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Nothing Wrong With Competition

picture idea by Boaz Davidoff 

When I was working in our family business in jewelry, our family used to bank at Merchant’s Bank of New York. There was a popular employee at the bank who was working as a teller at the same counter for twenty five years. I once asked my father if he’s Jewish. He responded, “probably not, he’s been a teller for twenty five years and it’s not “Jewish” to stay in the same position for that long a period of time”.

 

What is it about our people that we can’t stay in one place? We Jews also have a competitive edge that is second to none. If our friend buys a new car, we’ll go out and get a nicer car. Whether its moving to a better neighborhood, a higher paying job, a fancier car etc. we Jews are always on the move. It seems like we have ants in our pants…..Why?
We learn a common trait about Jews in this weeks Parsha, Bechokotai. “IM BECHUKOTAI TELECHU”- if you go in my ways, “TELECH” – go. We’re always moving. Since we are the chosen people, G-d instilled in all of us the ability to rise to spiritual heights. Therefore, we are never satisfied to stay in one position. There is that craving, a hunger, for a higher spiritual pleasure.

 

When the Torah describes an angel, it characterizes it as OMED- standing still. He has one mission and is programmed to do just that, hence he’s stationary. We, on the other hand, have a NESHAMA- a soul, and the mechanism as to how the soul is supposed to function is found in the word NESHAMA itself. The magic word is SHAM- there. Our mission is to go there. Where is there? We have one simple option, either to follow or not to follow the laws of the Torah.
The message of this week’s parsha tells us that “if you go in my ways, then I will always be with you- HITHALACHTI BEHTOCHAM. There is a certain bracha that will always follow you. The same usage of the word “go” is used. The reason again is because man was meant to constantly be moving toward the perfect state. He either moves up or down, but always he moves. The competitive edge has to be channeled correctly. Then, and only then, G-d will be with you. He will be with you in this world and the next.

 

From a Mother to the World

 

 mother holding child

A friend, Ofir Haimov, sent me an email written by his cousin, Nilly Haimov, which I thought was very touching and I’d like to share it with you.

 

 

B”H

My parents are not getting better. I haven’t found a way to stabilize their condition, they are in their 80’s and there are many like them in the world today. I am a fighter, and I can make sacrifices for everyone. Right now I am sacrificing for me, for my parents, visiting doctors, intensive care units, hospital rooms with sleepless nights. All my children are not with me, all my friends are not with me, but my parents who need me now more then ever – are with me. Remember, once your loved ones leave it is too late to pick up the phone and hear their voice, it is too late to get a hug, it is too late to get to know them a little more so you can share stories about them; it is just too late.

 

In my life there was not much room for my parents. I was a dedicated wife, businesswoman, and mother traveling the world. Now, when my parents are at their last strengths, I am back to being with them. My parents accepted my worldly life; seems like they too thought this is what the world is all about. Now I pray that they forgive me for not giving them all they deserved, for not stopping everything and making sure they are happy and well.

 

In this world, putting our self aside is very hard, profession comes first, it’s an “all about me attitude”, my plans, my classes and my look; my comfort comes first so don’t expect me to give all that up. I am sorry that our world was brought up this way; I wish we could see things differently. For now, I say thank you for whatever I get because in this crazy world, it’s best not to expect, this way you aren’t disappointed. So from a not disappointed mother to the world, thank you for giving me this plate; it is the best meal for me, especially since G-d planned it.

 

You who are reading this – make sure your plate is set well, because each one of us eats what we have prepared. Hope your meal will be healthy and tasty, nourishing and educational.

 

Respectfully,

A Mother

P.S. What can we do differently? Put the business aside, the studies aside, the TV away, shut the internet off and find your loved ones that need you. Support them just for today and see what a great feeling you get. Can’t buy that at the mall, or get it in the movies; can’t even get it in class, you have to get it yourself!

 

 

 

During the 1960’s, there were approximately twenty Bukarian families living in New York, mostly in Queens. We were all very close, attending each other’s special occasions. The kids had a tremendous bond considering the unique similarities of being born in New York, raised by Israeli parents, but having a strong mystic connection through our parents to the Bukarian culture. Little did we children realize at the time, that our lives would go in different directions as we entered into adulthood. It’s been thirty plus years since I had any contact with Nilly. I have read many articles about this period of our lives. But, I guess hearing it by one of your own; someone who shared your childhood experiences and remembers your parents being young and vibrant – penetrates the heart.

 

 

Now That’s Deli!

 

 Deli Sandwich 

There was a period on Shabbat morning, where I used to pray at the Yeshiva Chafetz Chaim. It was a beautiful, quite inspiring service. I got to know and eventually became good friends with a Rabbinical student named Noam Abramchic. One Shabbat morning, our conversation centered around food. Perhaps the reason the conversation gravitated toward food was because it’s at the end of the prayer services and everybody is hungry. Or perhaps those who know me understand it’s a predictable part of my nature to talk about food. The topic was deli. “I know of the best delicatessen that would beat any of New York’s establishments”, he ranted. “There’s a place in Chicago called Romanian and it’s out of this world.” I did not take Noam seriously, considering I’ve been eating fine deli since I was in diapers. “Do you really think any place on earth will compare to a New York deli?” I said to him. Soon after visiting his parents for the holidays, he brought me packaged pastrami from Romanian Delicatessen. “Try this” he said proudly. So I came home and I tried it. WOW! It’s amazing! This is really, really good pastrami.

 

A few years ago a friend David Bodenhiem said he received Romanian’s famous hotdogs (there are four kinds) from a pal coming back from Chicago. David said numerous friends of his in the Five Towns get packages through friends from Romanian for their special occasions. It reminds me of a particular popular 1970’s TV episode of M*A*S*H. The show takes place in Korea during the war in the 1950’s. The characters are doctors in a medical unit. The main character, Hawkeye gets a craving for “Adams Ribs” located – out of all places – in Chicago, and throughout the half hour episode goes through a lot of red tape to get this anticipated delivery. Finally, the package arrives. He and his companions are in the mess tent anxiously and triumphal opening and smelling the aroma of the food. The final scene has Hawkeye nervously going through the delivery bags in frustration. “What’s wrong Hawkeye?” one of the colleagues asked. Hawkeye replied, “They forgot the coleslaw!”

