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Yom Kippur

 

Throughout many of our prayers, the style that our great sages evoked is to have a poem, a piyut before we start. The reason is to warm the hearts of the one praying. We are not robots, we need something to get us in the mood, to get the emotions going. So we begin with a piyut. Here we begin with LECHA ELI written by the Even Ezra.

 

How appropriate to start off Yom Kippur with Kol Nidrai. Man was given special powers over the other living creatures of the world. He was given a gift; the power of speech. Unfortunately, it’s hard not to abuse it even though our tongue is wrapped with teeth and a second layer of lips. It still manages to escape and put its foot in its mouth. Kol Nidrai tries to annul our careless misuse of our mouth.

 

* Introduction to Slichot
Betzalel, the builder of the Tabernacle in the wilderness, knew how to combine the letters (the Hebrew letters) with which heaven and earth were created. This is how he configured to build the temple. It is written in the mystic sefarim, “If the letters were to remove themselves for an instant and return to their source, the entire heaven will be an obsolete vacuum.” The Hebrew letters are the building blocks, the foundation of the world. One can understand the essence of a person through his name which consists of a combination of the alef bet. So it wasn’t the physical strength which enabled Betzalel to succeed in enacting the temple; it was the knowledge and expertise on configuration the letters.
Chas v’shalom – if we sin, these spiritual letters are erased or damaged. These are the same letters that enlighten the neshama, that the spiritual and physical world depend on. How do we fix it? How do we correct the letters?

If one notices many of the peyutim, paragraphs- poems, are in alphabetical order Alef till taf, taf till alef (A-Z, Z-A) The philosophy is to fix the damage by reciting the letters in KEDUSHA form and in a proper state of mind, therefore, creating a positive force. Then one will re-organize, re-configure, re-structure the letters properly and fix the damage. So we find throughout the Slichot, actual in our everyday Tefillot – prayer as well, this format. A few examples: ASHRAI, ANSHAI EMUNA AVADU, ADON HASELICHOT. So it’s important to realize what the chachamim are trying to accomplish. By reinventing the letters again, it will give us a fighting chance.

 

 

* BEN ADAM

This prayer is referring to Yona, the prophet, who did not want to perform his task out of fear that the Jews will not repent. So he basically tried to phase himself out of the picture, thinking that G-d does not reveal, talk to His prophets at sea. Yona fled and took refuge on a ship. As the ship sailed, though, G-d brought upon a bad storm. People on board were terrified. The passengers and crew figured it must be someone on board that’s the cause of their misfortunes. So each one prayed to their G-d. However, none of their prayers were answered. “Someone didn’t pray.” So they searched the entire ship and they found Yona asleep. This is the basis of the prayer. “Hey man! Why are you asleep? Go call, pray to your G-d!” Before one knows it, time, life marches on. So go call your G-d before it’s too late.

 

 

* THE THIRTEEN ATTRIBUTES OF MERCY

This is the main part of slichot. The Rosh Hashanah method was malchiot, shofrot, and zichronot. Here we are shifting methods. It’s a great strategy of “Doing it for the merit of our fathers.” However, that doesn’t always work. Its limited.

VA YA AVOR HASHEM AL PANAV – G-d passed before him and proclaimed. He taught Moshe something essential, vital for survival. When Moshe was on Mount Sinai to receive the Torah, G-d showed Moshe the method and the text of the special prayer that will always invoke his mercy, unlimited RACHAMIM. G-d said “When Israel sins, let them perform the order of this prayer and I shall forgive them.” An important note, it says perform, besides recitation; one also has to perform acts of mercy with others in order to receive mercy. Only then will G-d respond.

When someone loses a close loved one, one goes through tremendous hardship in the beginning. The mere thought of the one who had passed on evokes a sharp, stinging, uncomfortable pain. As time goes on, though, the memory of the loved one is there; however, the traumatic experience has softened quite a bit. Our forefather, Yaakov, made a promise to G-d after he got up from his dream, “If G-d takes care of his servant, Yaakov, then the stone will be a covenant to you.” Apparently, Yaakov got tangled some twenty years plus in the house of his crooked father-in-law, Lavan. G-d then approached Yaakov and asked “Why did you forget your promise?” He answered, “I didn’t forget.” What did G-d mean when He said “Why did you forget?” Yaakov forgot the feeling. You don’t feel now as when you felt then. REMEMBER – ZACHOR – memory has different levels. If one wants to remember a deceased loved one with the same intensity, then he has to work, meditate to bring back that feeling. Measure for measure, G-d remembers us the same way we remember Him. Appropriately, ZACHOR LANU is sung by the chazan with intensity to jar up feelings and memories.

