebbe speaking:

In this week’s parsha, Parshat Yitro, when Yitro saw all the miracles that Hashem had performed, he said “Baruch Hashem – blessed are you Hashem”.  We too must make it habit to say “Boruch Hashem.” When one says these two words they are confirming that Hashem is running the world and He is behind all that occurs.

 

One is also thanking Hashem for all that happens. The Baal Shem Tov used to ask others, “How are you?” just so that he can hear people answer “Baruch Hashem”.

One also should get into the habit of saying “B’Ezrat Hashem – if Hashem wills it to be”. We cannot do or accomplish anything without the will of Hashem.

 

Shifra could not manage. It was already a week since her washing machine broke and the repairman had promised to come two days ago. The dirty laundry was taking up every spare inch of space and her children were starting to complain that they did not have clean clothing. After more than one attempt by phone, Shifra made up her mind to travel to Tel Aviv to complain to the manager personally. “I am going to Tel Aviv. I will give the manager a piece of my mind! Then he’ll surely send someone immediately. There is no reason for this delay. The machine is still covered under warranty”, Shifra pronounce determinedly. “Say B’Ezrat Hashem you will go to Tel Aviv. We cannot do anything without the will of Hashem.” said Ephraim, her husband, patiently. “There is no need to say B’Ezrat Hashem. I am leaving immediately.” Shifra took her purse; made sure she had enough money for her bus fare, and headed toward the bus station for Tel Aviv. After a 45 minute bus ride, Shifra arrived in Tel Aviv. But as soon as she stepped off the bus she no longer could remember why she traveled all the way there. She had simply forgotten the reason for her trip. Shifra took the 45 minute return trip home without having accomplished a thing. “One must always remember that nothing can be attained without the will of Hashem. Remember always say B’Ezrat Hashem.” reminded Ephraim when his wife told him what happened.

 

The Shelah Hakadosh stated that when speaking about the journey of the Jews in the desert, the Torah states “Al Pi Hashem – with the words of Hashem” twice, once when they traveled and once when they rested. This teaches us that they could not travel or rest without the consent and order from Hashem. All that happens requires Hashem’s command.

 

When one sets out on a journey he recites Tefillat Haderech. He asks Hashem to allow him to arrive safely. This prayer shows us that all that occurs is up to Hashem. One can plan, know all the ways and yet not arrive at his destination. Hashem is in charge and orchestrates everything.

 

Throughout one’s day one should ask for Hashem’s assistance in all that he does and then he should thank Hashem for having accomplished his task. There is no limit to the amount of times one should use the phrases B’Ezrat Hashem and Baruch Hashem on a daily basis.

 

What have we learned today?

 

From whom do we learn the importance of saying “Baruch Hashem”?  

Yitro said “Baruch Hashem” after he heard about the great miracles. He realized that Hashem is the one that runs the world and that all that occurs is only because Hashem willed it to be that way. We see how important this concept is. When one wakes up each morning the first thing that he must do is recite Modeh Ani. He must realize that it is Hashem that has returned his soul and gave him the opportunity of a new day.

 

When should one say “B’Ezrat Hashem and Baruch Hashem?

Throughout the day one can and should say B’Ezrat Hashem and Baruch Hashem. We say B’Ezrat Hashem before we do something. We must realize that nothing can be accomplished without the will of Hashem. For example: when one goes out shopping one should say “B’Ezrat Hashem we will find what we need.” One should ask Hashem for his assistance. And then when done shopping he should remember to say “Baruch Hashem” and thank Hashem for allowing him to succeed.

Dedications

Mr. and Mrs. Avi and Bracha Behar, MAZAL TOV!! upon the engagement of their daughter, Sarah to Jonathan Mechael Yunatanov, may the Behar and Yunatanov family see much NACHAT and BRACHA

 

Rabbi Uri and Ricki Sklaar in loving memory Avraham Yosef ben Sarah   and a refuah shelema to Mila Yaffa bat Devorah Mendle

 

Mr. and Mrs. Michael Gad hatzlacha to all.

 

Mr. and Mrs. Rafi Fouzailoff for peace and unity in the world especially among our Jewish nation

 

Mr. David Bodenhiem in loving memory of his father Naftali ben Avraham MENUCHATO BEH GAN EDEN

 

Mr. and Mrs. Jack Abraham in loving memory of his father Shalom Yitzchak ben David and Yocheved and his sister Tamara bat Shalom Yitzchak and Sara Malka MENUCHATAM BEH GAN EDEN

 

Mr. and Mrs. Mark Abraham in loving memory of his father Shalom Yitzchak ben David and Yocheved and his sister Tamar bat Shalom Yitzchak and Sara Malka MENUCHATAM BEH GAN EDEN

 

Mr.and Mrs. Herbert Livi refuah shelema to all of klal Yisrael

 

Mr.and Mrs. Shlomo Shimonov for the health, parnasa, and hatzlacha for the entire Shimonov and Matat family and all of klal Yisrael

 

Mr.and Mrs. Yaacov and Sarah Nager for refuah shelema Tovah bat Mirriam Leah, Sarah bat Shulamit

 

Mr.and Mrs. David Hodzibekof in loving memory of his father Efraim ben Yeshua MENUCHATO BEH GAN EDEN

 

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Parsha Beshalach Highlights
The Essence of Bircat Hamazon
The Influence of the Evil Empire
Why did Pharaoh Chase the Jews One Last Time?
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Parshat Beshalach Highlights

First Portion: JEWISH PRIDE!!!!  One cannot help but to get excited when reading Parshat Beshalach. G-d showed Pharaoh and the Egyptians who’s boss!! Then we made our long antici-pated exodus out of Egypt. The Israelites left with pride and dignity; they left by daylight and not sneaking out at night; we left when G-d wanted, not when Pharaoh wanted. G-d took pride in us and took us out in first class; HE chose the Jewish people to be his ambassadors in this world; we are the reason the world exist.