 

If we appreciate what G-d has done for us and are committed in acknowledging Him before we eat, then we should do it right. We have to try to give the proper blessing. We know if we have pastrami on club or rye, the blessing is Hamotzi lechem min hararetz. Bread is the most significant blessing you can recite. But what about sandwich wraps? One should know, this too is the blessing of hamotzi as well. Even though content of some wraps is mezonot, since you have the intention of having a meal as opposed to a snack, one would require to wash and recite al netilat yadayim and then hamotzi.

 

Bread and mezonot are considered in the category of important foods. The Torah attributes significance to the mezonot grain, wheat, and barley (INCLUDED IN WHEAT IS SPELT, INCLUDED IN BARLEY IS OATS AND RYE). These grains have an intrinsic importance because of their role in sustaining human life. There are rare times where one would eat bread and not recite hamotzi. These examples require the understanding of the concept in Jewish law called Ikar-main food and Tofel–secondary. Let’s say I’m sampling a taste of hot chili, one eats a bit of bread for no reason other than to soothe the harsh taste in his throat. Since the bread was not eaten to satisfy his hunger nor for his enjoyable taste, he is not required to make a hamotzi on the bread. The bread is included in the ha’adama blessing made on the chili.

 

Another example is with ice cream.  Most people eat ice cream cones to enhance the taste of the ice cream. Therefore, the ice cream would require a shehakol and the cone (even though it is tofel) will require a mezonot. However, if one were to use an ice cream cone merely in place of a cup rather than enjoy the flavor, the cone will not require a separate blessing.

 

The mechanics of ikar and tofel are: Even though the tofel is subordinate to the ikar, the tofel is not considered to be so insignificant as to not require a bracha. Rather, we consider the bracha made on the ikar to extend to ‘cover’ the tofel as well. According to this approach, when a blessing of the ikar cannot be applied to cover the tofel, a separate bracha on the tofel will be required.

 

There is an art in the preparation of certain deli meats. Who out there remembers Bernstein’s on the Lower East Side? I would always put sweet red peppers on my big shmulk which consisted of four different kinds of meats on club or rye and, in addition, potato salad and coleslaw as sides. We always had a certain pride going to Bernstein’s because it was named, one year by the New York Times, as the best deli in the city. New Yorkers as well as Chicagoans take their deli very seriously.

Sweat of Your Brow

 

    

 

After Adam sinned, G-d gave him a choice of punishments, a smorgasbord; pick you poison. Either, “From the sweat of your brow, you will make a living”. In other words, it’s going to be difficult. Dealing with moody bosses, long commutes, compact sandwiches for lunch, ridiculed by the wife for not bringing enough money on the table, are just a few highlights of this punishment. The second choice is to eat grass with the animals. Although man has no problem making a living, the humiliation and disgrace of eating the same food next to the animal is a punishment. As some of us are aware, man picked “sweat of your brow.”

The Gemarah asks why did Adam pick ‘sweat of your brow”?  Wouldn’t it be more practical to pick the other? After all, what is the most cherished commandment G-d gave?  G-d wants us to learn His Torah. Time is always a challenge. If we didn’t have the burden of making a living, then we would spend more time learning G-d’s Torah. So why did Adam pick “sweat of your brow”?  Rav Henoch Leibowitz z’l teaches us that the humiliation of squatting down next to the animal will make it very difficult to learn. Man needs to be proud; his self-esteem has to be high in order to comprehend. Similarly, man has to be in a happy state to learn G-d’s Torah. Although “sweat of your brow” is difficult, even a minuscule amount earned will give man the confidence to learn Torah.

One should know, it’s very important to set aside time to learn. Without the learning of G-d’s Torah, even for a bit, makes a person lose its luster and confidence in oneself. Making a living is nourishment for the physical; learning Torah is nourishment for the spiritual. When G-d created man, the scripture says VA’YIETZAR – and He created – which is spelled with two yuds as opposed to one yud pertaining to creating the animals. The two yuds represent the physical and the spiritual. This is what sustains man and makes him complete.

The Danger of Hope and its Desires

    

“YOU WILL EAT THE MANN WHICH YOU AND YOUR FATHERS NEVER TASTED” (Devarim8:3).  Many things have been revealed to Avraham, our forefather, about the future. “I will make you into a great nation”, G-d proclaimed. Indeed, from his genealogy sprouted out the chosen people, the Jews. Avraham was the first Jew and G-d mapped out the blueprint for the future generations. However, there is one bit of information that was not revealed to our great forefather, Avraham. If Avraham googled MANN, the heavenly food, nothing would come up but a Jamaican calling his fellow. MANN was given to the Jews while they were in the desert. Whatever one desired, the MANN would taste like that food. Steak, spaghetti, pastrami on rye and even osh palow, the Jews would enjoy through tasting the MANN. So, if it was so special, why wasn’t it revealed to Avraham?

Rav Henoch Leibowitz z’l answers, if it was revealed to Avraham, then, when G-d would offer it to the Israelites in the desert years later, the Jews would have replied “Nah, we ate this already in Egypt and rejected it. We shared this MANN with the Egyptians”. Just like the Jews were mistaken, where their recollection of events were not very accurate, when they complained to Moshe “you brought us here to the desert to die with no food. We ate fish in Egypt and it was so good..bla bla bla.” They never ate fish in Egypt. The Egyptians didn’t give them straw for work, why would they give them fish?” Rashi, the mainstream commentary in the Torah, was in wonderment; he couldn’t believe the audacity of their complaint. If G-d would have revealed to Avraham about the MANN, then years later, the Jews in the desert would have been familiar with the concept and passed it over as nothing special, “We ate it already in Egypt”. Why would they say they ate MANN in Egypt when they didn’t?  Were they lying because they didn’t want to accept G-d’s kindness?

 

Apparently, they really thought they ate MANN in Egypt. How could they make such a mistake? They were considered one of the smartest generations in the history of the world. Rav Henoch teaches us a startling concept in human nature. If the Israelites, who were still in Egypt, would have heard that they would be eating MANN in the future, in the desert, they would have experienced such pleasure from imagining and dreaming of what it would be like, because the nature of man is to have pleasure now for something he knows he will get later. Therefore since they were getting the MANN – imaginary pleasure – through their longing desires and hope, there was that mistaken strong possibility after many years that they would believe they actually really did eat it in Egypt.

We learn that when the mind projects strong hope, many years later, the memory of hope which one projected might translate as something that actually happened. How scary is that? This is the reason the MANN wasn’t disclosed to Avraham because his descendants would have rejected something really special.

The mind is a very tricky component and one has to differentiate between strong hope, desire, and accuracy of what actually happened.

Step Up to the Plate

       Every Shabbat, we read a portion of the haftorah, most similar related to the Parsha. This week’s haftorah, one can learn a very interesting and inspiring lesson from its main character, Rachav.
       Yehoshua, the leader of the Israelites, who proceeded as leader after Moshe, sent out spies to the promised land 39 years after the first disastrous attempt; apparently, it cost the Jews dearly. Yehoshua’s intention was to find out the mood of the enemy. The Israelites will soon be invading Canaan. To learn the pulse of who they’ll be invading shortly, they had to travel through Rachav’s house. Since travelers from all parts of the land passed through her inn, she was continually aware of the country’s mood. Why was her inn so popular? Well, it wasn’t her inn that was popular; it was she.
        The Gemarah (Megila 14, zevachim 117) says she was one of four of the most beautiful women that ever lived. She was so beautiful, she would make an impotent man be able to function. She had a uniqueness as to how to make a man perform, and she did it through her intelligence, in which, she was able to transform herself and act like whoever her client imagined her to be; a psychologist par excellence. With those tools, no man can resist her advances. Rachav was a prostitute, and the best in the business. In fact, the word Rachav means “to spread”; meaning she would say yes to everybody weather a king or a commoner. Rachav would sleep with any guest that would travel to her inn.
       When the two spies, Kalev and Pinchas, arrived at her inn, she sensed a certain distance. The sages say that man has two sides; it doesn’t matter how holy he is, he can even be seduced in the Bet Hamikdash (temple). However, with her new guest, it felt like a different script. She sensed a certain purity she never felt before and she was impressed. With all the pleasures that Rachav experienced, beauty plus intelligence equals power, whether through kings and interesting places and situations, she now saw a different side of the world. Rachav’s eyes opened and discovered new pleasures, in which she never thought existed. As a young girl, at age ten, she heard of the miracles, splitting of the sea, revelation at Mount Sinai; it made an impression; however, it seemed so remote.
       The King of Jericho sent a message to Rachav, “Get them out, they’re spies.” “They came to me, I didn’t know who they were. They left a little while later and I don’t know where they went.” Rachav hid them on the roof. Apparently, sometimes one gets a message from G-d and you’re fortunate enough to realize the sign. She said to G-d “I would sin – my inn has a window that my clients climb up with a red rope and hide in the flax up on the roof. Now I’m doing G-d’s commandment – hiding these Jews as they climb up on the red rope and hide on the roof.”
       She threw the king’s soldiers off the trail. When the coast was clear, she said to the spies, “I know G-d gave you the land; our people are scared of you because of your G-d. The miracles that occurred were frequent and make the people in this country tremble.” She then went through all the conquest of the Israelites, as if it’s on the mind of all the inhabitants. “Please save myself and my family. Their reply, “Tie this very same red rope around your house and you and your family will not be touched.”
       One of the qualities of Rachav was positive reinforcement. She was a master at projecting that. The spies felt confident and reassured that the enemy is scared of them. She imbedded into their psyche, “You have G-d on your side.” Here is this non-Jewish prostitute giving a pep-talk to these accomplished stars of the Jewish hierarchy. When the spies arrived back, they confidently reassured the people.
The quality of having the ability to reassure and the fact that she risked her life by hiding the two spies was a tremendous act of kindness. As a reward, she eventually, after she converted, married Yehoshua, the leader of the Jews.
      What merit did she have? She stepped up to the plate. Rachav, psychologically, set the tone for the Jewish people. She had an opportunity and grabbed it; throwing away her identity and starting new.
It is astonishing. Here is the most powerful woman that ever lived, having looks, brains, personality, education, class, money, power, charm, and grace. She can get any man she wants. Besides the fact, she was in her prime. There were not many women like her; a master in giving and receiving pleasure. However, she gives up on that life for a life of being a Jewish mama!! She felt it would be more fulfilling playing the role of building a Jewish home, raising children with her husband. It would be more real, more fulfilling as a woman. How funny is that? She used her powers and her gifts on her husband and children. Many famous prophets came out of the union of Yehoshua and Rachav; most notable, Yirmiyahu.

Manipulation is a Part of Life

 

   

 

DON’T LOOK!! At times with that look one can really pay the price. Such is the case in this week’s Parsha, where our Jewish soldier is in the battlefield against the enemy and he sees a beautiful woman, the enemy. The soldier is smitten by her and desires her. The Torah raises its hands and says, “We know we can’t stop that burning desire, sure you want her. Well, you can have her. However, a few conditions have to be met.” If after those conditions are met and he still wants to marry her then it is permissible. However, chances are great that eventually you will come to hate her. This look and desire is a recipe for disaster.

 

We find another famous incident where that look was a very costly one. Where, it was against the wishes of the Torah; against the wishes of his parents; a man so holy, a man with such power could fall and get manipulated so badly.

 

Manipulation is a weapon we all use. Wait! That’s not what I mean. I meant it in a good way. We are all born with great gifts. However, some people can’t figure out their positive attributes even if it was staring them straight in the face. In fact, it’s our duty is to draw the positive from friends, children, wives, students, employees. This can be artfully done through manipulation. However, sometimes people manipulate others’ weaknesses and use it against them, in order to selfishly gain. When they get their way, they dispose their victims rather conveniently. Such is the case with Shimshon and Delila.

 

Man is made up of a four chemical makeup: fire, water, wind, and sand. Depending on each individual, the chemical makeup differs. If fire is dominant, then a person tendency’s is toward anger or toward pursuit of honor. When fire is lit, if one notices, it tends to go up; the same with a person who desires kavod – honor – if he receives just a slight compliment, his ego goes up, up and away. If one tends to gravitate towards water, then he’s more prone to lusty bodily desires; that’s what’s on his mind. Wind is lightheadedness and sand is laziness and depression.