 

THE AVODA
The Avoda re-enacts the entire crucial ceremony of the high priest entering the holy of holies where he will find out the fate of the nation for the upcoming year. If the prayers were accepted, then the high priest departs from the holy of holies alive and everybody is happy. We also go into detail of the sacrifices that occurred on this holy day. Interesting to note that one she-goat is sacrificed and the other is thrown off a cliff apparently given to azzazel – the devil. Why do we practice this? Do we really have to give something to the devil? As a result of Adam’s sin, nothing in this world is 100% good; there is always a negativity attached. An example, when we eat food, no matter how much nourishment it provides, a person will always have to relieve himself. Again, it’s the result of the punishment. So, too with the she-goat. It’s a reminder to us of the negativity that was brought upon the world.
NE’ILA
Ne’ila is the most important prayer of the year. It has to be said BEN HASHMASHOT which is between sunset and nightfall. This is the time when Adam and Chava sinned and brought death onto the world. We are trying to prevent death. The in-between time is always a crucial and intense time of life and we are often tested. When traveling and one is in between destinations, it is often dangerous, so one should say special prayers to prevent harm. There is tremendous rewards if one passes the test “in-between”. For this reason, NE’ILA is a very important tefila. Even when one departs from this world and is in between life and death, a person is tested one last time. The Mystics say it’s the ultimate test; in fact, all the marbles are being placed on the poker table. When one dies, he first goes through this momentary scary nothingness. The Satan approaches the individual and tries to convince him, “You see, there’s nothing here, it was all a farce. There is no heaven and there is no hell and there is certainly no G-d.” If at that point the individual is convinced, he loses everything. All the good he did in this world is wiped out. The crucial in-between time has to be approached very carefully and prudently.

Parshat Devarim

“A Cup of Coffee 

 

&

A Quick Thought”

 

 

Steaming Cup of Coffee
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 Devarim

August 5, 2011
5 Av, 5771

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In This Issue
Power of Speech – Parshat Devarim
Light At the End of the Tunnel – Tisha B’Av
Coffee Withdrawal

 Power of Speech – Parshat Devarim
 speech

    ‘These are the words that Moshe spoke to Israel’….The word ‘Devarim’ which is the name of the last of the five books of the Torah (bible) is defined here as ‘words’. Many commentaries including the Vilna Gaon say that the first four books were heard directly from the mouth of G-d through the throat of Moshe. However, in the fifth book, Moshe was the speaker. Although he received divine prophecy, nevertheless, Moshe chose his own words and conveyed the commandments to the Israelites as he understood them. The importance of calling this book Devarim, which literal translation means ‘things’, conveys the power of speech. It is no coincidence in the Hebrew language that Davar (thing) and Deeber (speak) are spelled and sound similarly. G-d created the world by using verbal expression ‘and G-d called the day….’and G-d called the earth….’ so we see that words are the root of things. We too have the capability to create things with words.

A powerful unique gift in which Jews possess is speech; we learn this message from what our forefather Yitzchak prophesized, ‘the hands are the hands of Esav but the voice is Yaakov.’ The commentaries say we can control the world and our destiny by using our speech wisely in accordance with the Torah. This is our weapon; it’s a tool to fix life and the ticket to heaven.

However, we see from past history, the Egyptians were aware of this trait and neutralized it as they enslaved us. They cleverly knew how to psychologically take the wind out of the Israelites by working them till exhaustion. ‘The Jews moaned and screamed’ and could not verbalize their feelings. This was a designed plan to rob them of expression, their power source.

We learn this lesson from another important incident where we find that Moshe was afraid to go to battle with Israel’s nemesis, Ogg the giant. Apparently, many years before, Ogg had told Abraham that his nephew Lot, was being held captive and it’s important to go to battle and save him. One might think it was quite a noble gesture of Ogg. However, Ogg had ulterior motives; he had hoped that Abraham would die in battle so he can then marry Abraham’s wife Sarah, who happened to be one of the four most beautiful women that ever lived. Why then was Moshe afraid of Ogg? We see clearly that he had malicious intent! Moshe realized that although Ogg wanted Sarah, nevertheless, he used verbal expression by alarming Abraham about the condition of Lot his nephew. While Moshe missed out the great opportunity to sanctify G-d through verbal expressions by hitting the rock as opposed to speaking to it as G-d commanded, apparently, Moshe was afraid the scale might be tipped the favoring Ogg because utilized his power of speech and Moshe – in that case – did not.

We find many leaders in history who were able to push their agendas by their powerful orating skills. The world was almost destroyed by the evil Hitler (y’mach shemo); this was made possible by him hypnotizing the crowd through his speeches. There were many fine skills that John F Kennedy had as a politician; one of them was that he was able to win over Americans through his press conferences with his sharp humor. There’s a saying, ‘It’s not the mighty hand but the powerful tongue.’  There’s a lot of truth to those words.

Lastly, the greatest gift one can give a deceased relative is to say kaddish (yitgadal v’yitkadash shemeh rabah) or to learn Torah in his memory. The soul can move further up towards a better place in heaven by a mere kaddish. Again, we see how powerful and meaningful words can be.

We can create and destroy worlds in an instant through our speech. If we only realize and give some thought of how powerful our speech can be, we would be a little more careful in watching our tongue, and hesitate just a little before those powerful words come out.

 

Light At the End of the Tunnel – Tisha B’Av
 Tisha B'Av

    This coming Tuesday is Tisha B’Av (the ninth day of the Hebrew month of Av). It’s a tragic day for Jews; many terrible tragedies have happened to our people on this day. The most endearing loss is our temples. For three weeks leading up to this tragic day, we do not make or attend any celebrations, listen to music or go swimming. We gradually increase our mourning beginning on Rosh Chodesh (1st day of the month of Av) by not shaving, doing laundry, haircuts, and eating meat or chicken. On Tisha B’Av itself which starts this Monday night, we fast, do not wear leather shoes or sit on chairs (at about mid-day one can start sitting on regular chairs). Apparently our ancestors have not lived up to G-d’s expectations and occasionally angered Him.  This was magnified on Tisha B’Av.   Maybe we should just leave it at that for now and not dig up any skeletons that are in the closet (or check out my lecture called ‘baseless hatred’). One of the most interesting and moving gemara’s in which I’ve seen on Tisha B’Av and would like to share with you, was a story involving Rabbi Akiva. A number of Rabbis were observing the destruction of the temple noticing foxes running in and out of the Holy of Holies. This is where the high priest would enter on Yom Kippur to pray and plead for forgiveness for the nation of Israel.The high priest’s life would be taken away in the Holy of Holies if the nation was not forgiven. It was such a high energy and spiritual place that if any unauthorized person entered with the exception of the Kohen Gadol, he would be killed.
    The degradation of the condition of the Holy of Holies made the rabbis very sad with the exception of Rabbi Akiva who was laughing with joy. His colleagues were puzzled and asked him to explain his behavior. Rabbi Akiva responded to their question of why are you laughing, with ‘why are you crying’? “Apparently,” he said, “I had a prophecy where the temple will be destroyed and the final redemption will come, and the ultimate temple will be built. Now that I saw the destruction I realized that my prophecy is coming true and the Moshiach will come and our people will be victorious in our quest to build the 3rd and final house of G-d”.
   Although I can relate very much to the sadness that the Rabbis expressed to Rabbi Akiva, I felt that Rabbi Akiva’s attitude towards the negativity surrounding him was very impressive. While everybody was deep in sorrow, he tried to find something positive; he tried to find the light at the end of the tunnel. The frame of mind in which Rabbi Akiva expressed is not simple to achieve. It is difficult to be consistent in thinking the glass is half full. However, in today’s day and age, it’s a must in order to survive. A positive outlook breeds positive feelings. If the Jews had this attitude at the time of the destruction, then G-d would never have brought this bad omen. Apparently, if one posseses a positive frame of mind like Rabbi Akiva, then he will feel more positive toward his friend. The tolerance level toward people would be higher and that would lead to tranquility. We should learn a lesson from Rabbi Akiva’s positive attitude and incorporate it in every step of our lives. We should think positive which would lead to feeling positive. It will result in us feeling good about ourselves and others, and we should hope and pray that Moshiach will come and the final temple will be built be’karov.

Coffee Withdrawal
 coffee withdrawal

Personally, one of the scariest times of the year are the two of the six fasts that we keep – Yom Kippur and Tisha B’Av. You see, I’m a coffee addict and I have to stop drinking coffee a week before the fast and wean myself from it to prevent caffeine withdrawal headaches, which occur on the fast day. (With some people, if they fast without getting their daily dose of caffeine, in other words they stop cold turkey, then the symptoms get so severe that they experience excruciating headaches to an extent leading to nausea.)

We are all trying to observe G-d’s commandment, but how can we stop the painful experience?

I’m sure you are probably wondering, what about the other four fasts and how do I handle the headaches? You see, those fasts start at daybreak and not the night before. Therefore, one would get up before daybreak and guzzle down three cups of coffee. But the two remaining fasts which begin the night before, are problematic.

A week before the fast, I try to wean myself from coffee, decreasing it daily until I’m caffeine-free a day or two before. Unfortunately, the headaches are prolonged that week; however not as severe.

There is always a price to pay for something good. However, this addict (myself) is a fighter and is trying to find various ways to not interrupt the addiction, while at the same time, observe the mitzvah of fasting. Perhaps Excedrin might be a solution; it has caffeine in it. But the Rabbis say it’s problematic taking it on a fast day. I have heard of time-release capsules or laxatives. Excitingly, I asked a pharmacist who did not hear of such a thing on the market. He mentioned it could be compounded, but he doesn’t recommend it, sighting coffee is a potent laxative and could cause uncontrolled accidents throughout the day if taken. Plus, there is a health risk, potentially affecting the heart.

I love the taste of coffee and find it hard to depart from it. Breakfast and coffee is a marriage made in heaven. Doughnuts are not fun without it; neither is a bagel. Plus, it keeps a person awake. I tend to sleep very late and get up very early. Without the coffee infusion, sleep catches up with you; it interrupts a person’s very busy schedule.

If you only knew what us addicts have to go through to fast, I’m sure there is a great reward awaiting us in heavens (probably the best cup of coffee you ever tasted.)

I would like to end by asking, is there is anyone out there that has a solution? This addict would like to know.

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience

Parshat Chukat

“A Cup of Coffee 

&

A Quick Thought”

Steaming Cup of Coffee
Spark Of Jewish Experience
 
 Chukas

June 30, 2011
28 Sivan, 5771

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In This Issue
Breakfast Cereals
Chukas

Breakfast Cereals
 cereal

Cereals have been a staple on the American breakfast table for over a hundred years. I still remember the standard and most famous brands of yesteryear, which are even currently used today as well; Kellogg’s Corn flakes, Rice Krispies (…. and you really hear them go ‘snap, crackle, and pop’) and Raisin Bran (two scoops of raisins is plenty good). There were various types of cereals catered for all walks of life. The kids’ cereal always had ‘inside the box prizes’; my favorite was the 3D Baseball cards. At times today, I still sneak a bowl of my kids’ Honey Nut Cheerios. Does anyone out there remember Tony the Tiger’s ‘It’s great!!!’ or the various flavors of Cap’n Crunch?

             As children, we found it challenging to figure out what brachot to make, when to make it and how many. There was the debate among the school kids; ‘Do we make one bracha to cover both the milk and cereal, or two separate ones? (If one recalls, we discussed in our earlier newsletters the concept of ikar (main food) and tofel (enhancers).) Usually, most people add milk (enhancer) to cereal; therefore, the bracha is only recited on the cereal because the cereal is the ikar (main food). In a typical case, when one adds milk not as an enhancer (on a high calcium diet or is also interested in drinking milk), then one makes the bracha on both.

Throughout my life, I would frequently visit Israel, and in my youth, on those visits, there was a tremendous void at the breakfast table. Israelis are not accustomed to cereal in the morning or for that matter, at all. When I was learning in Yeshiva in Jerusalem in my twenties, the American students discovered a makolet (grocery) that sells American products including cereal. It was cool and definitely out of place to be in Israel and have a bowl of Corn Flakes and hearing outside your window ‘AVATIACH AVATIACH!’ (AVATIACH, meaning “watermelon” in Hebrew, is called out as vendors are selling watermelon, so people would know it is being sold.  It represents one of the features of Israel. You therefore feel like you’re in Israel, while eating an American breakfast!)

Now that we clarified what’s the priority, whether it be the cereal or the milk; one may ask, what about the cereal itself? Ready-to-eat cereals are made primarily of corn, wheat, oats or rice, and can be grouped into one of the following six categories: 1) Flakes (Corn Flakes) bracha is: ho’adama  2) Oven Puffed Crisp Rice (Rice Krispies) bracha is: mezonot 3) Gum Puffed Whole Grain (Puffed Rice) bracha is: ho’adama  4) Extruded Dough( Cheerios, Alpha Bits) bracha is: mezonot  5) Shredded Wheat – bracha is mezonot 6) Granola – the bracha is ho’adama.

This week we can only discuss one of the six categories since we’re trying to be concise as possible. We will discuss the category of flakes (Corn Flakes.) The process consists of passing pieces of corn kernels between two rollers, thereby pressing them into flakes. The bracha is ho’adama because the corn kernels are still intact when served. Although in another process, corn is cooked into dough and excreted (pressed, formed and cut) into small pallets. These pallets are then rolled into flakes; the bracha for this process is shehakol.

One has to wonder why is cereal so popular in the states? So I asked my son, what does he like about cereal. He said something interesting; he said ‘its easy to prepare, all it takes is a bowl, spoon, milk, and cereal and you have a meal’…. a healthy meal mind you!

Chukas
moshe hitting rock with stick

 

 

The children of Israel screamed out, ‘We want water! We want water!’ Where thereafter, Moshe took the stick and hit the rock resulting in water streaming out. ‘Why did you hit the rock?’ G-d asked disappointingly. The Sages were unclear what exactly was G-d’s commandment to Moshe, the leader of the Jewish people. Was Moshe commanded to speak to the rock whereby instead he hit it? Or the fact that G d instructed Moshe to take his stick, presumably, indicates He may have wanted him to hit it. This is the question in which Rav Henoch Leibowitz z’l of Yeshiva Chafetz Chaim presents. Was the commandment to ‘speak’ or ‘hit’ the rock?

We know Moshe was punished for this incident and was prohibited to enter the land of Israel – something that he desired greatly. Despite praying and pleading with G-d before he died, his quest to pilgrimage with the rest of the Jewish people to Israel was denied.

The answer to this question is both. Moshe was commanded to speak to the Israelites first, in front of the rock, and to announce G-d’s great miracle in a thunderous way. It will take place through His trusted servant who will perform the task by hitting it. However, Moshe and Aharon merely said, ‘Listen up; we will now draw water from the rock by hitting it’. Moshe and Aharon had to be clearer and emphasize the wondrous hand of G-d, that this was amomentous moment. Therefore because they weren’t clear, G-d rebuked them, stating ‘you did not believe in me.’

But isn’t it clear and pretty obvious that G-d commanded Moshe. The Israelites knew Moshe was His faithful servant and every breath, every step , which was taken, was done with G-d’s signature. I mean -really – it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out G-d is pushing the controls.

Perhaps the Torah is trying to teach us an important lesson about ourselves. Man has a much higher impression and a stronger feeling when the information he receives is straightforward and clear (stating G-D DID IT!). However, if the message is trickled down by hints, it doesn’t have the same effect; it’s not impactful. Therefore, when G-d said ‘you are not believers in enhancing my ambiance in the eyes of the children of Israel’. By Moshe and Aharon not elaborating their action, they caused a decreased spiritual force in the world. The result of the ‘hint’ weakened the impression that it was G-d who made the water come out from the rock.

G-d gave us the gift of speech; something animals lack, and it’s our obligation to express ourselves properly. We all heard of the expression ‘words penetrate the heart’. The sages say there is no comparison between hearing, which has a stronger effect than seeing. G-d set the stage for Moshe to infuse his awareness upon the Israelites; he had to articulate with his speech what G-d planned to do. Think of it as an announcer describing an exciting baseball game. The announcer has to be gifted in describing the game and keeping the fans, tuned in and interested. I have an aunt living in Israel who would always talk very positively about the land and the Jewish people. Every time we come across a positive experience, she would comment, ‘You see, you don’t need to go to America. You have America here.’ She would verbally describe every experience and make it seem adventurously fun. My aunt has a gifted knack to use her words to the fullest ….. Unfortunately, Moshe missed that precious opportunity.

We have to learn from this incident that G-d bestowed upon man the precious gift of speech and it’s our responsibility to utilize it to the best of our ability.

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience