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Around the Shabbat Table- Parshat Ki Tavo

July 30, 2013 G-d and Us, Hakarat Hatov, Kid's Section No comments
        By Rabbi Gedalia Fogel 

 

Hi! This is Rebbe speaking:

 

   Back to school? Now you’ll surely be able to answer all the questions. You’re already in the thinking mode!

   This week’s parsha, Parshat Ki Tavo, speaks about one who will own a field in the land of Israel. When his fruit will be ripe, he will bring some of his fruit to the Kohen (priest) in the Beit Hamikdash (the Holy Temple) to give thanks to Hashem for providing him with such delicious produce.

We must thank Hashem for all that he does for us. We say blessings before we eat, so that we can properly show gratitude to Hashem for giving us sustenance. We pray each day and thank Hashem for all he has done and continues to do.

   We learn from here that we must show Hakorat Hatov, gratitude, to one that does us a favor. We see examples where one even thanks inanimate objects.

Moshe Rabbeinu was careful to thank the water for saving his life. When Moshe Rabbeinu was a baby, his mother put him in a basket in the river since Pharaoh commanded that all Jewish baby boys be killed. Moshe Rabbeinu had Hakorat Hatov to the water for this and did not hit the water when performing the first three Makot, plagues, on the Egyptians. He had his brother Aharon perform them, since it warranted hitting the water.

   Reb Moshe Feinstein was known to thank everyone that did even the slightest favor for him. Even when he was the passenger in a car, he made sure to lean over and call out to the man at the toll booth to thank him for his service.

   Reb Eliyahu Lopian was meticulous in this virtue. He stated that one must have Hakorat Hatov and thank someone even if you paid for their service. Such as: a grocer, bus driver, shoemaker etc. Even if you paid him money you must make sure to thank him properly.

   Reb Eliyahu Lopian was seen cleaning the bench in his Yeshiva. Many disciples ran over and offered to clean it for him. “No thank you. I want to clean this bench myself, since I owe the bench Hakorat Hatov. Each morning this bench helps me fold my Talit. It makes sure that my Talit does not drag on the floor while I am folding it.”

Two nations, Amon and Moav, are not allowed to convert to Judaism. Avraham Avinu saved the life of their grandfather, Lot and they did not show Hakorat Hatov. When the Jews were traveling through the desert on their way to Israel, Amon and Moav did not allow them to pass through their land. They should have given the Jews bread and water but instead they came out to fight against them. One that does not have the midah of Hakorat Hatov cannot be part of the Jewish nation.

Sometimes we don’t notice the good that we have until we are missing it. When one breaks his leg, it is only then that he realizes the greatness of being able to walk each day with ease.

Reb Avigdor Miller waited under water for an extra few seconds so that he can be grateful for every breath. We take these things for granted.

Miss Braun, a 6th grade teacher came in one day. “Girls today we will begin a special contest. I will hand out notebooks to each girl and I want you to write at least one thing each day that you are thankful for.”

Sara immediately started jotting down a list of four things that she was thankful for. Linda on the other hand was stumped. “What are you writing? I can’t think of a thing.” “There’s tons! I am thankful for having great friends. I am thankful for being able to see. I am thankful for walking and of course for the best teacher, Miss Braun. I could go on and on, but I’ll save some for other days.”

Now even Linda got the hang of it. The girls jotted down a few examples every day for months and slowly filled up their notebooks. The girls were surprised that up on till then they had not realized how much they had to appreciate.

At the end of the school year each girl had a treasured book, filled with Hakorat Hatov.

 

In the middle of 7th grade Linda came down with a dreadful disease that left her hospitalized. All those that came to visit her were surprised with her upbeat attitude. “I’ll let you in on a secret. Last year Miss Braun taught us to have Hakorat Hatov. She requested that we write down things that we are thankful for. Each morning, here in the hospital, I read through my notebook and see how many things I still have to be grateful for. It gives me strength and a good mind-set to conquer the day.”

Thank G-d, Linda overcame her illness and is married with a family today. She makes sure to cherish this notebook and is certain to publicize what she calls a miracle. “This is what kept me going!”

What have we learned today?

 

What is Hakorat Hatov?

A Jew must always be thankful to Hashem. He must be sure to thank anyone that does an act of kindness even if he paid him for his service.

 

What are some examples that we can thank Hashem for?

We can say thanks to Hashem throughout the day even when we are not praying. We can thank Hashem for giving us good friends. We must be grateful for our functional limbs, our feet that walk, our hands that move and write. We can thank Hashem that we can speak and hear and for the brain that allows us to think. We should be thankful for our wonderful parents who provide us with what we need.

Boys and girls, who can come up with a notebook-full of Hakorat Hatov? Try it. I’m sure you’ll fill it up in no time.

 

I’d like to take this opportunity to show my Hakorat Hatov to Rabbi Matmon for allowing me to share some thoughts and ideas with all my fantastic readers. I would also like to show gratitude to all my readers who have sent in words of encouragement and suggestions. I am looking forward to hearing more comments and suggestions.

Parshat Va’etchanan

July 23, 2013 Highlights on the Weekly Parsha No comments
First Portion
*This Parsha reminds me of my great grandfather, and many like him, that when arriving in the land of Israel in the late 1800’s, would kiss the ground and thank G-d for having been privileged to be there. They actually found his and my great-great grandfather’s grave in Har Hazetim recently which was under Arab control. Unfortunately, it wasn’t so with our leader, as we see in the beginning passages. Moshe prays to G-d intensely, to overturn a decree that he shall not enter the Promised land. The Chasam Sofer holds that G-d did indeed listen to Moshe’s prayer. We have a rule under certain circumstances prayer accomplishes half. Moshe prayed, “Let me please pass over and see.” (Devarim 3:25) and the prayers were answered in that G-d told Moshe “see with your eyes, for you will not pass over this Jordan.” G-d answered part of the prayer regarding seeing, but not the part of entering the land. There are many new insights we can derive from these passages; the power of prayer is one. G-d tells Moshe to stop praying for if he prayed a little more, G-d would have to negate on his oath that he will not enter the land. Another crucial point of these passages as the Ibn Ezra relates is that the main purpose here was to endear Eretz Yisrael – the land of Israel – to the Jewish people. If the people would be understanding enough to appreciate the land in the way expressed by Moshe’s prayer, they would surely keep the mitzvot (commandments) in order not to be exiled from their land. One question is asked, if he so desired the benefits of the land why is it not mentioned that he became satisfied from its fruits? He could have ordered out. I guess take out wasn’t as popular then like it is here in New York. From here  we see that there is an added benefit besides the physical. The Shelah mentions that the air of Eretz Yisrael makes one wise. It is there that one receives the crown of Torah. Perhaps, Abarbenal adds, this is why our Parsha begins and ends with the topic of the land of Israel, with the giving of the Torah in the middle.
* “Do not add nor subtract from my commandments.” Many Sages comment how an extremely important commandment this is. It is self-preservation par excellence. Human nature is such that one gravitates and alters things during the course of time. Although it’s inevitable that modern technology has altered our lives, however the Torah is designed to withstand the changes and many of the core laws are performed as our ancestors did thousands of years ago.
Second Portion
* “There you will serve other G-ds.” Once the new generations will be removed from the revelation at Sinai, then they will be more susceptible to stray. Moshe prophesizes that generations to come will try to gain acceptance from the non-Jews at the expense of our tradition. This happened many times through the course of history. Rabbi Beryl Wien, a famous historian, explains when Jews have no respect to their host countries then assimilation is at a bare minimum. However, if Jews look up to their host countries, whether in education, culture, fashion/style, then assimilation rises. The assimilation is at 60% in the US.

Third Portion
* City of refuge, where if one accidentally kills a fellow Jew, which was designed by Moshe in Reuben’s territory, the town of Betsar. Afterwards, Moshe designed the Town of Ramos in the territory of Gad and Golan, Menashe’s territory on the eastern side of the Jordan.

Fourth Portion
* After the Israelites were receptive to Moshe’s criticism, he then repeated the Ten Commandments. One who is open and eager to learn will advance tremendously. So, Moshe thought it’s a perfect opportunity for the nation to hear. It’s important to note, many who were present did not hear the revelation at Sinai. That generation died over the course of forty years.
* One of the differences of this version and the one in the book of Shemot is in the commandment of Shabbat. There it says Zachor – remember the Shabbat. In this version, it says Shamor – be careful of transgressing the Shabbat. There is both a positive and negative commandment regarding the Shabbat. It’s not enough to just sleep and lounge around in pajamas for 24 hours. One has to enjoy the Shabbat with all its rich traditions. The Shabbat table has to be performed with respect and dignified manner; that is zachor – remembering.

Fifth Portion
* Passing the tradition is crucial in Judaism. It’s a big aveira – sin – to break the chain. The parent/child relationship is important and should be handled with a great deal of responsibility. Education in Judaism is key. Let’s say, though, one didn’t have religious parents whom followed the tradition, or for that matter, if one doesn’t have parents at all to learn from. I know a fine person who grew up without a father and yet had the most amazing Shabbat table one could imagine, week after week. This person will have a tremendous reward after he passes on. Those people have an added test in life. So if they keep the tradition of their ancestors once removed, they will reap tremendous rewards.

Sixth Portion
* After the war, they gathered all the older toddler orphans and they wanted to tell which one is Jewish (boys are easy to tell). How are they able to determine if they’re Jewish?  Answer: scream out to them SHEMA YISRAEL, most likely, if they are Jewish, they’ll answer back: “HASHEM ELOKANU, HASHEM ECHAD.” That is the power of the Shema. It’s the first phrase Jewish parents teach their toddlers.

Seventh Portion
* G-d emphasizes separation from the non-Jews and reiterates the seven nations that are currently living in the land would be bad neighbors and should be removed from the country. Israel should be pure and only marry among themselves is repeated. The Jews are now leaving the secluded comfort zone of the desert and will be faced with new challenges in their homeland.