 

Shimshon’s parents’ prayers were answered and after many years, they had a baby boy. However, the messenger, an angel, informed Shimshon’s mother “The baby you will have cannot drink wine and cut his hair.” Shimshon had tremendous strength and the secret of his strength was his nezerut (refraining from wine and a good barber).

 

Shimshon had a tendency to gravitate towards non-Jewish women. His first wife was burned by the Jews’ bitter enemy Philishtim. His second wife, Delila, also not Jewish, was beautiful and Shimshon was smitten by her. Why did she marry him? Well, he wasn’t exactly your typical Jewish accountant. He was strong and the Philishtim were scared of him.

 

Delila was genuinely a good person; however as time went on, she got corrupted. The spies of the Philishtim came over to Delila and offered her tremendous wealth and status. Then after the first meeting went so well, the officers came up to her place. Delila was flattered; she received so much attention and kavod. They knew how to manipulate her. A good person can deteriorate. Some say she had an affair; others say she had an affair with the money, with the kavod. Delila was sold and she went to work for the Philishtim. She was to find out the secret of her husband’s power. She tortured him, refraining from sexual relations unless he reveals his secret. She nagged him and at times crying, “You don’t love me.” Apparently, she knew how to manipulate him. It’s hard for a man to be blackmailed with having physical relations. However, he can overcome and be strong. There was one important factor in this relationship; he loved her more then she loved him and she knew it!

 

Shimshon was a very holy and great man who was extremely sincere and loved G-d very much. One should never do what Shimshon did; he invited G-d to test his weakness. We tend to get all gung-ho about our religious level and sometimes we pray and say things that will haunt us later. Shimshon eventually revealed his secret and Delila quickly passed it on to the Philishtim contacts. Tragic ending to Shimshon.

 

At a banquet where all the major officers of the Philishtim army came to celebrate the capture of Shimshon who was chained to the great pillar at the banquet, Shimshon, who’s eyes were gorged out, prayed one last time to G-d to forgive him and give him strength this one last time. G-d answered his prayer and with one thrust, he brought down the pillars and the building, and killed everyone, including himself.

 

Manipulation is a way of life; it’s a tool that can be used to make people better or destroy them. Shimshon and Delila at first cared for each other, apparently, Shimshon cared for her more. It’s always beautiful in the beginning. However, Shimshon didn’t follow the Torah and its warnings; he followed his eyes and that’s what destroyed him.

Pesach Seder Guide

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March 29, 2012
6 Nisan, 5772
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Pesach Seder Guide – Part 1
Pesach Seder Guide – Part 2
Pesach Seder Guide – Part 3
Pesach Seder Guide – Part 4

Pesach Seder Guide – Part 1
            Americans have their Thanksgiving and us, Jews, have our Passover. Pesach is a holiday of extreme importance where we make it our business to get together with family or be part and parcel with our fellow brethren. The Seder nights are designed to seek that togetherness so that by the end of the 15th step of the Seder (starting with kadesh, urchatz), we accomplished completeness within ourselves and as a nation and are ready for the redemption.

Why do Jews put such importance on this holiday? Even the most secular Jew wants to connect to the Seder table. In popularity, Pesach is head to head with Yom Kippur. Rabbi Akiva Tatz, quoting the mystics, made an interesting observation. The most intense part of anything; the most concentrated, powerful, the most strongest, is the inception, the root is where everything sprouts from. A person’s childhood is crucial for his development. Any action and reaction to an accordance would most likely be magnified and indebted in his psyche  and influence his adult decisions.

Pesach was the inception of us being a nation; it’s the root of camaraderie; it’s our birth as a people. The root is intense and the feeling of togetherness we experienced then for the first time is brought back every year. In the heavens, the concept of time is different; years are not a factor. If one experiences Pesach or Purim, it’s as if he’s experiencing it when it actually happened for the first time. G-d showered us with kindness and mercy when we left Egypt, even though we didn’t deserve it. In order to receive that Pesach experience with the same warm feeling that G-d bestowed on us, and perhaps ask Him for our wanting needs, then one has to accomplish certain steps on the Seder night. We have to reach a perfect, complete, heavenly state of Shalem in order for our requests to  be granted. On this night, that reach is a lot easier because of the power of the moment in which G-d was kind to us then, or I should say then is now. The number 15 is a significant number which represents completeness. Although we try to reach that throughout the year in our prayers (15 steps in yishtabach, 15 emet veyatziv, king davids 15 shir hama’alot), the path is a lot easier on Pesach; perhaps we should take advantage of the opportunity.

 

Let us explore the 15 steps:

 

Kadesh

In every happy joyous occasion, we make kiddush. Kadesh means to sanctify and here we sanctify time. Kadesh also means to separate; we are separating time. Perhaps this is where we get the expression “make something out of nothing.” We elevate the time because of the beautiful occasions. Why is wine the preference for the Kiddush? Rabbi Akiva Tatz reminds us of the famous phrase that we say for wine, “nichnass yayin yatza sod” – wine goes in, the secret comes out. The most popular explanation is we can determine by one’s drinking his true nature because wine takes away the mask, the barrier. However R’ Tatz says the secret here is something deeper. There is a very fine line in drinking in the early stage. If one drinks slightly more than he should, he makes a fool of himself. At a certain point however, the person drinking has a vision well beyond the usual state of mind, he has the ability to think clear and to develop ideas and formulate concepts; he has the ability to use creativity to the highest caliber. Perhaps the fact that wine decreases the paranoia and sadness in one’s heart, gives way for opportunity to develop and to boldly go where one could not reach before. A Jew has the ability to sanctify time through his vision and bring down happiness at kiddush time.

 

Urchatz

            This washing is in preparation for eating the karpas dipped in salt water. In the times of the temple when people were able to observe the laws of ritual purity in full, they were required to wash their hands before any produce that has been dipped in water or certain other liquids. So why do we wash our hands today? There is no temple; we don’t do it throughout the year. Why all of a sudden do we wake up now and say hey let’s wash our hands, and not  throughout the year?   Again, one of the themes of the Seder is to pursue the goal and increase, rekindle the hope of the final redemption where we will have a temple and we will be required to do the command that’s not required today.