 

Mark Twain, a classic American writer, had anti-Semitic views which were quite well known, as he wrote numerous unsavory articles about the Jews. However, he was quite impressed with their accomp-lishments. Twain writes, and I paraphrase, “many empires came and went, however, the Jews, despite all the persecution they’ve encountered in history, not only survived but their contributions to the world dwarf many other.

 

It’s evident that G-d wants us to be his ambassadors, He took us out of Egypt with pride, HE split the sea – one of the most astonishing acts in history, and finally, the revelation at Mount Sinai. In fact, we read at the Seder on Pesach when we sing DAYENU, EILU KEREVANU LIFNAI HAR SINAI VELO NATAN LANU ET HATORAH DAYENU – “If You, Hashem, just gave us the opportunity to stand at Mount Sinai and not even given us the Torah that would have been enough”. Just the ability to stand with pride at Mount Sinai brought on a level of spiritual high; it raised us above the rest. The fact that we got the Torah, the fact that we got the ultimate prize, should make us feel very good about ourselves.

 

However, with the superiority comes responsibility. The world looks at us with a magnifying glass. A survey was taken by the New York Times as to what graced the headlines most frequently. Unequivocally, besides for the USA, Jews and the State of Israel were the most frequent in the past forty years!

 

We are Jews and we’re number 1……Let’s hold our heads high…and be proud!!

 

* We see the selflessness and the leadership skills of Moshe. While the Israelites were busy with their personal needs in leaving Egypt, Moshe

retrieved the bones of Yosef to be brought to the Promised Land as had been promised.

 

* G-d led them out guided by the Cloud of Glory, which was chosen to be their tour guide until they reached the land of Israel.

 

* Pharaoh, once again, has a change of heart and declares that they must return. He unleashes his army, including 600 elite chariots, and chases after the Israelites.

 

Second Portion: * The Israelites were afraid as they saw the Egyptian army in tremendous unison.

 

* In his assurance to the Israelites, Moshe said ”you shall not see them again”. “Their status of superpower will be taken away and they will never be a threat again.” The Rambam (Maimonides), who lived in Egypt for a period of time, mentioned in his writings that that he lived in Egypt. He writes, “I am transgressing the commandment of ‘it’s forbidden for Jews to travel or live in Egypt on a permanent basis”’. One of the sources for this commandment is found here, ”you shall not see them again”. It’s astonishing how there was a thriving Jewish community in Alexandria many years back, which hosted one of the biggest Synagogues in Jewish history (5000 seats). The Rabbi had to raise a flag indicating that the congregants should say Amen.

 

Third Portion: * The Israelites, who had the sea in front of them and the Egyptians chasing behind them, were ordered and reassured by Moshe, via G-d, to jump into the water, for it will split and you will walk on dry land.

 

* In one of the most amazing moments in history, Moshe raised his rod as ordered by G-d and the sea split!

 

* G-d said to Moshe, “My name will be glorified through Pharaoh and the Egyptian army; the Egyptians will be in fear, for they will know that I am G-d”. Who will be in fear? Is it the people who stayed behind in Egypt? The ones that will be in fear are none other than the Egyptian army before they perished at sea. G-d said that it is worth it to split the sea merely to have the Egyptians soldiers realize the truth as the waters come together sealing their death. After all, how often does one have the opportunity to clearly see the truth?

 

* The Israelites walked through the sea on a dry surface with walls of water to the left and right of them.

 

* The Egyptian army pursued the Israelites, going through the water.

 

Fourth Portion: * After the last of the children of Israel walked through the sea, and as the whole Egyptian army were now positioned between the walls of water, G-d ordered Moshe to raise his hands once more and the water will go back to its original state. Moshe did as G-d commanded and the Egyptian army was decimated.

 

* After seeing the miraculous events that G-d had done on their behalf, the Israelites had the ultimate belief in G-d and they reciprocated by singing a song, ”Az Yashir”.

 

* This is the most famous of the ten songs found in the scripture.

 

* There are a number of hints in the Torah about the redemption. ”Az Yashir”, i.e. “then he will sing”. The commentaries question that it should say Az Shar – and then he sang. It means, they deduce, that he will sing in the future, in the Messianic era.

 

* Another explanation of ”Az Yashir” is that Moshe’s singing came naturally; it wasn’t forced. Singing is the ultimate form of appreciation that one can give G-d.

 

* Many recite this song when in need of a mate and for Parnassa (livelihood). It says that it’s harder for G-d to match two people for marriage than it is the splitting of the sea. The fact that match finding and Az Yashir are linked together hints that there is tremendous merit for reciting, particularly for this purpose.

 

* We learn a lesson from Miriam, Moshe’s sister. She gathered the women and they danced amongst themselves separately  from the men. Our Jewish mothers and ancestors throughout history, in every continent, took pride in their modest behavior.

 

* To maintain trust in G-d is brought out in these passages through the laws of ‘Chok’ (laws that have no reason, it just has to be done). At Marah, one of the stops the Jews made after leaving the sea, the water was bitter. G-d told Moshe to place the bitter tree into the bitter water and it will turn sweet. There was no logic (as opposed to the cases in Parshat Mishpatim); just do it, no questions asked.

 

Fifth Portion: * G-d introduces us to Mann, His heavenly food. Mann has characteristics of Olam Habah; it has no side effects and no relieving of you is necessary. The more spiritual one got, the better the Mann tasted. It can taste like any food you desire.

 

* This is another sign of G-d’s power. Even in the wilderness, G-d provides and serves His people like they’re in heaven.

 

Sixth Portion: * Every morning, Mann was “placed at the doorstep along with the morning paper”.

 

* It was not delivered on Shabbat. However, on Friday there would be a double portion.