I Want My Prayer to be Heard

July 21, 2013 Mitzvot and Traditions No comments

 

When someone commits to take upon himself an undertaking of any sort, it usually is a sign that he deems it quite important.
So was the case with a fellow named Rabbi Yosef Gutfarb. Rabbi Yosef was a New Yorker who moved to Jerusalem, Israel. He made an undertaking that he will always pray with a minyan.
We Jews pray 3 times a day and the optimal prayer conducted is with a minyan, which consists of at least 10 men present. By the way, that is the only time Kadish may be recited.
It can be quite challenging for one to get up early in the morning, in the heat or cold, and attend prayer services.
What is dedication?
What does it mean to pass a tough test?
If someone enters a freezing cold car at 6:15 in the morning, in the dead of winter, just to get to minyan; now that’s dedication!! Mankind has not figured out a inexpensive way to have the car heating system working so that it’s hot intently. No one looks forward for the car in the early morning experience.
It is equally challenging to pry yourself from the middle of an important business transactions and attend the afternoon services. One can get really involved in their career. Furthermore, evening services are not any easier after a long and hard day at work.
Nevertheless Rabbi Yosef soldiered his way through three decades, whether on business trips all around the world or any sort of unexpected pop-ups; he did not miss a beat of kaddish or one amen of a minyan!!…Talk about longevity!!
Hmm, did someone give Rabbi Yosef the evil eye?
One night Rav Yosef came home after 3:00am and he did not pray the evening services. Since in Shaufat the last minyan is at 11:00pm he calculated he would go to the next town over to search for a minyan. He was confident he would catch one in Zichron Moshe where there was a shul (Bet Hakneset) there, known to be a minyan factory. There are rooms throughout the building where there is always a minyan at any time of day or night; how convenient?
Well mazal was a little difficult that night and to his dismay only one other person was waiting. “Do you think anybody else will come”? he inquisitively asked. “Why are you saying kadish? Are you an Avel-mourning the loss of a loved one?” the man questioned. “No, I just made a commitment many years ago to not to miss a minyan” he replied.
“How could this be? There is always a minyan here!” he nervously thought. What to do? What to do?
“I got it!!”
Rav Yosef then called a taxi company and asked if eight cabs can come to Zichron Moshe Shul (Bet Hakneset). “Only Israeli drivers” he added emphatically.
The dispatcher retorted back, “I don’t have eight taxies at three in the morning.”
“How many do you have?” Rav Yosef asked. “Only five” the dispatcher replied.
“Fine, send them quickly please: don’t forget only Israeli drivers!!
Rav Yosef called another taxi company and asked for three Isreali drivers. The dispatcher said they would come in a few minutes.
The eight cabs all lined up and got out of their cars thinking they came at a tail end of some kind of party. To their dismay they found only Rabbi Yosef and the gentleman.
Rav Yosef told the drivers to turn off their cars and enter the shul “we’re going to pray the evening services, I need a minyan”. He explained his strange appeal by saying, “I haven’t missed a minyan in years”.
The drivers, surprised but intrigued, obliged to the bizarre request.
They all could read Hebrew but not all were familiar with the protocol of tefila -prayer. Some had kipas-skull caps in their pockets, some in their glove compartment in their taxies.
After the prayer Rav Yosef took out his wallet to pay the drivers. All the drivers, one by one refused to take the money. They were all stunned by the audacity of this American Jew who went to great lengths to fulfill his commitment for the sake of praying with a minyan. So impressed by the 15 minute prayer, many of the drivers thanked Rav Yosef for an uplifting spiritual experience. Many told him they have never had such a strong feeling when they prayed like this one time. Some said they haven’t prayed in a while and were honored to participate. They were all glad to have the opportunity to pray with such a person.
Prayer is powerful!! Prayer is uplifting!!
However, there are times when prayers are not answered…… or are they?
What is the most optimal method of prayer where G-d will answer you?
Do I have to cry my eyes out and pound my chest for it to penetrate G-d majestic throne for an answer?
After all, we know prayers with tears pass through the cracks and go straight to heaven.
Why do we even need to pray?
If we are good up-standing citizens wouldn’t G-d see what we need and give it to us?
There are some people who seem like they are showered with gifts from the All Mighty. Well, why can’t we all be on the receiving end like that?
In this weeks parsha we see how Moshe’s request to enter the land of Israel was denied. Even though Moshe prayed like no other soul on earth, G-d refused to allow him entrance.
As a matter of fact, G-d told him to stop because if he would have continued he would have no choice but to honor his request.
Why did G-d tell him to stop?
The Sages tell us it was to our benefit that he stopped. They said if he entered Israel then he would have built the Temple later on. Years later, though, when the nation would sin, since Moshe, a great Tzadik built the Temple, the structure would have tremendous merits. G-d would not have been able to destroy it. He would have no choice but to destroy the nation instead. It’s better to destroy stones then the nation of Israel.
Here we learn a number of things about this incident from the sages. First, there is a broader picture that our short sighted human mind can’t see. Moshe didn’t fully understand the extent of his power and how dear the Temple he would build would be to G-d. Therefore his entrance would be problematic for the Jews later on in time.
So to answer a lingering question we all have; if our prayers are not answered does that mean G-d didn’t listen?
Perhaps, we see from here, it’s for our best interest that things turn out the way they do. Furthermore, sometimes the results of our prayers are delayed such that our children or grandchildren benefit from them.
Okay, perhaps our prayers are answered; perhaps our prayers benefit future generations…whatever and whomever, nevertheless praying 3 times a day!! That’s overwhelming!!
Perhaps this is the best time to let people know. Many people have a misconception about prayer.Prayer is called AVODA- literally-work; it’s one of the aspects of serving the creator. Just like learning Torah, keeping Shabbat, kashrut, tzedaka , be kind to people, just to name a few, so is tefila. By praying one is acknowledging his reliance to G-d and a key aspect of our religion. By acknowledging one gets closer to G-d.
We read in the AMIDA- the silent prayer “give us a health, intelligence, wealth.” G-d knows we need those things. Why do we have to say it?
The AVODA of prayer is to make us realize that G-d is in control and to constantly remind us of that.
Why do we have to know that our great mothers were barren?
It seemed like all of them were. There was no IDF back then. The reason why they suffered and were humiliated so much was because G-d wanted them to pray and their prayers were beautiful, sincere, and mesmerizing.
Between Adam, Eve, and the snake, G-d punished the snake most severely by taking away his taste buds and eating the dust of the earth.
If one thinks a bit; why is that a punishment?
He has no issues of finding and preparing food or having a craving. It seems we have the more severe punishment we have to find food, water, shelter, and energy, all with “with the sweat of your brow”.
It looks like we humans got the short end of the stick.
Not exactly.  G-d was very angry at the snake. He was so upset, that He said to him “I don’t want to see you much- Don’t call me”. Therefore he made him more independent. By praying we are connecting.
Many Chasidim like to pray with their Rebbi. Some would go out of their way on a daily basis and some would travel 6,000 miles more often than not just to have that connection.
Granted, they appreciate their teacher. He probably gave a lot to his students, but don’t they think they’re over doing it a bit?
There was once a business man who was traveling abroad. The concept of “man plans and G-d laughs” could not have been closer to the truth here. He was stuck in this town for Yom Kippur. He Google’s and finds out which shul is closest to his hotel.
Yom Kippur starts and this fellow arrives. “There are probably assigned seats but I’ll take my chances” he says as he strategically explores the shul. He sees someone praying, shaking ,crying and screaming to G-d. “Ah, that’s who I want to pray next to” he thought as he anxiously moves toward him and plants his Talit bag. For the remainder of the night this man wailed, fell to the floor and banged on his chest. It was a sight to see. It put the business man in a real repentance, Yom Kippur mood. He was so glad to sit next to him. He’s my ticket to a good year. Jackpot!! Show me the stairway to heaven. Jimmy Page eat your heart out!
Yom Kippur morning arrives and again the man’s performance was impeccable. The businessman was crying with him. However when the congregation was about to take the Torah out and read the morning portion he began to scream and argue with the Gabai.
” Why did you give that Aliya to him; I wanted it. You’ve been doing this all year; this is a conspiracy. You’re a louse!! This congregation is garbage!!
The business man sat there with such regret and embarrassment.
The business man, in essence did the right thing; it was just lousy mazal.
Many of our sages say praying with a minyan is more powerful then an individual prayer.
There are bad angels that are assigned to intercept ones prayers. Every prayer is heard, however it loses a lot of steam by the time it reaches the heavens. Prayer with a minyan goes to the heavens untouched.
Why?
No matter how good a person is “for the most part” he has issues and skeletons in his closet. While in a miyan there can be many individuals with different merits. The comradely and unison merits of a minyan make a wholesome and attractive package.
Furthermore we are humans after all and our concentration during prayer is not exactly always there. We are creatures of habit and there are pluses and minuses to that. Unfortunately, prayer can be mechanical. However, there will always be at least one individual at any given time who will pray with the up-most sincerity. They will un-knowingly and unconsciously pass the sincere baton to each other throughout the prayer services.
The Chassidim gravitate to where their Rebbi prays because a teacher of Torah is a tremendous giver. Learning Torah requires two parts. We say in the prayer before the Morning Shema, Lilmod u le lamed – to learn and to teach. The combination of the two equals to the full mitzvah-reward of learning Torah. If one only learns and doesn’t give over he doesn’t get the full reward. The teacher gets full reward for the dearest commandment: teaching G-d’s work. He’s a giver that emulates the trait of G-d.
To connect to the Rebbi, one is attached to many merits. Therefore it’s a tremendous benefit to pray with him.
Rabbi Yossi has tremendous merits and for at least one night, these eight taxi drivers prayed with a tzadik and as a result benefited greatly. They felt a spiritual high. A heartfelt prayer by one of those drivers in the confines of a minyan would have transported the prayers all in the minyan including Rav Yossi to the higharchy of the heavens, unabated.
 “first story re-written, originally  from “in the spirit of the maggid” by Rabbi Paysach Krohn, Mesorah publications,ltd, article written with the help from Rabbi’s Baruch Dopelt, Yossi Bilus

Parshat Ki Tisa

May 10, 2013 Highlights No comments

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 Parshat Ki Tisa
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In This Issue
Parshat Ki Tisa Highlights
A Different Type of Hero
Show Me Your Glory
Are Colognes and Perfumes Allowed on Pesach?