Pesach Seder Guide – Part 2
   

Karpas

 

No double dipping please, with the exception of George. The custom of karpas is to dip a vegetable into salt water. This apparently was a sign of freedom, comfort, and indulgence. Yet we dip it into the salt water to remind us of the bitterness of the bondage. Those who are meticulous and detail-oriented should be asking a fairly obvious question. If the Seder (which means order) is in its proper order, then why is karpas here and not in the section of magid telling of the story of the exile? It appears out of sequence. In order to get a clearer understanding of this, we must examine the word karpas.

The word karpas is also associated with clothing. Rashi, one of the main commentaries on the Chumash, associates it with one of the threads of the coat that Yaacov, our forefather, gave as a present to Yosef.  One of the main ingredients of the galut (diaspora) is disunity, separation, and strife. This is the reason why throughout history, when the Jews were united, we flirted with having the Messianic time at our doorstep. It seems like the order of the haggadah is actually quite precise. You see the galut didn’t start when the Jews were in Egypt; it started way before that. When Yaacov gave only one of his sons a coat made out of karpas/wool for a present, all the other brothers got jealous and the harmony and unity among the brothers was shattered. The coronation of the disunity between the brothers was when Yehuda, the brother they looked up to, brought Yosef’s karpas coat, after selling him to the Arabs, to Yaacov, asking him if he recognizes this, referring to the ripped coat in which they dipped in animal blood.

 

The antithesis of the dipping of Yosef’s coat is the dipping of the vegetable in the salt water. We regret the sin of our ancestors and the disunity it caused. That incident was the beginning of the exile.

 

Yachatz

 

We are now preparing ourselves to start the telling of the story of Pesach by laying the matzoh in front of us. We take the middle of the three matzot and break it in half leaving the smaller half in between the two, and the larger is put away for the afikoman. The patriarch of the family usually does this task. There is a mystic source that when the patriarch is breaking the matzoh, he should concentrate on many brachot for his family and for Klal Yisrael. There are different opinions as to what the three matzot represent; Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaacov (our patriarchs) or Kohen, Levi and Yisrael (the three status levels of the Israelites), are two opinions of what these matzos represent. The middle of both Yitzchak and Levi represent din – harsh judgment. Symbolically, we nullify the harsh judgment on us by breaking the middle matzoh. Matzoh is called lechem oni – bread of affliction; the phrase can also be interpreted by our sages as lechem she’onim bo – bread that you answer to it. Therefore, it’s always present when we discuss the story of the redemption from Egypt.

 

Magid

 

The whole Seder is orchestrated to be a kid-friendly atmosphere. The goal is to keep the children interested. We play hide and seek with the afikoman. In some communities, the participants of the Seder playfully hit each other with scallions when the prayer dayenu is recited to keep the children awake. The reason of the strong emphasis on the children is pretty obvious – they are our future. The second half of the haggadah’s primary focus is the future. Our children will carry the baton to the messianic time, although we might see him in our time period. Dealing with children is the primary agenda. There is such delicacy when dealing with the four sons. The Torah hints that every son should be approached differently. One must realize education cannot be taught the same to everyone. I excelled in the class in third grade but didn’t learn a thing in the fourth. The Rabbis’ styles of teaching were different; their personalities were different. Naturally, I gravitated to the one I was most comfortable with. The sages don’t suggest a different teacher for every student. Economically, it’s not possible; however it’s making one aware that there is a difference.

 

The importance of passing down the tradition is quite important. In the temple, in the Holy of Holies, the keruvim, which stood on top of the aron, had the image of a father and son. This relationship, if healthy, is the essence of Judaism.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pesach Seder Guide – Part 3
   

 

 

Rachtza

We always wash our hands before bread. Although the health conscience advocates applaud the act because it promotes better hygiene, its main purpose, though, is to wash away spiritual impurities. The act and its blessing is associated with eating bread. The Torah says bread is the most satisfying food, more than meat, cheese and sushi, and therefore it is considered very important. By removing any spiritual impurities through washing of the hands, one can elevate an ordinary meal with bread to a highly energized spiritual experience. We are considered physical human beings with the purpose to use the physicality tools that G-d has given us to promote excellence in all worldly areas.

 

Motzi Matzoh

The question is asked, if chametz is so evil that one can’t even possess it during the holiday of Pesach and matzoh has such tremendous spiritual qualities, why eat chametz altogether? Perhaps one should eat the spiritual matzoh all year long. We’ll definitely score brownie points in the great adding machine in the heavens. In fact, the sages do agree it would be ideal, but find it impossible to deprive one of bread. There is a concept in the Torah involving the number seven which is defined by the Sages as being complete. There are seven days to a week; harvest occurs on the seventh year, etc. The Torah teaches us if one keeps Pesach with the utmost intensity and meticulousness during the complete seven days (8 days outside of Israel), he will fulfill his requirement of going full circle of not consuming chametz and eating matzoh

 

Maror

Although some of our brothers, the Ashkenazim have a tougher time with maror then the Sefaradim, one has to taste some level of bitterness in the maror. One does not fulfill his requirement if he swallows the maror without chewing. In fact, the Gemarah says he has to bite it into pieces with 22 teeth corresponding to the 22 letters of the alef bet, which is found in the Torah. Life is bittersweet. One can find the Torah very useful and helpful in dealing with the difficulties one receives in his lifetime.

 

Korech

We can look at the ma nishtana as one question instead of four – why are we mixing the bitterness of matzoh and maror with the majestic royalty of dipping and leaning at the Seder night? The same paradox can be found with Hillel who combines the matzoh (freedom) with the maror (servitude).

This is the taste Hillel is left with at the end of the night. Taste is one of the senses we are given and tonight it’s a tool to connect to the feeling our ancestors had. When Adam sinned by eating from the tree, one of his punishments was that goodness which he will now experience, will be always be mixed with a degree of bad. If one notices any happy occasion in the history of the world, was interrupted by some negativity. This is the true feeling of life and is one that our ancestors realistically experienced on their way out to freedom. One should not be disillusioned and get depressed that life has turned out the way it has.

 

Shulchan Orech

Enjoy the meal!! After Pesach, G-d willing, we will occasionally feature recipes of various cuisines.