 

* Shabbat represents Olam Habah and the bread (that we say Hamotzi on) represents the Mann. This is one of the reasons why we cover the challah. If one notices, every Jewish home has a tablecloth for their Shabbat table. One reason, besides being fancy-shmancy! is that we replicate how the Mann came down to our ancestors covered with a top and a bottom layer (the tablecloth).

 

Seventh Portion:  * After all the open miracles that happened to the Jews, there was a certain respect which the nations of the world had for the Israelites who represented G-d. It goes without saying that today, when the Jews have the Torah, they represent G-d as well. So when someone starts up with the Jews, they actually start up with G-d. Fresh from one of the most miraculous, hands-on, G-dly events in history, the Amalek nation had the audacity to wage war with G-d’s representatives, the Jews, and in the process desensitized the nations of the world from the awe of G-d. For this reason, Amalek is despised by G-d and orders the Israelites to wipe them out.

The Essence of
Bircat Hamazon (grace after meal)
In this week’s Parsha, we rid ourselves of Pharaoh and of Egypt as we leave and start our journey to the Promised Land. It was a monumental event and one that we remember often in our prayers and holidays.

If one is sensitive and smart enough, he will realize that man is here on earth for a very brief time and is given opportunities to accomplish his mission. While he’s working on fulfilling his goals, he is provided with nourishment to sustain himself. The sustenance which G-d provides should be appreciated. We show appreciation by saying brachot before and after we eat. Food is the fuel that keeps us going. As a matter of fact, perhaps the appreciation we demonstrate for the food might be part of man’s mission.

 

The Sages enacted Bircat Hamazon-Grace after Meals, so that we can thank G-d for that pastrami sandwich. It says in the Torah “VE-ACHALTA VE-SAVATA UBERACHTA” – “one eats then he’s satiated then he blesses”. This is the main biblical source for the grace after meals.

 

Looking carefully at Bircat Hamazon, one realizes that we mention how G-d took us out of Egypt. The exodus was a miracle and it showed His mighty hand. However, what is the purpose of mentioning this in Bircat Hamazon?  Yes, I quenched my desire and am now able to perform the duties which HE placed on me, but what does the exodus from Egypt have to do with thanking HIM for my meal? What does my pastrami sandwich have to do with the price of tea in china?

 

In order to understand, we have to learn a fundamental Jewish concept. There are four types of life in the world. The lowest level is an inanimate object, called DOMEM. DOMEM consists of rocks, earth, a table etc. Next level up is TZOMEACH which is vegetation, for example, flowers. A step higher is CHAI which consists of animals. The highest level is us, Humans, we are called MEDABER. The literal translation means to speak.

 

Let’s examine the main biblical source of Bircat Hamazon. It is important to understand what the root of the word ACHILA- to eat, is. ACHILA could come from two roots, let us explore both.

One meaning is to break down, to devour. The root word in Hebrew is KILAYON. For instance, an animal tears apart its prey.

 

Another root that ACHILA can be derived from is the word KALAH, which means complete, perfect.

The Sages found two roots of the word ACHILA-to eat. We see with our own eyes how both roots of ACHILA are correct and it depends on us as to how we utilize and “label” it.

 

Let’s take soil, which is the inanimate object of DOMEM, and plant seeds in it. Within a short period of time after planting the seeds, plants and vegetation will grow. This is called TZOMEACH. The animals, CHAI, then proceed to eat the vegetation. Man, MEDABER, then captures the animal, slaughters it, and then consumes it. Now man has nourishment to complete his mission in life and be perfect. This is what ACHILA is intended for, to reach perfection.

 

We can also use the other definition and eat like an animal by tearing apart the food for pleasure only without reaching any goal and without reaching perfection. Clearly, the choice and power is ours.

G-d kept on telling Moshe to tell Pharaoh, “let my people go so that they shall serve me”. Hashem was demanding, “Let them go so that they can be complete in their mission”. This is the only reason why the Jews were let go, to achieve perfection.

 

The essence of BIRKAT HAMAZON is chiefly to bless and appreciate G-d for what he gave us. The only way to bless Him is to have our freedom. For this reason G-d took us out of Egypt. Secondly, and equally as important, to fuel us so that we can complete our mission in life and truly attain perfection.

The Influence of the Evil Empire

There are two interesting questions pertaining to the Jews leaving Egypt. Firstly, one would think that when leaving Egypt, the Parsha would start off with trumpet-like-fiesta introduction. After all, it’s been two hundred and ten years under slavery and now the Jews are free; free to serve G-d, free to keep Shabbat, free to do all the mitzvot, free to have nice kiddushes on Shabbat!! Instead the Parsha begins with the word VAYEHI, which connotes negativity. WHY ARE WE NEGATIVE? WE JUST LEFT SLAVERY!!!

 

The second question is, if one notices, in all our prayers we say ZECHER YITZIAT MITZRAYIM – “remembrance of the exodus out of Egypt”. However, that translation is not correct. It should say YETZIAT MEMITZRAYIM – “going out from Egypt. Why do we say YETZIAT MITZRAYIM?

 

The answer is that Pharaoh was a wicked man and Egypt was the most impure country in the history of the world. In fact, the Rambam, Maimonides, who lived in Egypt, mentions in his Introduction to his books that “I am sinning every moment that I’m residing here”. Pharaoh purposely escorted the Israelites out of Egypt. In the process, he put a seal of the impurity that was the essence of the evil empire. That’s the reason why it starts off with the word Vayehi – bad. The impurity, the negative energy, continued into the nation of Israel. Most of the Jews who left Egypt died in the desert. It was only the next generation that entered the Promised Land.

 

When we say YETZIAT MITZRAYIM, that means that Egypt should go out of you, the impurity shall depart. We should be free and clear of the impurities of that evil empire and we shall be the pure souls that will achieve greatness as the chosen Jewish people.