Parshat Ki Tisa Highlights
First Portion

* ‘When you take a census of the Israelites, each man shall give a ransom for himself to G-d so the census does not lead to plague’ (11:12)

What’s the connection between plague and census? Rashi and many commentaries say that the plague results from the evil eye – not from sin. The tally draws every individual from the general mass, establishing him as a separate unit so he’s judged independently. Therefore, plague strikes him more severely than if he were being watched as part of a community. As a result, G-d instructed Moshe to collect from each individual coins as opposed to counting the individual person. The custom remains today of not counting our brethren individually.

* The reason why a half a shekel is required is to show that G-d has forgiven the Israelites for the sin of the golden calf. They sinned after a half of day when Moshe didn’t return.

* Here is another example that the Torah is not in chronological order: The census took place after the sin of the golden calf which we will read later in the Parsha.

* G-d ordered that a large copper basin with spouts be constructed and put in the yard of the Mishkan. It was filled with water every morning, so the kohanim poured water over their hands and feet before commencing their task. This water was not meant to cleanse them for health hygiene purposes, but more for enhancing them spiritually and to cleanse themselves from impurities. The power of water can change and elevate one spiritually. Here is the source of washing hands whether for the morning ritual, meal ritual and bathroom rituals.

* The shemen hamishcha was prepared by taking numerous spices. Each spice was crushed separately; then they were blended and soaked in water so that their aroma would be absorbed in the water. Olive oil was added to the water, and the mixture was boiled until the water evaporated and only the spiced oil remained. That oil (oil of anointment) was preserved in a flask to be used for the purpose of anointing the kohen gadol and kings from the dynasty of David.

 

Second Portion

* The power of evil strikes again invoking an uneasy feeling that the Israelite leader, Moshe, is dead and therefore confusing the Jews in their calculation of when his return was to be. As a result, they came to their second-in-command, Moshe’s brother, Aharon, and demanded a new conduit, a new go-between to G-d. Apparently Aharon, feeling pressured, instructed them to build a golden calf. The steps Aharon comprised to get to this golden calf was difficult and he believed would take them some time. This delay, Aharon thought, would give Moshe the time needed to return before it was built. However, in their haste and enthusiasm, they finished it rather quickly.

* There is an expression ‘one sin leads to another sin’. Many sages comment that the celebration of the golden calf led to sexual misconduct.

* It’s not exactly clear what was Aharon’s role in this tragedy. The fact that he and his sons remained in the most coveted position in the nation indicates he was not at fault. Although, some commentaries say he did get punished for his role; they hint that there is a link between the sin of the golden calf and the death of Aharon’s two sons, Nadav and Avihu.

The fact, though that the incident occurred under his leadership; even though he personally was not involved, he has to take the responsibility. The captain is responsible for anything that occurs on the ship.

* Moshe breaks the tablets after returning from the mountain and seeing the Israelites in a state of sin. He then punishes the aigel worshipers with death and tests the Israelites with the waters of sotah. This was done by taking the golden calf and burning it; crushed the remains; mixed it with water; and had the Israelites drink it (the sotah was a married woman who was suspected by her husband of adultery. Her integrity was tested by having her drink specially prepared waters, causing her to perish if she was guilty).

 

Third Portion

* Moshe goes up the mountain a second time to get a second set of tablets.

 

Fourth Portion

* Moshe was only able to see the backside of G-d. Apparently seeing the front would be too much for a human to handle. Many commentaries ask what exactly did Moshe mean by saying ‘let me see your presence’.

 

Fifth Portion

* G-d reveals the thirteen attributes of mercy. He informs Moshe a method of guaranteeing mercy in which we invoke as the crux of our Yom Kippur prayers. We frequently apply the virtue of our forefathers Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov. However, these thirteen attributes, if said with proper concentration and sensitivity, will be very effective. Sephardic custom is to say it daily as well.

 

Sixth Portion

* Observing Pesach is mentioned.

* Here is the source of pidyon haben; the redeeming of the first-born. If a person becomes a father of a first born, he has to buy his baby back from the kohen.

* The holiday of Pesach is mentioned.

 

Seventh Portion

* The meeting with G-d on the mountain puts Moshe on the status of an angel. He didn’t sleep or eat for that period.

A Different Type of Hero
   

One of the major questions in the Torah and a story line that’s difficult to comprehend, is how is it possible the Israelites, our ancestors, can sin with the golden calf after seeing so many miracles that G-d has bestowed on them? The whole Egypt experience, the plagues upon their persecutors, and the splitting of the sea was so mesmerizing that all the nations trembled upon hearing what had occurred. However, there were those who spoiled it for the rest. Perhaps an example of the most ineffectiveness of G-d’s revelation is the shameful and pathetic story of Micha. It says that he clung to his idol through the plagues of Egypt and the splitting of the sea. Can you imagine the audacity?

 

 

 

We read with awe the sages words “even a maidservant was able, at the splitting of the Red Sea, to perceive of the Divine what Yechezkel ben Buzy was unable to grasp”. Our ancestors saw more firepower miracles during that generation, than in any time in history. So how can the Jews be so confused and wither away at the first wimpy test of faith?

 

In order to answer the question, we must take a closer look at the statement about the maidservant we just quoted. If indeed a maidservant was capable of such lofty understanding, why is she still referred to as a maidservant; she should be called a prophetess?

 

Apparently, these unique events and highly energized spiritual revelations on their own do not create a prophet. The maidservant, after all the hoopla, still remained a maidservant. To develop prophet status or reach spiritual heights, one must go through character development and self-perfection. The sages have a regiment through the guidance of the Torah on how to achieve these goals. It’s humorous to read about these adventurous Hollywood stars, as well as rock and roll artists, studying Kaballah or whatever the organizers of that contraption call it. For one to get to that lofty level, one would have to go through many steps of Torah study and character fixing. Though one can reach a very high level through being nice, considerate, and kind, where he will develop a tremendous sensitivity toward others. Reaching that level of sensitivity to one’s fellow man, to an extent where the world feels a lot more crisp and sharp, along with the conscious effort to progress in learning Torah, will breed a level of contentment, happiness, and perfection. If these Hollywood stars would have gone through the true Torah system, they wouldn’t be called Hollywood stars, they would be called kaballists!

 

The Mesilat Yesharim equates us to soldiers, and the true heroes are the ones who can control their desires. Apparently, that’s the definition of a strong man, Ish Chayil, one who is able to grow and develop, then he will appreciate the miracles.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Show Me Your Glory
   

One of the most intriguing and philosophical passages in the Torah is in this week’s Parsha, when Moshe, who was on the mountain receiving the tablets, asks G-d .”Let me see Your glory”. The response was “No man has seen my face and lived.” The sages say that G-d had only showed him His back. Many commentaries asked what exactly was Moshe’s request? It’s a loaded question with many different angles that we can explore. There are many interesting ideas (since we are such a creative people), which the sages raise as to what Moshe’s intent was.

Let’s start with a Gemarah (Brachot 7). The sages state that Moshe wished to know why there are righteous people that suffer and wicked people who seem to be rewarded. This is an age-old question that G-d seemingly refused to answer. The Chofetz Chaim offers a telling parable in this regard. A Shabbat guest noticed how the shamash distributed honors to members seated all over his host synagogue. Puzzled, he asked the Shamash, “Why didn’t you distribute the honors in a more orderly fashion?” The shamash answered ‘How do you know there is no order in my system? What do you know about our synagogue anyway? Do you know who was honored in previous weeks?”.  This is just what G-d told Moshe. “You ask me why the righteous suffer and the wicked enjoy reward. Yet, do you really know when reward begins and when it ends? Do you have any idea what was yesterday? Do you have any idea of what events happened in the past and who the righteous and evil were in former incarnations?

 

“Everything we see”, says the Chatam Sofer, “we see vaguely.” A person does not know beforehand what present events will lead to in the future as is demonstrated by the miracle of Purim. “You shall see my back” (Shemot 33:23) can be figuratively read, as “You shall see my ending”. Only in the end, do we grasp the purpose of any act,  “My front cannot be seen”, we cannot know the reason for an event ‘up front” before its conclusion.

 

Here’s another idea of ‘show me your glory’. We know we are destined to reach potential goals. However, there is a percentage of effort one has to make in order for the bracha to kick in. One cannot stay at home and say; oh it’s destined for me to receive that. This is a common dilemma when dating to get married. Is there a set amount of dates one has to go on? Is there a certain amount of pursuit in which one has to do to receive a date? When does trying stop and nuisance begins? In regard to having children, to what extent does one have to go in order to accomplish that goal? This question can be applied in many variations in making a living and health issues.

 

Moshe asked, “Show me Your glory.” Show me the fine line between effort and it’s in G-ds hands now.”

 

Interestingly, we often play, what would you say and do if you are in his shoes? Although, we talk to G-d every day, what would you ask G-d if you had the honor to bring down the Torah?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Are Colognes and Perfumes Allowed on Pesach?

 

With the holiday of Purim coming to a close, the race is on to CLEAN CLEAN CLEAN for Pesach. Although we are still wearing our winter coats, spring training has already started in Florida where the Mets and the Yankees are practicing. The enthusiasm of spring, especially when we flirt with a 60-degree sunny day, is so great that we forget to take our bulky winter coat. We often pay the price toward the evening hours where temperatures dip to the 30’s. I remember going to a baseball game in early April at the old Shea Stadium. It was a beautiful nice day but it was freezing with a ferocious wind at the ballpark. But the thought of spring, as well as Pesach, gives many of us such an energetic boost. The anticipation of Pesach, a beautiful holiday that personifies spring, is welcomed by many.

 

To get us in the mood for the holiday, a discussion about some of the things that are and are not permissible would be kind of interesting.