 

Tzafun

One opinion of why we eat the afikoman is in memory of the Pesach offering. The definition of afikoman means dessert. The matzoh of the afikoman was eaten at the end of the meal replacing the desert. As mentioned earlier, it represents the redemption as well as servitude .The taste of the matzoh is the last taste in out mouths before going to bed. One should have the taste of the servitude matzoh humbling him and he should also have the taste of the redemption. We play hide and seek with our kids as we try to find the afikoman. What are we trying to find? When our forefather, Yaacov, was on his deathbed, he called all his sons and apparently was ready to reveal the secret when the Moshiach will come. However, apparently G-d hid the thought and Yaacov forgot. It’s symbolic – the kids and the grown-ups trying to find afikoman and reveal the coming of the redemption. This is why we open the door of our home to usher in Eliyahu, the prophet, who will take the role of the Moshiach.

 

 

 

 

Pesach Seder Guide – Part 4

Barech

We say the grace after meal (birkat hamazon – bentching). In the last paragraph of birkat hamazon, we read “oseh shalom bim’romav” – G-d makes peace in the heavens between fire and water then He shall surely make peace among us and He’ll make peace on all of Israel and they would say amen. If we believe in G-d the way we’re supposed to, then G-d will inject in us a portion of unity that will lead to the redemption. Just like fire and water are opposites and they are able to co-exist in the heavens; so too, no matter how different people are from one another, we’ll co-exist as well. There are many couples that are opposites (fire and water), however they get along because there is a certain commitment to the one above. It’s interesting that this passage is in the benching, where one says after being satiated. My father always said, “son, never come home after a day’s work hungry.” Always put something in your mouth before walking in the door. A hungry person gets agitated quickly and a fight is imminent. After one eats and benches, then he’s able to accomplish the goal of unity.

 

Hallel

We’re close to the end or perhaps shaping up the future. One has to be at an advanced state at this juncture of the night where showing praise and appreciation to G-d comes natural. The focus is clearly the future; however to get there, one has to realize the goodness that G-d has bestowed upon us. One of the passages we say in the Hagaddah is an important praise we sing early Shabbat morning called nishmat kol chai. In most communities, it’s the main focal of their cantorial singing. What makes it unique in its praise and appreciation is that its composer was a Jew in the highest caliber named Shimon Khafa. About 2000 years ago, an offshoot religion started called Christianity. The great Sanhedrin (71 judges great court of Israel) was concerned that Jews will abandon Judaism for this new belief. Rabbi Shimon ben Gamliel, the president of the Sanhedrin, who is quoted earlier in the Haggadah, approached Shimon Khafa to perform a difficult but important task; they wanted him to infiltrate the hierarchy of this new religion and alter, make a clear distinction between Judaism and Christianity; this way Jews won’t mistaken it as part of their own and won’t be lured in off guard. Shimon accepted and became one of the most important spies we’ve had. He successfully altered their day of rest from Saturday to Sunday, as well as, dehumanized their savior. Eventually many years later Khafa was exposed and was executed. Some say he was none other than Peter. As one can imagine, a spy cannot express his feelings outwardly. In fact, a spy has to take on a different identity; play the part. What often happens in the spy world is they play their role too well where there is confusion of who is the real person inside of you. We often have an identity crisis as is could one imagine what spies go through. However, Shimon had so much love for Hakadosh Baruch Hu (G-d), His nation, and Judaism, he composed a long and eloquent praise affirming his belief and great appreciation to life and to his master. It’s a tremendously moving piece and deeply inspiring whether it be Shabbat morning or at the Seder.

 

Nirtza

 

We conclude the Seder by asking G-d to accept our prayers and for our enthusiastic loving participation in this beautiful night. Many years ago, G-d showed us tremendous kindness and took us out even though we didn’t deserve it. It’s obviously a special night of tremendous potential kindness in which G-d can continue the flow of this good. We have to take advantage of this night. On any other night to get to a spiritual height, we have to work very hard to accomplish that task. However, tonight, the connection to the heavens is strong. (4g)

 

 

 

 

 

 

G-d willing, our prayers will be accepted and next year we will sit in Yerushalayim in happiness with spiritual abundance and the Moshiach. Amen.

To all those who participated in our mock singing Seder including Chazan Ruben Ibragimov and the baal tefilos Ari Hoch and Rabbi Uri Sklarr.

 

To my wife and family who had to put up with me and my odd hours on the computer…. a debt of gratitude.

 

I would like to thank G-d for the chance He has given me to spread Torah.

 

Thank you to all the Rabbis and tremendous Jewish brethren who have helped me with Torah shmoozam for this issue, and the ones throughout the year.

 

Thank you to The Afikim Foundation for their dedication and hard work.

 

Thank you to my family and to you – the readers.

 

 

May you all have a chag kasher v’sameach.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience

Parshat Nitzavim- Vayelech

“A Cup of Coffee 

 

&

A Quick Thought”

 

 

 

Steaming Cup of Coffee
Spark Of Jewish Experience

Nitzavim-Vayeilech

Septmeber 22, 2011
23 Elul, 5771

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SPECIAL EVENT ALERT!!! 
TUESDAY OCT 4TH, 2011 (BETWEEN ROSH HASHANA & YOM KIPPUR)
Rabbi Avi Matmon will explain the essence of the High Holiday prayers. He will be joined by chazanim, the renowned and naim zemirot, Avi Perets, and the new age Bukarian chazan Ruben Ebragimov, as well as others, who will bring out the emotions from the holy words through their singing. They will, with G-d’s help, inspire and give us an understanding so we can pray to the highest level and achieve a place in the book of life. Our event will be held on October 4th at the Bukharian Center located at 106-16 70th Ave, Forest Hills, NY. Refreshments will be served at 8:00 pm. At 8:30 pm sharp, the event will begin. The event will also be broadcasted live on Torahanytime.com at 8:30 pm.
In This Issue
Why Do We Blow the Shofar 100 Times?
Give Me Life
Rosh Hashanah Tidbits

Why Do We Blow the Shofar 100 Times?
blowing shofar

The Chazanim (cantors) Rabbis, and the person who tokes the shofar (shofar blower) are all meticulously careful that there should be 100 sounds blown before the crucial mussaf prayer. One may ask, why 100 sounds?Rabbi Berel Wein mentions one reason, which we learned from a famous incident that happened at the time of the shoftim (Judges).