Why did Pharaoh Chase the Jews One Last Time? 

One of the old time questions that one has to scratch his head and ask, why did Pharaoh, after getting beat up with all the plagues, choose to reconsider and chase after the Jews. If that’s not the ultimate HELLO!! Then try this – he sees the sea split! Yes, that’s right; G-d accommodates the Israelites big time and rolls out the red carpet in the middle of the sea for them to pass. Now, if I’m not Jewish and I see those events before my eyes, I would call up, or look up on the internet the nearest mohel, because I’m sold. Nevertheless, Pharaoh, with all his force, with all his firepower, pursues the Jews and still thinks he can beat them; go figure.

 

If we look at the events more carefully, we’ll be able to see the measure for measure, which G-d dictates on this world. Although sometimes G-d’s measure for measure requires more than one lifetime, but that’s for a different discussion.

 

In essence, the message to Pharaoh “you threw and killed Jewish babies at sea; I’ll kill you (the Egyptians) at sea!” We know the reason why Pharaoh was motivated to instruct his soldiers to do such a monstrous act because of his horoscope advisors who warned him of a threat. An Israelite born at a certain juncture in time will have the power to destroy you, and his demise will be from water. Therefore, Pharaoh chose the method of destruction for the Jewish babies, who were born at a certain time, through the NileRiver, water. After the death of the first born, the last plague, Pharaoh was ready to finally give up on the Jews. However, when his sources informed him that the Israelites were in course, en route towards the sea, he figured the horoscope was coming into fruition. This is where Moshe, the Jewish leader, was destined to die and he, Pharaoh, will have the glorious task to finish him off at sea. The horoscope, however, was correct though, but Pharaoh’s calculation of time was premature, indeed; Moshe’s demise was water. When G-d told him to speak to the rock and Moshe, instead, hit it and water came out. For this reason, he was punished by not entering the Promised Land, Israel.

Kid’s Section  

by Rabbi Gedalia Fogel – Pre 1A – Yeshiva Ketana of Queens
Hi! This is Rebbe speaking:

In this week’s parsha, Parshat B’Shalach, the Jews left Egypt in a hurry. The Egyptians were close behind them when they reached a dead-end. Or so it seemed. There was water ahead of them. Nachshon Ben Aminadav did not hesitate. He jumped into the deep water of the Yardein and the water split creating a path for them to cross. In last week’s Parsha, Parshat Bo, the Jews were commanded to eat the Karban Pesach dressed and ready with their sticks in their hands so that they can leave Egypt immediately. They did not even wait for their bread to rise. They took the dough with them on their backs. Why all the rush?

 

In Judaism a person is taught to do things with calmness and clarity.  One should not hurry into things. In this case, when they were leaving Egypt they are told to rush. We learn from here that we should do all mundane things slowly with clarity and thought, but when it comes to a Mitzvah, a good deed, one must immediately rush to do it. Do not wait, do not think twice.

 

When the disciples of the Kotzker Rebbe came to tell him the great news that a train was being built to Warsaw, the Rebbe was not impressed. “Your followers will no longer have to travel with horse and buggy. They will have a much shorter trip.” The Kotzker Rebbe answered, “What’s the big deal? Must we always be in a rush?”

 

The only time one must hurry is to do Mitzvot. Today we live a rush society. Everything can be achieved, received or sent immediately. This often does not allow us to think clearly. If you walk in the streets you will see everyone is in a hurry.

 

One must do a mitzvah quickly as if running away from a burning fire. But we must also make sure that we do not just start the Mitzvah, we must complete it.

 

The Chazon Ish asked one of his disciples of go from Bnei Brak to Yerushalayim to help another Jew. “No problem, tomorrow I have a wedding in Yerushalayim.” The Chazon Ish berated him and said, “You must not put off helping another Jew. You must immediately rush to do a mitzvah. Your wedding tomorrow has nothing to do with it.”

 

There is much that can be accomplished if one does Mitzvot with speed. Reb Meir Shapiro (founder of the world-wide Daf Yomi) founded the great Yeshiva, Yeshivat Chachmei Lublin. The students wanted to do something in honor of Rabbi Shapiro’s birthday. Reb Meir requested that they try to make a Siyum Hashas (finish learning all of Shas) in one day. They divided the entire Shas among all 250 students. Each student took as much as he felt he could accomplish. One boy, Daniel, took the entire tractate of Baba Batra. When evening came they looked for Daniel. He had not attended dinner, nor did he participate in any activities. Daniel was located in his dorm room finishing up the last few lines of Baba Batra. We see from here how much one can accomplish with an enthusiastic rush into Torah learning and Mitzvot.

 

It was an hour before Shabbat when the Brisker Rav summoned Reb Menachem Puresh, a well-known writer. Reb Menachem hurried to the home of the Brisker Rav. “Can you please write up a nice letter asking people for their assistance in helping an unfortunate Talmid Chacham (learned man). Reb Menachem took to the task of the Brisker Rav but could not help but wonder what the urgency was. Couldn’t it wait till after the holy Shabbat? Upon completion he asked the Rav why the letter had to be written immediately. His response was, “One does not put off doing a Mitzvah. Do we know what tomorrow will bring? Can we be sure that if we put off doing a Mitzvah we will not lose the opportunity to do the good deed?”
What have we learned today?
What are some examples of when the Jews rushed before they left Egypt? They were told to eat the Korban Pesach when they were all prepared to leave. They should even have their walking sticks in their hands. They did not have time to bake their bread. They ended up taking it with them and it turned into Matzah from the heat. We also see this with Nachshon Ben Aminadav. He did not wait; he immediately jumped into the water and merited having the water split so that the Jews could safely cross over.