One may ask, are we allowed to put on perfumes and colognes on Pesach? Why would it be an issue, one may ask?

First and foremost, one has to know a basic concept on the rules of chametz. The Rambam (Maimonides) rules, and it’s also stated in the Shulchan Aruch, that “if a dog will not find it edible then it is permissible to use”; so it seems like there’s no problem. However, Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l many years ago, who revolutionized the practical applications, rules “even if something in its present state is inedible but if you can possibly distill it and produce edible chametz,  then we would call it chametz.” Many unnatural alcohols mixed with various chemicals if they can be restored to their original fit, then its chametz. Methanol and isopropyl are not chametz. Perfumes and colognes though, are unfit and have no chance of becoming chametz. Some say the scent of the perfume might be considered fit and since it is the primary ingredient of the perfume then its problematic. However most incline to consider perfumes and colognes permissible. This application is only for pure liquid state.

 

 

 

 
Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience

Parshat Bo

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 Parshat Bo

January 26, 2012
2 Shevat, 5772
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Parshat Bo Highlights
Parshat Bo – Intellect vs. Emotion
Tefillin
Ask The Jew

Parshat Bo Highlights
First Portion

* Again, G-d is mentioning that he has hardened Pharaoh’s heart, or as we have said previously, hardened the ability to withstand the impact of the Plagues. Therefore, giving him the freedom of choice, where his true cruel personality has been shown. One may think the storyline, so far, in the book of Shemot, has been the belief in G-d. However, there is an added dimension here, as evident by the constant focusing of ‘hardening the heart’ of Pharaoh, and that is the depth of how low he can go in his handling of fellow human beings.

* Even his advisors suggested to him to release the Israelites, but he refused. Unfortunately, they still followed his command. History often repeats itself; this is the first of many times where ‘they just followed orders’ from their evil leader. One cannot do that; opposition groups should have risen if they thought Pharaoh was wrong; grass roots should have begun. Apparently, it didn’t, and therefore the Egyptian nation is as responsible for their actions just as Pharaoh was.

* Moshe and Aharon threaten to bring another plague, locusts.

* Pharaoh’s response was to let just the men go, and leave the women and children. Moshe obviously refused, setting the stage for the locusts.

 

Second Portion

* Pharaoh runs to find Moshe to beg him to stop the plague stating, ‘I have sinned to G-d’ only to have him revert back, a short time later, to his stance of refusal to let them go.

* Moshe brought upon Egypt the next plague, “darkness”, through the command of G-d.

* Many of the Israelites who were not following in the way of G-d perished in this plague. The reason why G-d chose this particular plague is because He did not want the Egyptians to say, “We’re not the only ones being punished”. So when the Egyptians arose from the darkness, those Jews were already buried.

 

Third Portion

* Pharaoh said to Moshe, “You can leave, but only your flock and cattle shall remain”. Moshe retorted back, “We leave with all we have”.

* G-d made it so that the Jews were able to take gold, silver, and clothing from the Egyptians. The Egyptians themselves honored the request of the Israelites.

 

Fourth Portion

* G-d informs Moshe of the last plague, ‘death of the firstborn of the Egyptians’.

* G-d instructs Moshe and Aharon the first commandment of the Torah. G-d informs them starting with “This month, I will implement a calendar system”. The calendar is based on the moon and is regulated by the sun. The time span between one new moon and the next is 29 days, 12 hours, 44 minutes, and 3 ½ seconds. Since a month has to be composed of complete days, the months alternate between 29 and 30 days. So a 12-month year contains 354 days as opposed to 365 days of a solar year. In order to make up the eleven days difference which will eventually cause a problem after many years because Nissan, a spring month (Pesach has to be in the spring), will fall in the winter. Therefore, the Torah instituted a leap year, which consists of a 13th month (Adar ll) to the year, seven times every nineteen years. This will ensure Pesach will fall in the springtime each year.

* The Seder night of Pesach, which we commemorate today, is a very powerful night because it was when G-d showed tremendous mercy on our ancestors many years before. On that night, then, we were instructed to perform the Pesach offering, which consists of roasting lamb or sheep (these animals were sacred and considered the Egyptian gods. Therefore, it’s a slap in the face to the Egyptians). The blood from the offering was to be placed on the doorpost. While we were eating the Pesach offering in our homes, G-d skipped over our houses but did not spare the Egyptians where he killed the firstborn.

* We are introduced in this section on how to perform our obligation to the holiday of Pesach.

 

Fifth Portion

* Interestingly, it says that the Israelites should not leave their homes on the night of “death of the firstborn of the Egyptians, or the angel of death will smite you too.” But wasn’t it understood that G-d himself would kill the Egyptian firstborns? The angel was specifically instructed to kill any Jews who leave their homes. We learn an important lesson, one is not permitted to feel good in watching their enemy being tortured or killed. Although the Egyptians tortured the Jews, G-d stilled made sure not to let them see what was done to the Egyptians.

 

Sixth Portion

*Pharaoh ran out in his pajamas in the middle of the night to find Moshe and beg him to stop the plagues and leave. He said the whole Jewish nation should leave.

*There were 600,000 men between the ages of 20 and 60 who left Egypt.

*In haste, they left while the bread did not finish baking. This bread is called matzoh.

*The Jews were in exile 210 years.

 

Seventh Portion

* We conclude the parsha with two passages; one on the firstborn and the other on teaching future generations. As we get prepared to leave Egypt, we are in essence graduating to a nation status. The narrative is directing us from slave status to a bright future where now the father of the household has a say and influence, and will be able to pass down the tradition of the gift that was given by G-d — the Torah.

Parshat Bo – Intellect vs. Emotion
   

 

          Three people were on an airplane: Henry Kissinger, a boy scout, and a Rabbi. They will find out that the plane is in distress and will crash shortly. There are only two parachutes!! Henry Kissinger grabs a parachute and jumps out of the plane. So, the Rabbi goes to the boy scout ‘take the parachute. Son, I’m a lot older than you. You have a long life ahead of you. Please take the parachute. The boy laughs ‘Don’t worry, Rabbi. There are two left .The smartest man in the world just took my knapsack.’
           When situations are such that one is forced to make a decision with great deal of emotions involved, in this case facing life and death on the airplane, a greater amount mistakes will occur. The intellect has to have greater control over the emotions to have a good functional system.
           Desire is another emotion that can be devastating, even when one has time on his side; it’s a slow kill. If the desire is strong enough, then chances are it’s not governed by intellect. One may think he’s rational but it’s the emotion that stems from the desire that’s talking. What’s that expression? Don’t confuse me with the facts, I made my decision.
Rashi said Pharaoh refused to be humbled before G-d (Shemot 10:3). When the Egyptians began to enslave the Jews, Pharaoh rationalized that we can really use them and gain from their productivity. However, G-d had other plans and Pharaoh realized himself it wasn’t beneficial to enslave them. His advisers warned him also Egypt will be lost if the enslavement of the Jews continues. Their powerful G-d will destroy us. Pharaoh who was considered very smart knew that these plagues will destroy his kingdom. Yet his ego didn’t allow him to let them go.
But how does one understand Pharaohs behavior? Apparently, it should be the opposite. If Pharaoh was so concerned about his Honor and protect his ego, he would have let the Jews out the first chance he had knowing he’s going to lose his status and wealth. There’s no comparison; it’s a no-brainer. What’s at stake? Pharaoh can lower his head and let them go and still maintain his kingdom and perhaps a good chance of being considered a superpower. Or he would hold firm and continue to enslave the Israelites and inevitably his army would be destroyed and Egypt will never ever gain the glorified position it holds and Pharaoh would be labeled a fool by the world. Let’s not overlook that he sinned in front of G-d and will be accounted for it after his life is over.
             Why did he make such a decision? Isn’t it mind boggling?
              Pharaohs inflated ego was making the decisions. This desire, which stems from the heart, overrides the intellect. No matter how logical and factual the emotions block out the intellect where even the smartest man in the world will not make a rational decision. Even if his advisors are begging him to let them go and the plague are causing devastation, Pharaoh will feel confident that it’s the right choice. It’s a scary thought, how many decisions people make based on desire; desire for honor and women.
              People don’t realize that desire is an emotion because one can be seen as acting normal, however it influences us. When the desire is alleviated even briefly, one can realize the wrong decisions he has made and the time he wasted. The frightening aspect about desire even a most influential friend with sound advice may not be able to get through because his message will be blocked.

 

This schmooze is based from the teachings of Rav Henoch Liebowitz z’l.

Tefillin

 

          In the memorable inception of becoming a man, I spent time alone in the early morning at my grandparents’ house in Israel, trying on my new pair of Tefillin. Our family visited Israel; my parents thought it would be a great idea for me, the bar mitzvah boy, to put Tefillin on for the first time at the Kotel (Wailing Wall). The Kli Yakar mentions that the Western Wall is where the forming of the souls originates. Perhaps that is why when one visits the Kotel, they feel a burst of spirituality. For this reason, it might be a ‘get off on the right foot’ the first mitzvah that a bar mitzvah boy does would be super.
             Even though I’ve been to Israel many times before, it was still a culture shock; perhaps this is why Israelis would label us ‘pampered Americans’. My grandparents lived in an industrial part of Tel Aviv where mini – and I mean “mini” factories   would start drilling very early in the morning, which would thump me out of bed, uncharacteristically early. Every place in a person’s life has a certain flavor, scent, look, taste and feel. My grandparents’ neighborhood in Florentine, Tel Aviv will live in my memory bank for a long time with its uniqueness.
            The scent of the brand new leather Tefillin straps smelled great although the head Tefillin was a bit large. I was waiting for Pop to come and adjust it. As instructed by my father earlier, the passage that is found in this week’s Parsha, Kadesh lee kol bechor, should be emphasized. Every morning when I say that passage, it reminds me of that morning where the first exploration took place.
             The Tefillin has four compartments in the head box and one in the hand. One reason this is so as offered by the Meiri who quotes King David’s (Tehilim119:10) ‘with all my heart I sought you out’, which is defined with all my five senses. The head is the seat of four senses: sight, hearing, taste, and smell, which correspond to the four departments of the head Tefillin. The arm, however, possesses only one sense – that of touch. Hence, the arm Tefillin has only one compartment.
             The concept of the five senses is also connected to the Shema (we discussed this a few weeks ago). This is the idea of fusing both the physical world and the spiritual world, and to serve G-d as a whole entity. This can even be applied to any meal or physical act. One would be surprised to how many things he could apply it to. If one is sensitive and conscience of this fusing process, he can reach a level of spirituality to the highest degree.

Ask The Jew
   

In the article written on the parsha titled ”Intellect vs. Emotion”, I began with a joke mentioning Henry Kissinger. I was reminded of the joke because there was an article written about him in the New York Times. It said that Vladimir Putin, the Prime Minister of Russia, would meet with Kissinger, the former Secretary of State in the Nixon administration, to seek out advice on domestic and world affairs. The two men are old friends; Mr. Putin’s press secretary said Putin values the point of view of such a wise man as Kissinger.

On many occasions over the course of history, great leaders and important noblemen have sought advice from Jews. Advice has been given by Rabbi Akiva, Rabbi Yehuda Hanassi (to Mark Anthony, Emperor of Rome), the Lubavitcher Rebbi and even Rav Pinto (currently residing in NYC) to name such a miniscule few.

Jews generally are known to be smart. The medium of entertainment and information, television, which on occasion reflects the unconscious inner thoughts of America, broadcast a conversation of Archie Bunker and his son-in-law Mike Stivic from the #1 popular comedy show of the 1970’s where they were contemplating who to hire for a lawyer. Archie, who played the patriarch bigot and anti-Semite, said if you hire a lawyer, he’s got to be a Jew. They have a greater chance of winning.

We are the chosen people and G-d gave us the gift of intelligence and the opportunity to give advice, but it has to be done carefully with the proper guidance through Torah concepts. The Zohar says the reason we are in the Diaspora is to spread the word of G-d. The responsibility of what to do with that intelligence is on us.

On occasion, Jews have taken the gift of intelligence and placed it in the wrong places. The leaders of the adult entertainment, the producers, and directors are mostly Jews.

The far-reaching influence that we have is amazing. Fredric Nietzsche, the 19th century philosopher, who was an anti-Semite, who orchestrated a modern philosophy of survival of the fittest, said on the topic of Christianity. It’s nothing more than a bad copy of Judaism, where helping the meek and giving charity is rooted from.

Charity and kindness is an innovative Jewish idea based on the Torah. There are many religions that are rooted from Torah concepts, spread by Jews visiting that part of the world at one point or another.

We should be proud of who we are and whom we represent and it’s our duty to be well versed in Torah concepts because the other nations look to us for guidance even though they resent our people. Perhaps taking a sneak peak in our holy books will enable us to make a difference and make this world a better place to live.
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Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience

Parshat Shoftim

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Shofetim

Septmeber 1, 2011
2 Elul, 5771
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Are You a Leader Type?
Important Times of the Summer
Hurricane Irene & Your Best China

 Are You a Leader Type?
 leader

‘You may set a king over yourselves’ (Devarim 17:15), G-d told Moshe. Take Yehoshua the son of Nun, a man of spirit’. Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz teaches us in the book, Sichot Mussar, the Torah is pinpointing the particular quality, which determined the selection of Yehoshua as the leader of the Jewish people, who would bring them into the land of Israel. We know that Moshe was denied entrance into the chosen land and therefore his replacement would have a crucial and monumental task in this pilgrimage. The leader after Moshe would have huge shoes to fill knowing that Moshe was considered the greatest leader we ever had. Although in hindsight, Yehoshua was an excellent leader, why was he chosen to take over for Moshe? There were far greater men than Yehoshua. In fact, the Baal Haturim, in his analogy of the Torah text, determines that there were thousands greater then him.

The Torah defines Yehoshua’s attitude for leadership as ‘a man of spirit’. What is the quality of ‘spirit’ that makes it the key qualification in assuming the mantle of leadership of Israel? Rashi, one of the main commentaries on the Chumash, defines it as: he is capable of adopting himself to each person in accordance with his personality. This was the intent of Moshe’s request. ‘Master of the Universe, each person’s disposition is manifest to You and they are not similar. Appoint a leader who will be able to tolerate each one according to his disposition. (Rashi, Bamidbar 27:16)

If one notices, this is a quality that many politicians seek to emulate. All too often we see presidential candidates set up a cameo scenario where they go to a blue color fast food restaurant, in the heart of America, jacket off and rolled-up sleeve and no utensils, having a hamburger with big Jim. The camera catches the candidates joking, schmoozing and knee-slapping, having a good time, like good old buddies. The candidate is painting a picture of ‘a man of spirit’; showing the voters that he can mingle with anybody.

Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz teaches us that one can achieve this leadership quality by mastering tolerance. Apparently, it is difficult to wear many different hats; one has to have patience and tolerate many difficult personalities as well as different social levels which can contradict your style of living. Then, after mastering tolerance (like a parent), he will be able to make the adjustment and achieve ‘spirit’, by having the ability to transform himself temporarily into that kind of social level. Perhaps then, it will be easy to ‘switch gears’ and even speak and act like the person whom he’s trying to accommodate.

Yehoshua was a master in his ability to accommodate each individual to his social needs. All of the Israelites felt comfortable with Yehoshuah bin Nun believing he’s their own kind, a man of spirit.

Important Times of the Summer
 kid w/ ice cream

           Can you believe the summer is coming to an end? It went so fast! It was just yesterday that I wrote about the excitement of anticipating having Marino’s Ices during those long summer hot days. I’ve been pushing off mentioning this fond memory, but does anybody remember Howard Johnson’s ice cream? My parents and I would walk on a warm evening to HoJo’s and meet others from our small close knit community and have pistachio ice cream. Back then, Queens was more suburbia and the white building with the red roof, which Howard Johnson’s was known for, like many stores like it, was a block long, situated around a beautiful landscape. Today they would never allow such valuable real estate to be wasted on a one-floor ice cream parlor; they would carve up the space into a ten-story office building and have a couple of flower plants at the front entrance. The past is a memory; summers come and go and time doesn’t wait; it just marches on.

          Rav Moshe Chaim Lutzatto writes in Mesilat Yesharim, one of the classic works in Jewish literature, that we have become like horses that run toward their destination without looking to the left or right. Perhaps we too, in our fast-paced high pressured American lifestyle are running, achieving our financial goals, but are missing out on some of the more important things in life.
          A number of years ago, I heard the unfortunate news of the sudden death of a friend David Kagen. A few weeks later, I received a phone call from a mutual friend, Ronny Alibayof, asking if we can get together for drinks. ‘It would be nice to hang out’ he said. Kagen’s death made him realize that life is too short; one never knows what’s going to happen tomorrow. Therefore, enjoy the company of your buddy today and have a couple of laughs with him. We have to take advantage and appreciate friends and loved ones.
          The Mesilat Yesharim teaches us through the sages, that King David was concerned, and suggested to hasten the coronation of his son Solomon to the thrown. The Talmud asks, wasn’t it destined that Shlomo be king? The Talmud answers, ‘many adverse affects could occur between now and Gichon (the place where Shlomo was to be coronated). The sages teach us that when one has a precious opportunity in your hands, take advantage before it is too late and time will pass.
          There have been many films and books written about one of the all time classic fantasies man has had since the creation of the world, and that is of entering into a time warp machine. Oh, how much fun will it be to spend one more moment with people that you never had a chance to say the proper goodbyes, or just wanting to experience the warm moment one more time?
           I think if one wants to feel good about their self, he should appreciate the people, experiences of the past, and apply that same appreciation and warm feeling to the people who are currently in his life. The biggest culprit is not realizing that time is passing, resulting in putting off the people most dear to you, thinking, ‘I have time’.
          I recently too my son to Carvel ice cream parlor, even though I was quite busy. Although it’s a lot smaller than in my days, nevertheless, the joy of ordering his favorite ice cream and seeing the pleasure in his eyes made me reminisce of those days at HoJo’s and how good I felt. I sat back and enjoyed the moment of watching him enjoy the moment of summer.

Hurricane Irene & Your Best China
washing dishes
The question is asked, if one lives in Far Rockaway, is one allowed to wash dishes after the Shabbat afternoon meal and put them away, knowing that an evacuation notice has been issued, and anticipating Hurricane Irene late Saturday night? Wow! Now that’s a loaded question. It sounds a bit far fetched, right?

We all know that one is not allowed to make any preparations on Shabbat, for after Shabbat. It says in the Torah ‘zachor’ (remember) and ‘shamor’ (watch) the Shabbat. By watching the Shabbat, one does not violate it (turning on lights, driving, etc). Remembering means to give it kavod, the proper respect and honor for this special day. For example, wearing fine clothes, presenting flowers to your wife at the Shabbat table, etc. Thus, even ordinary activities, which involve no melacha (activity which would violate Shabbat) and are perfectly permissible when done for Shabbat purposes, may not be done in preparation for after Shabbat. For example, if one has a dinner party Saturday night, the table cannot be set up on Shabbat. However, perishable goods and items which may break due to certain circumstances if left in an unsafe environment (would constitute a loss), therefore would be permitted to be put away and the food refrigerated.
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Parshat Va’etchanan

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 Va’etchanan

August 11, 2011
11 Av, 5771
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Is Fear Good or Bad? – Parshat Va’etchanan
Road Rage
Is There a Problem With Eating Fish and Cheese Together?

 Is Fear Good or Bad? – Parshat Va’etchanan
 Fear of G-d

 

In this week’s parsha, similar to many in the book of Devarim, Moshe reflects on some important points in the first forty years of a young nation. He reviews some of the triumphs, shortcomings, and the encounters, which the Israelites experienced in the desert. One of the encounters was the evil Idol worship Ba’al Peor.