Our ancestors were in constant war with their neighbors, the Pilishteem. Similarly, today one can identify with the conflict of our Arab neighbors. The Pelishteem army was led by the strong and mighty General Sisra who terrorized opposing countries. Sisra was a startling, frightening figure and is best described similarly as a mixture of Ivan the Terrible and George Patton.

The Jews were led by Devorah and her general Barak ben Avinoam who with G-d’s help were defeating the Pilishteem army. Sisra realized the end was imminent and fled. As he was escaping, he meets Yael who realized who he is. She brought him into her home where she fed him and gave him wine. He found comfort in Yael who seduced him. When Sisra was sleeping, Yael, who was loyal to the nation of Israel, killed him.

It is written in the ‘Song of Devora’, in the book of Prophets, Sisra’s mother was waiting by the window for her son to return. She saw the injured solders limping back from battle; she witnessed the broken war carriages. However, there was no sign of the great warrior, her son, Sisra. The text describes her waiting by the window and coming to the inevitable conclusion that her son was never coming home. Realizing this, she begins to cry and wail 100 sounds. The sages say this is the reason why we blow the shofar 100 sounds.

One may ask what’s the connection between Sisra’s non-Jewish mother, wailing for her son’s return, and the Jewish congregation listening to shofar blowing on one of the holiest days of the year?

Sisra’s mother was privileged; she came from a picture perfect prestigious family. She was a straight-A student who was a prom queen beauty. She was head cheerleader who married the star quarterback leader of the football team. They had a big house with many cars, maids, a butler, a dog named Lassie, and many kids who each went on to become successful in their own right. She never saw a cloudy day in her life. Whatever she touched, with no effort, turned to gold. Sisra’s mother felt she was in charge of her own destiny.

However, for the first time in her life, she felt she was not in control; someone else was pulling the strings and that someone else was G-d. So she turned to G-d out of feeling inadequacy and hopelessness, acknowledging ‘it’s not me but someone higher above.’

When they blow the shofar during the High Holiday, one should feel that G-d runs the world and He is in control of our lives. Granted, we have to make an effort and some of us have seen tremendous success. However, at the end of the day, G-d is always in charge. This is what Sisra’s mother felt at that moment.

Give Me Life
   prayer-shemona esrei

            One of the major and important prayers we have in which we say three times a day and a fourth on Shabbat, is the Amida (literally means standing). This prayer is also called shemona esray (eighteen brachot). When we say the Amida, we take three steps backward and then three forward, and we pray in silence. The concentration should be so intense that talking is prohibited.

The Amida is divided into three parts 1) praise 2) request, or in a crude language ‘give me’ 3) acknowledgement. The structure of the prayers is so meticulously precise that one marvels of its construction. It seems like the sages took care of business providing us with the optimal dosage of prayer power so we can be in a better standing with G-d. During the days of Awe (Rosh Hashanah, the days of repentance and Yom Kippur), a number of additions are placed in our prayers. One of which is zachrainu lechaim, (remember us and keep us alive). A very curious question has been asked about this phrase; it seems like it’s in the wrong category; it should be with the ‘”give me’s” which is in category two. Why is it in the category of praise?

My father z’l always said the five fingers on the hand are all different; each finger is unique; each individual is also unique. Rav Gedalya Schorr compares the world to an orchestra. Each individual with his uniqueness has a part, which no one else can perform, and if he doesn’t perform, he doesn’t play his instrument, and the orchestra is not the same. Therefore we see that each individual brings his gift to the table and no one else can duplicate it.

When we say ‘Remember us in the book of life’; it’s not a gimmie, because the end of the statement says ‘lema’anach’ (We’re doing it for You. We are bringing our own uniqueness to serve You in whom nobody else can.) Therefore, our contribution is essential; it is part of the existence of the world and we should have it in mind that we’re doing it for G-d.

Rosh Hashanah Tidbits
 rosh hashanah

A popular custom is not to nap on Rosh Hashanah before midday (Jewish midday) because if you do, you’ll possibly have a sleepy year.

There is a custom to pray the shacharit amida (morning prayer – where one stands, legs bound together in silence) early – precisely at sunrise. People who want to start off the year on a good note achieve this. The reason being, our patriarch Avraham was tested in his belief in G-d, to sacrifice his son that he loved, for the sake of G-d. The angel stopped him and a ram was substituted in his place. We ride the coattails of Avraham that on his behalf, we should be written in the book of life.

This is one of the main themes of the holiday. It says that Avraham got up early to perform G-d’s request; if one wants to receive merit on His behalf, then he should emulate Him in every way.

A second reason is, there are two opinions when the mussaf prayer should be said. The popular opinion (the chachamim) is that it can be said all day. The other opinion (Rav Yehuda) is, 6 hours from daybreak. In order to be safe and follow all opinions, especially on judgment week, we try to beat the clock and finish mussaf within the six hours.

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience

Parshat Ki Savo

“A Cup of Coffee 

 

&

A Quick Thought”

 

 

Steaming Cup of Coffee
Spark Of Jewish Experience

Ki Savo

Septmeber 15, 2011
17 Elul, 5771

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Rabbi Avi Matmon will explain the essence of the High Holiday prayers. He will be joined by chazanim, the renowned and naim zemirot, Avi Perets, and the new age Bukarian chazan Ruben Ebragimov, as well as others, who will bring out the emotions from the holy words through their singing. They will, with G-d’s help, inspire and give us an understanding so we can pray to the highest level and achieve a place in the book of life. More information will follow in our next issue.
In This Issue
Rewards Collected on Rosh Hashanah
The Evil Lavan – Parsha Ki Savo
Why is the Apple Known as the Symbolic Fruit of Rosh Hashanah?

Rewards Collected on Rosh Hashanah
freedom of religion
The main objective for the Jewish people is to get a good verdict on Rosh Hashanah. The pasuk says ‘All of the Jewish People will be judged on Rosh Hashanah.’ The sages ask, ‘Why does the pasuk have to use the extra word ‘all ‘; it could have just begun ‘the Jewish people…’ Perhaps the Torah is including others who are also to be judged.