 

When is one supposed to hurry and when must one remain calm and do things at a slower pace? One must rush to do Mitzvot. Do not delay. Do not wait to think it through. Don’t put off doing a good deed for a more convenient time. At all other times one should practice doing things at a much slower pace. One is told to think before he speaks or acts.

Dedications

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Pinkhasov – Mazal Tov on the birth of a baby girl.

 

Rabbi and Rebetzin Gedalia Fogel, MAZAL TOV! upon the bar mitzvah of their son Shimon

 

Mr. and Mrs. Michael Gad hatzlacha to all.

 

Mr. and Mrs. Rafi Fouzailoff for peace and unity in the world especially among our Jewish nation

 

Mr. David Bodenhiem in loving memory of his father Naftali ben Avraham MENUCHATO BEH GAN EDEN

 

Mr. and Mrs. Rafael Innoyatov for the health, parnasa, and hatzlaha to Rafael ben Yehuda, Gavriel ben Yehuda, Yehuda ben Avraam, and entire Innoyatov family and all of klal Israel.

 

Mr. and Mrs. Mordechay and Ricky Hafesov in honor of their son Gavriel upon his bar mitzvah MAZAL TOV!

 

Kimyagarov family David, Rachamim,Shmuel and all the grandchildren in loving memory of their Mother the ESHET CHAIL Raya bat Frecha

 

Mr. and Mrs. Joey Alibayof in loving memory of his mother Nurit Zulecha bat Malka and refuah shelema to his father Shmuel Naaman ben Yael

 

Dr. and Mrs. Arkadiy Izrailov in loving memory of his father Emanuel ben Chusni MENUCHATO BEH GAN EDEN

 

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Murdakhayev in loving memory of his father Baruchai ben Berucha and Refael ben Beitya MENUCHATAM BEH GAN EDEN

 

The Matmon family would like to wish a happy birthday to Yakoby Matmon AD MEAH VEH ESRIM!! and it should be full of MITZVOT!!

 

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Parshat Bo Highlights

“I DON’T WANT TO OFFEND YOUR-MAJESTY, YOUR-HIGHNESS, BUT YOUR FIRST BORN BOYS WILL DIETONIGHT” said Moshe to Pharaoh.

 

That’s a weird way to address a king: respect and a fist in the mouth!  Before the tenth plague, Moshe informs Pharaoh that all of his servants will be looking for Moshe begging him to stop the plague. Turns out, it was actually Pharaoh himself who, in the middle of the night, in pajamas, went door to door trying to find Moshe to beg that he and the Israelites should leave.

Moshe was very accurate and meticulous when speaking to Pharaoh. If so, why wasn’t he more accurate by proclaiming that indeed it would be Pharaoh himself who will be parading in his nightly attire seeking him?

 

Moshe acted properly in treating the king with respect and not hurting an authoritative figure. By pointing a finger at Pharaoh and telling him “this will happen to you” is a gross lack of respect.

 

RESPECT?!-EXCUSE ME CHABIBI! Pharaoh was a RASHA! He tortured and enslaved the Jews; he ordered the execution of Jewish babies! You want to give this monster respect?! On the contrary, Pharaoh should be dragged around town and humiliated!!

However, the Torah is trying to teach us about respecting authority, any authority. There has to be respect for the leaders, teachers and parents. This is a very hard and foreign concept for us Americans to fathom, as we live in a democratic society where every time a politician slips, we scream “throw the bum out”!

 

The National Rifle Association has taken an unfathomable position after the Newtown tragedy, in which twenty six people, mostly children, were killed; they are in favor of guns. Truth be told, the NRA represents the epitome of democracy. The NRA was created as the result of the second amendment which permitted guns to be possessed. This was to ensure that no government will turn tyranny; hence there should be an armed militia accessible, just in case.  Initially, this seems very appropriate. However, although there are plenty of positives to a democratic system, all of them are at the expense of the watering down of respect for authoritative figures.

 

The Torah wants to emphasize the importance of having respect for authority; a king, a president, no matter how much the late show hosts poke fun of them. They represent the people and they enforce order in society. G-d loves an orderly society, even at the expense of believing in Him.

 

First Portion: * Even Pharaoh’s advisers suggested that he release the Israelites, but he refused. Unfortunately, the advisers still followed his command. History often repeats itself; this is the first of many times where “they just followed orders” from their evil leader. One cannot do that; opposition groups should have arose if they thought Pharaoh was wrong; grass roots should have begun to make themselves known. However, they didn’t, and therefore the Egyptian nation as a whole was responsible for their actions, just as Pharaoh was.

 

* Moshe and Aharon threaten to bring another plague, locusts.

 

* Pharaoh’s response was to let just the men go, and leave the women and children. Moshe obviously refused, setting the stage for the locusts.

 

Second Portion: * Pharaoh runs to find Moshe to beg him to stop the plague, stating, “I have sinned to G-d”. Sounds sincere, no?! Ha! Only a short time later, Pharaoh returns to his stance of refusal to let them go.

 

* Moshe brought upon Egypt the next plague, darkness, through the command of G-d.

 

* Many of the Israelites who were not following in the way of G-d perished in this plague. The reason why G-d chose this particular plague is because He did not want the Egyptians to say, “We’re not the only ones being punished”. By the time the Egyptians arose from the darkness, those Jews were already buried.

 

Third Portion: * Pharaoh said to Moshe, “You can leave, but your flock and cattle shall remain”. Moshe retorted back, “We will leave with all we have”.

 

* G-d made it so that the Jews were able to take gold, silver, and clothing from the Egyptians. The Egyptians themselves honored the requests of the Israelites to “lend them” gold, silver etc.

 

Fourth Portion: * G-d informs Moshe of the last plague, death of the Egyptian firstborn children.

 

* G-d instructs Moshe and Aharon how to fulfill the first commandment of the Torah. G-d informs them starting with “This month, I will implement a calendar system”. The calendar is based on the moon and is regulated by the sun. The time span between one new moon and the next is 29 days, 12 hours, 44 minutes, and 3 ½ seconds. Since a month has to be composed of complete days, the months alternate between 29 and 30 days. So a 12-month year contains 354 days, as opposed to 365 days in a solar year. In order to make up the eleven day difference which, after many years, will cause a problem because Nissan, a spring month (Pesach has to be in the spring), will fall out in the winter. Therefore, the Torah instituted a leap year, which adds a 13th month (Adar ll) to the year, seven times every nineteen years. This will ensure that Pesach will fall out in the springtime each year.

 

* The Seder night of Pesach, which we still commemorate today, is a very powerful night because that was when G-d showed tremendous mercy on our ancestors many years ago. On that night, back then, we were instructed to perform the Pesach offering, which consists of roasting a lamb or sheep (these animals were sacred and were the Egyptian gods, by slaughtering them, it’s a slap in the face to the Egyptians). The blood from the offering was to be painted on the doorpost. While we were eating the Pesach offering in our homes, G-d skipped over our houses. Only the Egyptians were struck when He killed the firstborns.

 

* We are introduced in this portion as to how to perform our obligation on the holiday of Pesach.

 

Fifth Portion: * Interestingly, the Israelites were commanded not leave their homes on the night of the death of the firstborns of the Egyptians, “or else the angel of death will smite you too.”  One must ask, wasn’t it understood that G-d himself would kill the Egyptian firstborns? Still, the angel was specifically instructed to kill any Jews who left their homes. We learn an important lesson; one is not permitted to feel good in watching their enemy being tortured or killed. Although the Egyptians tortured the Jews, G-d still made sure not to let them see what was done to the Egyptians.

 

Sixth Portion: * Pharaoh ran out in his pajamas in the middle of the night to find Moshe and begged him to stop the plagues and to leave. He said the whole Jewish nation should leave.

 

*There were 600,000 men between the ages of 20 and 60 who left Egypt.

 

*In their haste, they left while the bread did not finish baking. This bread is called matzoh.

 

*The Jews were in exile 210 years.

 

Seventh Portion: * We conclude the Parsha with two passages, one is about the firstborn and the other is teaching the future generations. As we got prepared to leave Egypt, we were in essence graduating to a “nation” status. The narrative is directing us from slave status to a bright future where, now, the father of the household has a say and influence, and will be able to pass down the tradition of the gift that was given by G-d – the Torah.

The Light of the Plaque of Darkness
What’s the reason that “darkness” was one of the ten plagues?

 

Rashi, one of the main commentaries on the Torah, mentions that there were Jews who weren’t worthy of leaving Egypt and died during the plague of darkness. G-d didn’t want the Egyptians to say “you see, the Jews are also dying”. All the Jews who perished were buried during this plague.

Our Sages give us another reason for the darkness. The scripture mentions that the Egyptians were struck with darkness. Furthermore, the Passuk adds an extra statement that the Israelites had light. The commentaries explain that this particular darkness and light were very unusual.

 

We learned in Bereshit that G-d created light on the first day. Later on, the scripture again mentions that He created light on the fourth day. The Sages explain that the “first day light” was a magnificent spiritual light that was taken away and brought into the world for the righteous to seek it.

Just how is this light seen? Who has the privilege to see it?

Actually, one can see very clear and far with this hidden light.

When Yitzchak gave the bracha to Yaacov, who he thought was Eisav, he knew it was the right son because he smelled the apples of Gan Eden. He also envisioned two shining lights in the future, Yosef of Shisa and Yakum of Tzaroros.

 

When the enemies of the Jews desired to enter the Temple Mount, they declared “let a Jew enter first”. This Jew was Yosef of Shisa. They told Yosef that whatever you bring out of the Temple is yours. When he brought out the golden candelabra they told him, “it’s not fitting for a commoner to use this, enter again”. Realizing the magnitude of what he had just done, he refused. “Enough! I have angered my Creator once already” he cried. Consequentially, they killed him for disobeying.

 

Yakum was the nephew of R’ Yossi ben Yoezer. Once, he was riding a horse on Shabbat when he came across his uncle who was being carried on a horse on his way to the gallows. He exclaimed: “Look at the horse that my master  let me ride and look at the horse your master let you ride, I am indulging in sin and am fortunate in my lot, while you are engaged in Torah all your life and will probably be hanged”. R’ Yossi replied: “If this is the lot of those who anger G-d, how much more is the reward of those that do his will?” Countered Yakum: “Has anyone done his will more than you?” R’ Yossi replied: “If this is how G-d acts towards those that do his will, how much more so to those who anger him!”

The impact of this reply entered his heart like a serpent’s venom. Where then he went and killed himself.

Yakum had watched his uncle being led to his execution without displaying the slightest bit of compassion. On the contrary, he mocked him. Still, in the darkness that enveloped Yakum, R’ Yossi’s words made him see the light. The same is true of Yosef of Shisa. The sages say that they both entered Gan Eden for realizing and connecting to G-d at their last moments in this world.

 

Why are these two people the ones that Yitzchak envisioned when he gave the brachot to Yaacov, aren’t there greater Tzadikim and martyrs in our history?

 

The answer is that Yitzchak saw that even the worst of the worst have potential to see the light. Because of these future descendants, he gave the Brachot to Yaacov.

 

What happens when one looks straight at the sun? It blinds you. This is what happened to the Egyptians and to the Jews who didn’t survive. G-d said, “I’d rather blind and kill them with the spiritual light than with other plagues”. It seems like the darkness was the glare of the hidden light that can only be seen and benefited by the righteous. However, it’s detrimental to the unworthy.

 

We have to strengthen the light and minimize the darkness, the glare, the confusion. This can only be accomplished by putting value in the Torah. The Torah is written on parchment which in Hebrew is called OR with the letter AIN. OR is also called light when spelled with an ALEF. One can transform the darkness of this world into a bright light and have a clear vision straight to the heavens.

Holding on to Power 

How Pharaoh could not let the Jews out sooner?

I’m sure he comprehended the awesome power of the Almighty. Even after seeing the first couple of Plagues one can figure out there’s somebody up there. One doesn’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure out that G-d is powerful. A few frogs on one’s plate and blood in their beer mug would be pretty convincing. However Pharaoh chose to go the distance, ten plaques.

Who did he think he was Muhammad Ali?

 

One can easily relate to the powerful little King. (He was reportedly very short). Today our news is full of people like him. We’ve seen Lance Armstrong, the cyclist who lied for many years about taking performance enhancing drugs. He finally admitted it on the Oprah Winfrey show.

 

Ironically he was on the Larry King Show, a prominent talk show host, a number of years ago and got angry, unequivocally denying and mocking his accusers. Here he is years later admitting his guilt.

 

How can one face people after denying so convincingly? That’s embarrassing.

 

One of the greatest catchers in the game of Baseball was not elected into the Baseball Hall of Fame because he is suspected of using performance enhanced drugs. The writers, by not electing him,(the writers vote for players) indirectly accused him of taking the drugs. Piazza has not spoken or showed any protest in their decision not to induct him.

 

The Talmud teaches us in Tractate Ketubot-Silence is similar to admission-SHTEEKAH K’EHODA-AH.

All three of the individuals that we’ve discussed above have held powerful, pressurized, and prominent positions. It is not easy to let go of these powerful positions.

 

King Saul was known for his modesty. In fact when he was to be anointed as king, he hid to avoid being chosen as King.

 

Saul sinned by not killing the entire nation of Amalek. He was punished for that and lost his Kingship. When the prophet Samuel told him that he would no longer be King he requested to be King for a little longer because he felt so bad about losing the power.

 

At the end Pharaoh eventually admitted that G-d was great as we read every day in the famous song Az Yasheer….”Me Chamocha …..Me Kmocha …” The commentators state that the reason the first Chamocha is with a Chaf and the second with a Kaf is because Pharaoh was drowning as he stated “Who is like you … G-d …”It took ten plagues, the splitting of the sea and then the waters returning for Pharaoh to finally admit that G-d was the greatest and most powerful.

We are called Jews (Yehudeem) because of Yehudah. Yehudah had the important trait of admission. When Tamar sent over his staff, he admitted that he was wrong. He embarrassed himself by doing so, but he admitted to the truth.

 

It is very difficult to relinquish power. Power is very enticing and addicting. Once someone has tasted it, he does not want to give it up. However, we must always remember that, there are certain things which are more important than power. The truth and admitting to one’s faults are seen by G-d as the more important traits. In fact it is from the tribe of Judah that all Kings after Saul are descended from.

Candy Man 

Where is the candy man? Is the candy man here today?

 

No, I’m not referring to Sammy Davis, Jr. and the famous hit he had in the early 1970s ‘The Candy Man’. Most shuls (Bait Hakneset) have a designated candy man. I must emphasize that it’s important that a shul have one!!! It motivates the children to come. I remember the shul I grew up in, the Sefardic shul on 67th off Queens Blvd in Queens. The shul had a candy man named Nissimico, z’l. He was a feisty old man who had a tremendous love for the shul and its congregants. I remember every time a kid would approach him for candy, he would ask them ‘Are you a good boy or bad boy?” and we would answer back “a good boy”. Then he would say with a mean face holding back a smile “No, you’re a bad boy”, and he would give us a lollypop. We would always sneak a peek over our shoulder and see him winking and smiling at our fathers.

 

Today, my son and I go to a number of shuls Shabbat morning; my son looks forward to get his candy from Rabbi Friedman at the Chofetz Chaim or Simcha at Abramov’s shul. It’s important that the grown-ups (my wife might disagree if I’m referring to myself) not munch on the candies before Kiddush. One might think since I’m allowed to have my coffee or tea in the morning, then one would be allowed to have the candy, since the bracha is also a shehakol. Rav Ovadia Yosef says, one is allowed to have the coffee or tea as long as there is no sugar in it. Sugar has the ability to make a person feel full which will result in a ‘confident I’m okay’ attitude. One has to approach prayer with a broken heart, with a feeling of “Boy, it’s a tough world out there”. If one is a little hungry, his body gives him that message. He then would be in the proper frame of mind to pray and to ask G-d for his needs.

 

Today, kids get taffy pops instead of hard candies. (How many of you remember the Elite taffies with the white wrappers?) There are many types of candies out there, so much more so than the conventional lollypops Nisimico gave us. But I, must confess from what I remember, the lollys tasted just as good. There are many great memories of the shul of my youth; getting lollypops from the candy man was one of them.

 

I wanted to mention to Dr. Neil Levey who is one of the psychologists I use to enhance the quality of our newsletter and lectures, that your grandfather Nisimico was a very special man who put a lot of smiles on children’s faces.

Kid’s Section  

by Rabbi Gedalia Fogel – Pre 1A – Yeshiva Ketana of Queens
Hi! This is Rebbe speaking:

In this week’s parsha, Parshat Bo, we continue to see the great Emunah, trust in Hashem that the Jews had. Pharaoh and his people still did not trust in Hashem, even after seeing the first nine Makot. From where do we see this? Hashem told Moshe Rabbeinu to warn Pharaoh that he will bring Makot B’Chorot. He should warn Pharaoh that at 12:00 midnight Hashem will strike every single household in Egypt. He will kill their firstborn. However, when Moshe told Pharaoh he said “at around 12:00, Hashem will bring Makot B’Chorot.” Why did he say “around 12:00”?  Moshe Rabbeinu knew that the Egyptians still did not fully believe in Hashem and if their clocks strike 12:00 and their first born was not yet dead then they will call him a liar. Of course Hashem performed this plague exactly 12:00 midnight, but Moshe was afraid that their clocks may be a minute or two off.

 

On the other hand, the contrast is clearly seen with the Emunah, belief that the Jews had. They so strongly believed that they were willing to do, with Mesirat Nefesh, what Hashem had commanded them. Hashem told the Jews to slaughter and roast a sheep. This meant that they would slaughter and roast the very God of the Egyptians, the sheep. And yet they did not hesitate. They did just that. Hashem skipped over their houses and they were not affected by Makot B’Chorot.

 

Reb Moshe Leib Sassover was traveling through the woods when he was captured by a group of bandits. They were about to kill him. He pleaded with them and they relented on the condition that Reb Moshe Leib teaches a young child that was with them, the chief’s son. Reb Moshe Leib Sassover sat with this child and proceeded to teach him, but the young lad did not grasp what he was being taught. Each time the youngster would receive a severe beating. The Rabbi noticed that the child did not flinch or cry while being beaten. “How is it that you can receive such lashings and do not cry out in pain?” “I think of three things at the time I’m being whipped. The first thing I must remember is that it is my father who is hitting me. He must surely be doing this out of love. The second is that I always tell myself this must be the last beating that I will receive. And thirdly, how long can this go on? This situation will not be forever. If I have these three things in mind I don’t feel the pain so immensely.” Reb Moshe Leib Sassover repeated this story. “We must remember the great lesson that this young boy taught us. When all seems terribly hard and frustrating we must remember that it is all orchestrated by our Father in Heaven. And he is putting us in this situation out of love. And we should believe that this will be the last hardship and Hashem will surely bring Moshiach speedily in our days.

 

The Jews were greatly rewarded for their belief in Hashem. They left Egypt with all the valuables and precious possessions of the Egyptians.

 

Reb Moshe Friedman opened a Gemach, a free loan society, to be able to help other Jews in need. He saw that the economic situation in Eretz Yisrael, where he lived, was very difficult. But the amount of money that he had was not enough. There were some that he had to turn down, due to lack of funds. Reb Moshe traveled to America to collect money for his Gemach. He hired David to drive him around. “You can try to go to Mr. Crassberg. He is extremely wealthy but practically impossible to reach. There are only few that were lucky enough to get a donation from him. Actually, it’s probably a waste of time.” “Drive me to his home immediately. I must do my utmost to help my fellow Jews.” replied Rabbi Friedman.  They arrived shortly at the beautiful estate of Mr. Crassberg. They gently pressed the ringer at the gate’s entrance. “Whom may I say is here?” “Moshe Friedman.” They were escorted into the mansion and treated with great dignity. “Serve cake and fruit, and I will be with him momentarily. Moshe Friedman was seated on the most elegant sofa. He did not have to wait long. Mr. Crassberg entered. “Oh, you’re Moshe Friedman. I’ve actually been expecting a Mr. Moshe Friedman, a contractor with whom I am to close on a big deal. But since you’re already here, tell me what can I do for you?” Reb Moshe Friedman told Mr. Crassberg all about his gemach. Mr. Crassberg took out his checkbook and wrote out a check for $150,000! When Reb Moshe returned to the car he announced to his driver. “When one truly believes then Hashem truly helps.”

 

A small congregation had a flood in their local synagogue. As a result they had to do major construction. Aharon, the manager, took out the Sefer Torah from the ark before the construction and brought it to the scribes, Reb Yosef and Reb Shlomo. They carefully checked the Sefer Torah and saw that there were many mistakes. It was approximately $10,000 to fix. “The synagogue does not have the funds now. We will use it as is.” said Aharon. “If there is even one error in the Sefer Torah it may not be used.” Reb Yosef replied. “How can we allow the shul to use such a Torah?” Reb Shlomo and Reb Yosef decided to do the corrections without any pay. “Hashem will surely help us.”

 

After painstakingly and meticulously correcting all the errors, Reb Yosef and his partner, Reb Shlomo joyously traveled to this small town. On the way, they stopped in a cemetery to use the restroom. An officer came over to them and asked to see their license and registration. Not knowing what they did wrong, they nervously handed the documents over to the officer. “Okay, you may go.”

 

Two months later they received a court order from the police officer commanding them to come down to the precinct near the cemetery. They had no choice but to go. “There was a wealthy (non-jew) man that died. He had no close relatives. He instructed that his wealth be divided among all those that attend his funeral. And you two were there at the time.” They received $62,000. If one has Emunah, belief, Hashem helps.

 

What have we learned today?

 

What do we learn from this week’s Parsha? Emunah is a fundamental part of Judaism. When one believes, he will always gain. He will often see clearly that Hashem has helped him.

 

Why do we mention Yetziat Mitzrayim in our daily prayers? Yetziat Mitzrayim, our redemption from Egypt, is mentioned in our prayers since it is a clear example of something that strengthens our Emunah, belief in Hashem. The Plagues and the rest of the miracles that Hashem performed for us clearly demonstrate who runs the show. We must remember to have Emunah at all times.

 

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Kimyagarov family David, Rachamim,Shmuel and all the grandchildren in loving memory of their Mother the ESHET CHAIL Raya bat Frecha

Mr. and Mrs. Rafi Fouzailoff for peace and unity in the world especially among our Jewish nation

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Mr.and Mr Eddie Levi refuah shelema for all of klall Yisrael

Dr. and Mrs. Avraham Rambod for the gratitude, appreciation and hatzlacha to Rabbi Gedalia Fogel, and hatzlacha to all.

Mr.and Mrs Robert Eiss in loving memory of his mother Golda bat Maya and Chaim MENUCHATA BEH GAN EDEN

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