In our previous discussions (Balak newsletter), we mentioned that in order to participate in worshiping this idol, one has to relieve himself in front of the idol. The reasoning behind this despicable act is to rebel against the values of society (idol worship was mainstream) and to destroy any form of order in which G-d and mankind has to offer.

Apparently, the Ba’al Peor inception initially was an entirely different philosophy than the popular anti-establishment defiant act, worship or however one wants to describe it. The original idea was to feel so fearful in front of Ba’al Peor, to the extent, that one loses all control of his bowels. Apparently, when human beings are afraid of something they have an urge to relieve themselves. Ever wonder why one has to go after being scared or experiencing anxieties? The philosophy of most pagenistic societies, in that period of time, was of ‘angry G-ds had to be appeased’ and that society is afraid of them; by losing control of ones’ bowels one has served their G-d well.

One has to wonder what the Torah perspective of fear is. Is fear good? The Torah commands us to fear G-d. Is fear bad (fear of life)?

Dr. Goldman, psychologist at Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim, mentions the Torah requires us to be afraid only of G-d (and to a certain extent, parents and teachers). He points out that perhaps by fearing only G-d, it can have a tremendous benefit on us. ‘You see’ he says,  ‘One can be a lot more assertive in his everyday life with this mindset; it will, in effect, make it easier to reach goals otherwise unattainable because of broadening fear to man. He will not be timid and tremble in front of people; he will be able to make oral presentations to his corporate bigwigs at work with ease because he knows that everything comes from G d; Hakadosh Baruch Hu is responsible; I fear only Him and not the grouchy boss or hot-tempered moody neighbor’. Man is just the messenger of G-d; the dog bites the stick when being hit, not realizing it’s the master who is the one who is inflicting the beating; so don’t be scared of the bully.

Apparently, it seems like the original Ba’al Peor worshipers had a certain pleasure in getting scared out of their wits. Seemingly, this falls in perfectly with today’s society; remember the popularity of Freddy Krueger and the Friday the 13th series, Frankenstein, Boris Karloff (no, he’s not Bukharian), and Hannibal Lector? Why do some people enjoy fear? Dr. Neil Levey says society is bored with their mundane life ‘so they flirt with fear’. So maybe that’s one reason why Peor was so popular.

Basically, our sages teach us to channel the fear to the Al-Mighty but one may ask ‘how can one reach a level of fearing G-d?’ Dr. Goldman continues, ‘It’s important to establish a relationship with Him through prayer and share with Him your happy news as well as your fears.’ By focusing on prayer and conveying every aspect of your life, it will strengthen the bond between G-d and yourself and will develop feelings such as fear, love, awe, and respect. Even though one might think it’s one-sided at first, he should still try it, and one will be surprised at the outcome. Unfortunately, prayer today for many, has become monotonic lip service, so one has to make it more meaningful.

Rabbi Baruch Dopelt is bothered by a pasuk, ‘serve G-d with happiness and fear’; it seems to contradict each other. Perhaps this famous pasuk will shed some light (we all know the song) ‘oseh shalom bimromav…if He (G-d) can make peace in the heavens (between fire and water), surely He too will make peace between us….’. The question is asked, how can you make peace between fire and water, two opposites? The answer is in the heavens. There is only olam ha’emet (world of truth) and both fire and water recognize and fear G-d to the highest degree because they see the truth without distortion; they’re able to co-exist. We too have to explore our inner self and find the truth without any distortion and we’ll develop a true fear exclusively for G-d.

Road Rage
 road rage

One morning earlier this week, while I was driving, a speeding vehicle buzzed past my car and the driver screamed, ‘Jew!!’ It was unexpected, so I jumped. Obviously, the driver’s intention was to purely shock and agitate me, and he accomplished his mission. What was surprising about the incident was my reaction. Instinctively, I was about to press on the acceleration pedal and ram my old jalopy 1996 Toyota Camry into him. Those brief moments were filled with startled surprise to anger (how dare you!!). Seconds later, I came to my senses realizing I have a kippa on my head and I have to live up to a certain dignified standard. Also, why would I want this low-life in my life for any extended period; the few seconds that he was in view was enough. I hope with G-d’s help to never see him again. Lastly, I have a busy life as is, so I don’t need the headaches.

But to think the most scariest and disappointing notion is that for those few seconds, I was tempted to violently react in the most horrific way. For those brief moments, I was not in control. I can’t help but think that if the scenario was slightly different and he would have agitated me a bit longer or if I had a rough morning before, would I have acted on those initial impulses?

Understandably, a kippa reminds oneself about the pride and control that we must adhere to. After all, this is one of the primary lessons we learn in Yeshiva – control. However, what about protecting our pride and the pride of our people?  Should we just be a bunch of wimps and not react?

We asked Dr. Goldman, Psychologist at Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim, on how does he explain road rage. He says we first have to understand what makes us so defensive and tempted to react. The Doctor explains that the anger reaction stems from pride; the ego has been hurt. We have to learn from King David; when David ran away, Shimi ben Gera insulted him and he did not react right away. David didn’t allow road rage to take the better of him. This is a person who was able to control himself for this moment. He didn’t give an immediate irrational response. Apparently, it was very difficult for him to control himself, but he nevertheless did.

The Zohar mentions that King David had similar desires (yetzer hara) as did Eisav (Jacob’s brother and rival). Therefore, the sages compare them; both had tendencies to spill blood, they both pursued married women. They both were redheads and presumably had tempers, and both were leaders. The primary difference between them however, and what the Torah emphasizes is CONTROL.

Dr. Goldman mentions one has to believe and say ‘I can take these insults; I’m okay, I’m not less of a person than I was before the insults’. It would be a sign of insecurity if one would let it get to him. Ah, but the kids are watching as I’m being insulted, I shouldn’t react?  The good doctor says one should handle the insults with dignity, then the kids will respect you. You’re not a baby, don’t let it bother you. If they see that you are not bothered and affected by those insults, they will respect you more. The notion of the ‘American cowboy’, I’ll take care of him at the ‘OK Carrel’ is nonsense. One has to understand, one can lose everything in one moment. Is it worth it?

This past year, there were 1200 injuries and 300 serious injuries; some of which fatalities cases of road rage. Apparently, it’s a cause for concern because the numbers are rising yearly; although, tempers and egos might be difficult to contain at a split second notice. Rav Yitzhak Aminov quotes Rav Yisroel Salanter who teaches us to review daily Mussar books (Jewish self-help books) on chapters pertaining to the character traits that you believe you’re weak in. One would be surprised what the sub-conscious mind absorbs; it just might save your life. One of the most famous quotes pertaining to road rage is ‘you never learn how to swear until you learn to drive’.

Is There a Problem With Eating Fish and Cheese Together?
 tuna melt sandwich

One morning many years ago, I was at a catered affair of a Brit Milah (circumcision of an 8 day old boy). I was about to sink my teeth into a delicious bagel with lox and cream cheese, which I  prepared with some tremendous effort, when someone approached me and said ‘you’re not allowed to have cheese and fish together according to Jewish law’. I retorted back, saying, “I never heard of such a law’ and proceeded to have my sandwich. A little while after the incident, I came across others who also did not eat the two together. Over the last number of years, I heard many contradicting reports on the subject. I think it would be a good idea to clarify a few points on this topic before we disregard the melted cheese on the flounder.

Surprisingly, even our brothers who come from Ashkenazi countries have an issue with eating the two together. But apparently, there is some good news for those Parmesan baked tilapia fans. Well maybe, that depends on a few things.

Rabbi Yossef Cairo, the author of the Shulchan Aruch (main body of Jewish law), whom the Sephardim follow, writes that one should not eat fish and cheese together. However the Rama whom the Ashkenazim follow not only disagrees but claims that the Mechaber (the author as Rabbi Cairo is called) made a printing mistake and didn’t mean fish and cheese but meant fish and “meat”. He says it’s impossible that the Mechaber would say such a thing; it’s not logical. This is the source of the controversy. Although there are many Sephardic lawmakers who agree with the Rama; however there are those who hold by the text and will not combine. Some even say there is a health hazard eating fish and cheese together. Rabbi Eliyahu Ben Haim disagrees and says it’s perfectly okay and the health hazard does not apply today.

One should hold by their family tradition customs, if your ancestors did not eat then you should not do so either and if they did then enjoy the tuna melt. If one does not have any tradition, then follow your Rabbi. But there are definitely very good sources to be lenient.
Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
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Parshat Devarim

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 Devarim

August 5, 2011
5 Av, 5771
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In This Issue
Power of Speech – Parshat Devarim
Light At the End of the Tunnel – Tisha B’Av
Coffee Withdrawal

 Power of Speech – Parshat Devarim
 speech

    ‘These are the words that Moshe spoke to Israel’….The word ‘Devarim’ which is the name of the last of the five books of the Torah (bible) is defined here as ‘words’. Many commentaries including the Vilna Gaon say that the first four books were heard directly from the mouth of G-d through the throat of Moshe. However, in the fifth book, Moshe was the speaker. Although he received divine prophecy, nevertheless, Moshe chose his own words and conveyed the commandments to the Israelites as he understood them. The importance of calling this book Devarim, which literal translation means ‘things’, conveys the power of speech. It is no coincidence in the Hebrew language that Davar (thing) and Deeber (speak) are spelled and sound similarly. G-d created the world by using verbal expression ‘and G-d called the day….’and G-d called the earth….’ so we see that words are the root of things. We too have the capability to create things with words.

A powerful unique gift in which Jews possess is speech; we learn this message from what our forefather Yitzchak prophesized, ‘the hands are the hands of Esav but the voice is Yaakov.’ The commentaries say we can control the world and our destiny by using our speech wisely in accordance with the Torah. This is our weapon; it’s a tool to fix life and the ticket to heaven.

However, we see from past history, the Egyptians were aware of this trait and neutralized it as they enslaved us. They cleverly knew how to psychologically take the wind out of the Israelites by working them till exhaustion. ‘The Jews moaned and screamed’ and could not verbalize their feelings. This was a designed plan to rob them of expression, their power source.

We learn this lesson from another important incident where we find that Moshe was afraid to go to battle with Israel’s nemesis, Ogg the giant. Apparently, many years before, Ogg had told Abraham that his nephew Lot, was being held captive and it’s important to go to battle and save him. One might think it was quite a noble gesture of Ogg. However, Ogg had ulterior motives; he had hoped that Abraham would die in battle so he can then marry Abraham’s wife Sarah, who happened to be one of the four most beautiful women that ever lived. Why then was Moshe afraid of Ogg? We see clearly that he had malicious intent! Moshe realized that although Ogg wanted Sarah, nevertheless, he used verbal expression by alarming Abraham about the condition of Lot his nephew. While Moshe missed out the great opportunity to sanctify G-d through verbal expressions by hitting the rock as opposed to speaking to it as G-d commanded, apparently, Moshe was afraid the scale might be tipped the favoring Ogg because utilized his power of speech and Moshe – in that case – did not.

We find many leaders in history who were able to push their agendas by their powerful orating skills. The world was almost destroyed by the evil Hitler (y’mach shemo); this was made possible by him hypnotizing the crowd through his speeches. There were many fine skills that John F Kennedy had as a politician; one of them was that he was able to win over Americans through his press conferences with his sharp humor. There’s a saying, ‘It’s not the mighty hand but the powerful tongue.’  There’s a lot of truth to those words.

Lastly, the greatest gift one can give a deceased relative is to say kaddish (yitgadal v’yitkadash shemeh rabah) or to learn Torah in his memory. The soul can move further up towards a better place in heaven by a mere kaddish. Again, we see how powerful and meaningful words can be.

We can create and destroy worlds in an instant through our speech. If we only realize and give some thought of how powerful our speech can be, we would be a little more careful in watching our tongue, and hesitate just a little before those powerful words come out.

 

Light At the End of the Tunnel – Tisha B’Av
 Tisha B'Av

    This coming Tuesday is Tisha B’Av (the ninth day of the Hebrew month of Av). It’s a tragic day for Jews; many terrible tragedies have happened to our people on this day. The most endearing loss is our temples. For three weeks leading up to this tragic day, we do not make or attend any celebrations, listen to music or go swimming. We gradually increase our mourning beginning on Rosh Chodesh (1st day of the month of Av) by not shaving, doing laundry, haircuts, and eating meat or chicken. On Tisha B’Av itself which starts this Monday night, we fast, do not wear leather shoes or sit on chairs (at about mid-day one can start sitting on regular chairs). Apparently our ancestors have not lived up to G-d’s expectations and occasionally angered Him.  This was magnified on Tisha B’Av.   Maybe we should just leave it at that for now and not dig up any skeletons that are in the closet (or check out my lecture called ‘baseless hatred’). One of the most interesting and moving gemara’s in which I’ve seen on Tisha B’Av and would like to share with you, was a story involving Rabbi Akiva. A number of Rabbis were observing the destruction of the temple noticing foxes running in and out of the Holy of Holies. This is where the high priest would enter on Yom Kippur to pray and plead for forgiveness for the nation of Israel.The high priest’s life would be taken away in the Holy of Holies if the nation was not forgiven. It was such a high energy and spiritual place that if any unauthorized person entered with the exception of the Kohen Gadol, he would be killed.
    The degradation of the condition of the Holy of Holies made the rabbis very sad with the exception of Rabbi Akiva who was laughing with joy. His colleagues were puzzled and asked him to explain his behavior. Rabbi Akiva responded to their question of why are you laughing, with ‘why are you crying’? “Apparently,” he said, “I had a prophecy where the temple will be destroyed and the final redemption will come, and the ultimate temple will be built. Now that I saw the destruction I realized that my prophecy is coming true and the Moshiach will come and our people will be victorious in our quest to build the 3rd and final house of G-d”.
   Although I can relate very much to the sadness that the Rabbis expressed to Rabbi Akiva, I felt that Rabbi Akiva’s attitude towards the negativity surrounding him was very impressive. While everybody was deep in sorrow, he tried to find something positive; he tried to find the light at the end of the tunnel. The frame of mind in which Rabbi Akiva expressed is not simple to achieve. It is difficult to be consistent in thinking the glass is half full. However, in today’s day and age, it’s a must in order to survive. A positive outlook breeds positive feelings. If the Jews had this attitude at the time of the destruction, then G-d would never have brought this bad omen. Apparently, if one posseses a positive frame of mind like Rabbi Akiva, then he will feel more positive toward his friend. The tolerance level toward people would be higher and that would lead to tranquility. We should learn a lesson from Rabbi Akiva’s positive attitude and incorporate it in every step of our lives. We should think positive which would lead to feeling positive. It will result in us feeling good about ourselves and others, and we should hope and pray that Moshiach will come and the final temple will be built be’karov.

Coffee Withdrawal
 coffee withdrawal

Personally, one of the scariest times of the year are the two of the six fasts that we keep – Yom Kippur and Tisha B’Av. You see, I’m a coffee addict and I have to stop drinking coffee a week before the fast and wean myself from it to prevent caffeine withdrawal headaches, which occur on the fast day. (With some people, if they fast without getting their daily dose of caffeine, in other words they stop cold turkey, then the symptoms get so severe that they experience excruciating headaches to an extent leading to nausea.)

We are all trying to observe G-d’s commandment, but how can we stop the painful experience?

I’m sure you are probably wondering, what about the other four fasts and how do I handle the headaches? You see, those fasts start at daybreak and not the night before. Therefore, one would get up before daybreak and guzzle down three cups of coffee. But the two remaining fasts which begin the night before, are problematic.

A week before the fast, I try to wean myself from coffee, decreasing it daily until I’m caffeine-free a day or two before. Unfortunately, the headaches are prolonged that week; however not as severe.

There is always a price to pay for something good. However, this addict (myself) is a fighter and is trying to find various ways to not interrupt the addiction, while at the same time, observe the mitzvah of fasting. Perhaps Excedrin might be a solution; it has caffeine in it. But the Rabbis say it’s problematic taking it on a fast day. I have heard of time-release capsules or laxatives. Excitingly, I asked a pharmacist who did not hear of such a thing on the market. He mentioned it could be compounded, but he doesn’t recommend it, sighting coffee is a potent laxative and could cause uncontrolled accidents throughout the day if taken. Plus, there is a health risk, potentially affecting the heart.

I love the taste of coffee and find it hard to depart from it. Breakfast and coffee is a marriage made in heaven. Doughnuts are not fun without it; neither is a bagel. Plus, it keeps a person awake. I tend to sleep very late and get up very early. Without the coffee infusion, sleep catches up with you; it interrupts a person’s very busy schedule.

If you only knew what us addicts have to go through to fast, I’m sure there is a great reward awaiting us in heavens (probably the best cup of coffee you ever tasted.)

I would like to end by asking, is there is anyone out there that has a solution? This addict would like to know.
Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience

Parshat Korach

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 Korach

June 23, 2011

21 Sivan, 5771
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In This Issue
The Art of Comedy
Sometimes Laughter is the Best Medicine

The Art of Comedy
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After reading the portion relating to Korach, one has to ask why was he punished so severely? After all, he seemingly thought he was in line to receive a high position, but was apparently passed over to the other members of the Kahat family (grandfather of both Moshe and Korach), specifically, Elizafan, the youngest son’s children. Korach felt slighted, since his father was older, and wondered why? “I’m an upstanding citizen and a Torah scholar and by the alignment of Kahat’s sons, I’m the next to be appointed. I feel this job is a perfect fit”. He didn’t deny G-d. In fact, he merely wanted to help by providing his services to the Jewish people and to G-d. Although there is no denying he wanted to overthrow the hierarchy of Moshe’s government, he sincerely thought he was the right man for the job. As such, the severity of the punishment seems at face value a little harsh.
As Korach and his assembly were waiting for a showdown with the camp of Moshe, the ground opened up and swallowed them up alive.
How did this occur?  What transpired?  How did Korach succeed in creating an assembly of followers to counter Moshe’s leadership?
 One may only need to look to modern times here in America to see how this can happen. Through technology, the American society magnified and popularized the median of comedy starting in the late 50’s. The convenience of television brought many comedians such as, Milton Berle, Jack Benny, Jackie Gleason, Art Carney, Don Rickles, Richard Pryer, and Johnny Carson just to name a few. I can go on and on with a smirk on my face and a chuckle inside. These comedians would make fun of everything that society has to offer.
 By the mid 60’s and beyond as television became more affordable, the comedians spread their material to the political front. Politicians became prime targets of late night talk show comedians like Carson, Letterman and Leno. It became a ritual that a new president-elect would get repeatedly roasted and grilled by the onslaught of comedians.
 Apparently, it is not a coincidence that the disrespect these political figures endure by American citizens as manifest by such comedians as well as by the masses at office water coolers throughout the country, begins around the same time. Kennedy was perhaps the last respected president (one may argue Reagan). The tragedy of when Kennedy was assassinated put the nation in such a solemn mood. Even my father, an immigrant at the time for only a year, cried. It is hard to believe anyone can elicit that kind of reaction from the nation today. The reason for the respect Kennedy received was that political bashing and comic needling were not yet fully established. Gerald Ford was a gifted athlete but one of the reasons he lost his bid for reelection (besides Watergate which nearly ruined his Republican party) was a little misstep where he physically tripped. This rather common human occurrence triggered an impersonation by a Saturday Night Live comedian Chevy Chase portraying Ford as tripping constantly. Chase and the writers of the show, for many months were relentless and created the impression that President Ford was a klutzy, bumbling fool.
  G-d is very sensitive to the kavod or honor of people, especially His chosen people. We see this from our forefather Avraham when his son Yitzchok was born. Everybody thought and assumed Yizchok could not possibly be his child since he could not have kids with his wife Sarah for many years. G-d made sure, to avoid the smirking and the back door jokes by having Yitzchok look exactly like his father. But why bother and care what a few yentas and fools say? We see how impressionable people can be.
 In order to discredit Moshe, Korach ridiculed him and his leadership. He used comedy as a weapon. Comedy can be used as a positive or negative force. It can be therapeutic or lethal depending how it is used. One may say he was the first stand up comedian, but unfortunately a lethal one. Korach and his assembly, by denying Moshe’s authority as G-d’s messenger, denied the legitimacy of the Torah. By denying the messenger they are denying the one who sent him, and if so, there remains no foundation to Torah or prophecy. If Korach’s argument had any basis, then the entire Torah would be null and void for it was based on Moshe’s having been sent by G-d.
 One can ruin the legitimacy of a person and his teaching by one sarcastic remark or even one derogatory facial expression such as the rolling of the eyes. This could be accomplished by the negative side of comedy.  G-d says “I created man in my name and in my honor” meaning there must be respect given to man because if one disrespects man one also disrespects G-d.  May we all learn from the Korach experience and be cautious not to jest mockingly and be careful to respect one another in the fullest sense.

Sometimes Laughter is the Best Medicine
 laughter clown

The Chozer of Lublin was one of the greatest of his generation. In fact, many people went to him for Brachot (blessings). They came to him for refuah shelemah (health), to find the right soul mate, better their financial situation and for many other reasons. It seemed he was a sure bet. Whatever the request for a blessing from G-d they asked from him, he would give a bracha and a short time latter it would be fulfilled.

         What was his method to success?
         Every night the Chozer of Lublin would recite the special midnight prayer to G-d and he would curl up, scream, yell and cry like a baby until he felt his prayers were accepted in heaven. Hey – whatever works, right?
         One night while he was waiting for his student, Rav Naftali Rupshitz to come, he felt that his prayers to G-d were not being heard. He wondered.  His routine was the same as any other night and yet now, no one seemed to be listening. So he asked the heavens “what is going on up there”?  “If you want to understand the reason, just look at your student, Rav Naftali Rupshitz” was the heavenly response. Apparently on his way to his Rebbi that night, he stopped at an inn and he noticed there was a wedding celebration. As he walks in to a room of dancing he noticed that the Kallah (bride) was sad. So he approached her and asked: “Why are you sad? This is supposed to be the happiest day of your life”!  She replied “ourbatchan canceled on us and we have no one to tell jokes.” A batchan -comedian was often used at the time and even today at the weddings of Chassidim to make the bring joy to the new couple.
       Rav Naftali looked at her and replied “I’ll be your batchan.”  He then stood on a chair and started telling joke after joke until he got the entire inn’s attention. He had the whole place on their knees as result from his funny jokes. Rav Naftali noticed from the corner of his eye that the Chatan and Kallah were really enjoying his routine. He was indeed hilarious. It seemed like the young couple and the people at the inn were not the only ones to take notice, the angels in heaven also stopped what they were doing to hear Rav Naftali. It was such an impressive and funny performance that even G-d stopped to listen. All the angels closed up shop to hear this Jewish Rabbi make the world laugh. This is the reason your prayers were not heard, everybody was out for the evening enjoying Rav Naftali at the wedding party.
         When Rav Naftali finally arrived at his Rebbe’s house, the Chozer of Lublin said to him “what I do with screaming, wailing and yelling you accomplish with laughter!”
         We mentioned in the preceding Dvar Torah on the Parshat Korach, how comedy is can be very dangerous. In fact, it is a two edged sword. As such, it is only fitting that we also see the benefits as well. How important it is to make people laugh in a positive sense and to cheer them up when they are down and depressed. Moreover, it’s a big mitzvah (commandment) to make a bride and groom happy. The rewards are tremendous. We realize from this story, it is indeed priceless!!
Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
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Parshat Vayikra

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 Vayikra

March 10, 2011

4 Adar II, 5771
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The one place and time where I got to know my family was at the Shabbat Friday night dinner table. Shabbat was family time. It was the centerpiece of the week where we sang Shabbat Zmirot, had discussions, and exchanged Divrei Torah (Torah insights) on the Parasha (weekly portion). The goal of this newsletter is to provide a Torah thought and some insights into our Jewish world.

Today, we have the opportunity to receive a smorgasbord of Torah information at our fingertips. If one is able to remember life before the internet, access to attain Torah information was limited. With the progress of the internet, thank G-d we have countless choices of information to feed our souls.
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The Power of Names
Fried Foods

The Power of Names

 
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Any self-improvement course, for example Dale Carnegie, will emphasize that if one is to achieve the keys to success, one has to incorporate an ability of remembering names. Calling somebody by his or her name, draws them closer and will give them the feeling of, ‘Hey, I’m important’. The reason for this is that a name is the essence of who we are.

The weekly Torah reading (parasha), begins with ‘”Vayikra el Moshe” – and [G-d] called to Moshe’. Our sages teach us that Moshe was given ten names, and each name represents a facet of his personality. Batya,Pharaoh’s daughter, who went against her father’s decree, which was to kill all Jewish male newborns, drew the basket containing baby Moshe, out of the water. Moshe is the name she picked. But apparently, there is a linguistic problem with the name.   The name Moshe means “will draw from the water” as opposed to Mashehu, drew from the water – past tense. If the Torah wants to reward Pharaoh’s daughter and to glorify the courageous, self-sacrificing act she did, why is he called Moshe? Mashehu is better suited. We learn from our sages that when G-d created Adam, the angels asked, “What is the nature of man?” Whereas G-d replied, “His wisdom will exceed yours”. This was demonstrated by man naming all beings of creation something no angel could master. It’s an accomplished task and takes great wisdom to accurately give someone his or her true name.

The sages say G-d gave divine spirit to fathers, a gifted trait passed down from Adam to incorporate names to their newborns. Of course the father has to be in unison with the mother. The word ‘name’ in Hebrew is pronounced ‘shem’. If one changes the vowels under the letters of shem, it would be pronounced ‘sham’ meaning ‘there’, indicating one has to go there, has to get to a destination for one to complete his task which is associated with his name. Shem and sham are incorporated in the word ne-sham-mah (soul). Man’s soul is brought down in this world to fulfill his mission. The Torah hints of people who have fulfilled their name potential. The Torah sometimes writes ‘ushemo David’ (his name is David), ushemo Manoah (his name is Manoah), ‘ushemo Mordechai’, etc. Before the name, there is an introduction, a chaperone, ‘Ushemo’. This indicates that he will be seated (sham) there in the ultimate destination – heaven. However, the Torah indicates there are those that are written “Naval shemo”.  Here the shemo follows the individual name indicating he did not accomplish his task in this world.

Moshe has ten names, each indicating a separate dimension of his multi-faceted personality. Each name portrays a side not described by the other. Yet, it was the name Moshe by which he was known. Apparently, this name, more than others, is the central feature of his personality. Batya prophesized that this baby boy will draw people out of trouble. His task will be to help the Jewish people and to lead them out of slavery. The measure of kindness that Batya showed towards this boy was tremendous.  However, the emphasis is not on her accomplishments, but on the potential she saw in this child, which prompted her to call him Moshe.

Fried Foods
 Fried Whiting (fish)

 

By the time I reached my late teens, my family became very health conscious. We decreased our meat intake, ate more fruits and vegetables, had less portions at mealtime, and healthy snacks were encouraged. But it was the fried food that was totally obliterated from the menu, both at home and abroad. Today, unfortunately, I’m not as diligent as I was – with the exception of fried food. There are a number of foods that I missed and occasionally the craving for them is unbearable.

Every time when Purim arrived, Mom would make samuseh puryaih (meat and onions wrapped in this delicious dough – deep fried), which would require napkins. Purim is not the same without it. But I must warn you; it’s definitely not a mishloach manot item (traditional special treats put into a nice basket and presented to friends).

Another item that is missed is fried whiting (fish) served Friday night at the Shabbat table. Today our families bake the fish and it tastes just as good. According to our sages, it’s important to have fish Friday night. The reason is because G-d rewarded Noach and his family for taking care of the animals in the ark, by giving them the ability to eat meat and chicken. But the fish did not take residence in the ark. Therefore, man was forbidden to eat fish. However, as a reward for receiving the Torah, which was given on Shabbat, fish became permissible for consumption from then on.

Another delicacy that is missed is chushcelik served at Bukharian yartzeit dinners. The sweet, soft, fried, thin rounded dough with confectioners’ sugar on top that melts in your mouth, is out of this world. The rounded large Slinky-like shape represents the continuous circle in which G-d runs the world; one life begins and another ends.

Another fried food star is falafel. The aroma of falafel is very mesmerizing and therefore hard to resist. I’m sure there are many places to get good falafel. There are a few that come to mind. Moshe’s Falafel on 45th St and Ave of the Americas in New York City is very good. This establishment operates out of a cart. Another highly regarded and famous falafel place is Shlomo’s in Jerusalem. Shlomo also operates out of a cart and one can find him in the Bukarian quarters near Kikar Malchei Yisrael in Geula. The falafel is so good at Shlomo’s that people come from all over Jerusalem go to eat there. Don’t forget to bring reading material because the lines are long!

In many Yeshiva high schools, there is an extended Thursday-night program that is mandatory. When I was in Yeshiva, there were not many people who had an interest – as evidenced by the attendance, and the school had a hard time enforcing this rule. But in my junior year, changes were made. The school decided to serve delicious breaded fried chicken with potato salad for a side dish, resulting in an escalation in attendance by 98%. After a few months, some students got smart; they wanted the best of both worlds, and decided to leave through the back way after dinner. But the administration anticipated this move. The principal himself was guarding the front door, while the assistant principal guarded the back. Eat and run doesn’t apply here.

We learned last week that if one is in the middle of a meal (after saying the blessing on the bread), and cake is brought on the table, a blessing is required only if he’s eating it as a dessert. If he’s eating it for satisfaction, a bracha is not necessary. In general, if enough cake is eaten to satisfy your hunger, a hamotzi is required. There is an exception to this rule – if the bread was fried. According to Jewish law, frying the bread changes its form and structure, and will lose any potential of raising its status to bread. One can consume as many jelly doughnuts as he wants and the blessing will always be mezonot.
Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience
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