The sages teach us that on Rosh Hashanah, the deceased are also being judged. People who are no longer living are derived from the word ‘all’. But how can that be possible? They are no longer here. What are they being judged for? They didn’t do any mitzvot or averot; they’re on the inactive list. In fact, we learn that when we go to a cemetery, one cannot wear his tzitzit out of his pants like some people do because it might get the deceased jealous since they are unable to perform mitzvot, while we the living are commanded to wear tzitzit daily. So as it is frequently said in sports, ‘they’re sitting on the bench’ they’re not players.

Perhaps in answering this question we must look back in history at the tail end of the period called ‘the golden age’ of Spain. For many years, Spain was considered – along with France and Portugal – the super powers of the world. Also, for the only time in Jewish history, there was an ultra-orthodox Jew in one of the highest political seats in the country. Abarbanel, who happened to be one of the mainstream commentaries on the Chumash (Bible), was also the finance minister, a very powerful position. After many years of prosperity, the economy began to go south and anybody who is an astute historian knows the Jews are the first to be blamed. With the exception of today’s America, the golden age in Spain was the most prosperous periods in the history of the Jews. They also enjoyed tremendous religious freedom. Apparently, all that came to an end as the Spanish inquisition began and the Jews were given the choice of converting to Christianity, expulsion or death.

Years later, in the introduction to one of his books, Abarbanel writes, ‘I regret ever taking public office. The only reason why I took that position was to make it easy and comfortable for Jews to learn our precious Torah, and I failed’.

No, Abarbanel, you did not fail, you just miscalculated. You see, Abarbanel was the finance minister who financed Christopher Columbus’s infamous discovery trip to America. His dream to see Jews comfortable and have the religious freedom was delayed about 500 years. Every time a Jew goes to a park anywhere in America, north or south, and opens up an ArtScroll (Torah translation) Gemarah and learns, enjoying the freedom of religion and speech, Abarbanel gets credit; he gets a percentage; he gets a cut of what that Jew learned. It seems like he had a tremendous influence on American Jewry.

Sometimes we do a good deed and don’t see the reward right away. One never knows when the fruits of the labor start to kick in.

 

From the shiurim of Rabbi Akiva Grunblatt who quoted Rabbi Berel Wein.

The Evil Lavan – Parsha Ki Savo
 sinister person

             In bringing the bikurim (first ripe fruits in the land of Israel which were taken to the temple and given to the Kohen), the person bringing them tells the story of our past and mentions the very first miracle, which occurred to Israel (Devarim 26:5). ‘An Armenian wanted to destroy my father’. Lavan the Armenian, wanted to uproot all by destroying our forefather Yaakov.

Lavan was the uncle and father-in-law of Yaakov, who tricked him by switching Rachel, the sister of choice, with Leah, at their wedding ceremony to Yaakov. Yaakov eventually married Rachel as well as two of her other sisters, Bilah and Zilpah. This made the number of wives at four. But Lavan made him work extra for Rachel. We see throughout the chapter that Lavan had attempted – and at times succeeded – in tricking his son-in-law.

Abarbanel explains that Lavan was the one by his actions that caused Yosef (the son of Yaakov and Rachel), to be sold to Egypt and Yaakov to go into exile in the land. It was Lavan’s evil ways, which caused the feuding between Yaakov’s sons, which led them to eventually sell Yosef to Egypt. Yaakov’s sons would simply not have been able to act that way if there had not been a drop of their grandfather, Lavan’s blood in their veins.

There were two reasons why Yaakov ran away from his home to Lavan’s house. At his parents’ request, the first reason – the potential marriage match with Rachel, and the second reason was that his older twin brother Eisav wanted to kill him. So Yaakov spent 22 years at Lavan’s house. There is the obvious question, eventually Eisav found out the whereabouts of his brother, Yaakov, so why didn’t he kill him? He didn’t pursue Yaakov until he left Lavan’s house. Why did he wait?

Eisav – with all his bravery – impressively defeated the great warrior, Nimrod, but was afraid of only one person, Lavan. Lavan was the most powerful man on earth. How, one may ask, did he succeed in reaching this position?

An additional question that should be asked – why was Lavan frantically searching for the terafim? It didn’t seem to be idol worship. Rachel stole her father’s terafim because she didn’t want him to use them. What is the significance of the terafim?

According to Yonatan ben Uziel, the zohar, and Tana debay Eliyahu, Lavan was the master of black magic and his biggest weapon was terafim. There is, according to the evil spirits, an importance to a seventh generation firstborn, and Lavan was able to figure who they are. He would murder them and sever their heads, where we would perform various acts of black magic on the body parts, manipulating it, making them talk. As a result of this ritual, he was able to reveal secrets of the world (insider trading). Lavan would have a tremendous edge on everything in life where he would take advantage in the cruelest way.

Yaakov was advised to go to Lavan’s house because Eisav was a seventh generation bechor, where it would be ill advised for Eisav to come near Lavan. Eventually, every child born comes with his own mazal. Yaakov saw the ability to withstand his brother, Eisav, with the birth of Yosef.

Man has the power to bring kedusha and evil to the world; it’s his choice. But one thing he should realize, he is going to be accountable for everything.

Why is the Apple Known as the Symbolic Fruit of Rosh Hashanah?
 apple and honey

              One of the sweetest childhood memories of Rosh Hashanah is eating the apple dipped in honey. I remember looking at the stack of apples on the beautiful and elegant table that Mom prepared and the scent of honey that was placed in small, fancy china plates all around the table. The question one may ask is, why apples? Why are apples first on the symbolic line of having a good sweet year?

If one recalls when Yaakov, our forefather, came disguised as his brother Eisav, at the urgent request of his mother to get the blessing from his blind father, Yitzchok, Yaakov was not exactly academy award material. This strait-laced pursuer of Emet (truth) almost blew it. His father said ‘you don’t sound like Eisav. Come here, I want to feel you’ (Eisav was hairy).

When he came close to his father, G-d made Yitzchok smell like the apple trees of Gan Eden (heaven). Yitzchok then knew no matter which son it is, it’s definitely the right one. G-d showed mercy on our forefather, Yaakov. Therefore, we pray and say ‘just like you had mercy on our father, so too you should have mercy on us.’

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience