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The Symbol of the Jewish People

This article was constructed with the help of either writings, lectures or shiurim of  Rabbi’s  Chaim Shmuelevitz z”tl, Pinchas Winston, Eliyahu ben Chaim,  Asher Hurzberg, Binny Friedman, Dovid Green and Dr. Steven Fine

“Shalom” – are we ever going to have peace with the nations of the world, or for that matter, ourselves? It seems very remote; perhaps when Hillary Clinton grows a beard or Donald Trump realizes that he is serving the country and not the country is serving him. Incredibly, even our national identity is being hidden from us. One of the signature symbols of the Jewish nation is the Menorah. We, the Jewish people, have an illustrious and historic past. Miraculously we’ve persevered through thousands of years of persecution and pogroms … just ask your Abba, your Sabbath and Savta, and they’ll tell you firsthand what troubles they’ve encountered. Nonetheless, we can hold our head up high with pride. We have kept our traditions, our culture our commitment to Torah and G-d, well at least some of us, while our past enemies vanished with no trace. However because of the many attacks and invasions over the years against us, of which there have been a few, we have lost many of the physical treasures which symbolizes and stamps our commitment to G-d.

In every battles and the invasion, the enemy, whomever they were at the time, always managed to take booty, especially, sacred objects which G-d commanded us to use for him. At times, it’s quite embarrassing, the Gentile nations know better than us how valuable they were. There is a famous story of the discovery of the golden Menorah by the Romans:

The Romans were afraid to enter the Kodesh HaKokoshim – the holy of holies – after conquering our holy Temple. They knew who ever enters there and is not worthy dies. So they said “Whoever will volunteer to enter can take whatever he wants for himself!” The rebellious Jew, Yosef Mishteh said defiantly “I will.” He proceeded to take out the beautiful golden menorah only for it to be taken away by the Romans. “This is too beautiful for a Jewish commoner. This should be given to the Emperor instead. We’ll let you go in again and take out whatever you want.” However this time he refused. “I will not desecrate my G-d a second time,” he said. Even after they threatened death he still refused. They executed him.

Aside from the many atrocities that the Romans committed against the Jewish people, one was the desecration of sacred Temple property. The very symbol of this is not in Israel, but in Rome: the Arch of Titus. Like most triumphal arches this one celebrates a victory of war, and in this case, Rome’s crushing of the Jewish revolt that resulted in the destruction of the Temple.

Inside the arch is a bas-relief sculpture showing the Roman army carrying the spoils of war down through the streets of Rome. The most notable item is a large menorah being carried down the Via Scara, and it is believed that the actual menorah is stashed in the secret tomb of Alric the Goth at the bottom of the Busento River.

What is history and what is myth? What is true and what is legend? These are questions that arise from time to time and specifically apply to the whereabouts of the Menorah.

Reporting on his 1996 meeting with Pope John Paul II, Israel’s Minister of Religious Affairs Shimon Shetreet said, according to the Jerusalem Post, that “he had asked for Vatican cooperation in locating the gold menorah from the Second Temple that was brought to Rome by Titus in 70 C.E.” Shetreet claimed that recent research at the University of Florence indicated the Menorah might be among the hidden treasures in the Vatican’s storerooms. “I don’t say it’s there for sure,” he said, “but I asked the Pope to help in the search as a goodwill gesture in recognition of the improved relations between Catholics and Jews.” Witnesses to this conversation “tell that a tense silence hovered over the room after Shetreet’s request was heard.” There was research done on Shetreet’s reference at the University of Florence, but no that was contacted there had ever heard of it.

This story has repeated itself a number of times since. One of the two chief rabbis of Israel, on their historic visit to the Vatican in 2004, asked about the Menorah, as did the President of Israel, Moshe Katzav, on another occasion. This is the official statement from the Israeli Ministry of Foreign Affairs via email: The requests by Shetreet, the president, and the chief rabbis reflect the long-held belief that the Catholic Church, as the inheritor of Rome, took possession of the empire’s booty-as documented by the Arch of Titus. It is thus assumed that, among other treasures looted from the Jewish people, the Temple menorah is stashed away someplace in the storerooms of the Vatican

These requests of the Church are a fascinating extension of the Jewish hope that the Temple Menorah taken by Titus would be returned “home.” The legends of the Menorah at the Vatican have considerable currency. In one version, a certain American rabbi entered the Vatican and saw the Menorah. In another version, it was an Israeli Moroccan rabbi known as “Rabbi Pinto” who saw it. In a third version, when the former Chief Rabbi of Israel, Isaac Herzog, went to rescue Jewish children in Europe, he visited Pope Pius XII (1939-1958) at the Vatican. According to this story, the Pope showed Rabbi Herzog the Menorah, but refused to return it.

It is frustrating how these valuable and symbolic treasures of our heritage have vanished. And there they wait, hidden from the eyes of all mankind, until the time that Heaven deems fit to reveal them once again.

It is interesting to note that although the commandment is the lighting of the menorah in our holy Temple, we find the obligation stretching further demanding the preparation of the wicks. The format in which the Torah presents us with this mitzvah is not a commandment to light the menorah, but rather an obligation to bring oil, in order that the wicks might one day be lit in the Mishkan. In other words the preparation is part of the commandment. Incredibly, Maimonides (Sefer HaMitzvoth; Aseh (positive commandment) 25) actually defines this mitzvah as: “La’aroch Nerot ba’Mikdash.” “To set up wicks (candles) in the Temple.” (And in his Hilchot Temidin 3:10-12, he clearly views setting up the candles and lighting them as essentially the same mitzvah).

Normally there is a separation between the mitzvah itself, and the preparation for the mitzvah. If one is obligated to eat matzah on Passover, the baking process is not part of the biblical obligation; it is simply the vehicle through which we make ready to fulfill this mitzvah. So why is this mitzvah, (the lighting of the menorah) different? Indeed, the Torah here does not even mention the menorah itself?

In regards to Moshe, there is something very unique, as well as highly unusual, in the topic of the menorah and the Tabernacle activity, where we find (parshat Tetzaveh)) Moshe’s name omitted completely. This is the only portion (since his birth in the portion of Exodus) where Moshe’s name does not appear.

The Midrash suggests that in the sin of the Golden calf (32:33), Moshe says to G-d: “Me’cheini Na’ Mi’Sifrechah”, “Erase me from your book.” In other words, if I cannot achieve forgiveness for the Jewish people, then I don’t want to be in the Torah. And, despite the fact that Hashem does indeed forgive us, nonetheless part of Moshe’s declaration came to pass, and thus, Moshe’s name is, indeed, not mentioned in one parsha pertaining to the Temple work.

Even more intriguing is the fact that the Pri Tzaddik explains that Moshe’s soul was actually the re-incarnation of Noach, and that the word “Mecheini” (“erase me”) are the same letters as the phrase “Mei Noach” “the floodwaters of Noach”, which is how the book of Chronicles refers to the flood, implying that on some level the tragedy of the flood was Noach’s responsibility. Unlike Abraham’s attempt to save Sedom, Noach seems to have made no effort to save the world and avert the destruction of the flood.

Moshe, however, saves the Jewish people literally putting his own name on the line rather than ‘allow’ G-d to destroy His people. On a mystical level, if you will, Moshe ‘fixes’ the error that came into the world in the time of Noach and achieves what is known as ‘Tikkun’ or a ‘repair in the world’ for Noach’s soul.

So what does all this have to do with our portion and the mitzvah of the menorah?

Firstly we have to explore the importance of what the menorah enumerates. We read in our parashah that Yitzchak brought his new wife, Rivka, into the tent of his mother Sarah. Rashi z”l writes, “He brought her into the tent and she became exactly like his mother Sarah.” He explains that several miracles that used to occur while Sarah was living began to occur again, one of them being that the Shabbat candles burned from one Shabbat eve to the next.

Our Sages teach us that light is associated with peace, because light allows man to differentiate between things. Peace exists when proper boundaries exist, which is possible only when there is light. In the dark, everything is jumbled, and there is no differentiation and therefore no peace. This is why morning is called “boker”-because the morning light permits “bikkur” / inspection, which leads to differentiation. On Shabbat there is peace because man refrains from work and rests.

Perhaps the significance of Sarah and Rivka’s Shabbat candles burning all week is that these Matriarchs distinguished themselves by their ability to differentiate where their husbands did not-in Sarah’s case, recognizing that Yishmael was a bad influence on Yitzchak; in Rivka’s case, recognizing that Yaakov, not Esav, deserved to receive Yitzchak’s blessing

The morning is a time of optimism. Awaking from the semi-death of sleep, the light and warmth of day promises rebirth, renewal, and success. If one is sensitive enough, he can feel it that which is absent from darkness. Usually one’s illness is more apparent at night. One cannot read Chumash at night (Torah sh’bchtav), only the Oral Torah. The reason is Written Torah is black and white and a Jew can’t get around it. However the Sages come and qualify the laws. Sure one cannot eat chametz on Pesach and has to relinquish ownership, but one can make a contract and sell what in his home without physically removing it, The Sages put the measure of mercy into the laws.

“And it was evening (first) and (then) it was morning; one day.”

Figuratively speaking, night represents pain and suffering. Day represents light and salvation.” For the righteous, day follows the evening. The path of the good may start out dark and painful, but in the end, it is bright, shiny and pleasant. For the evil, their path begins pleasant, but it ends with darkness and suffering. This is also the reason why the Sabbath comes on the seventh day of the week. It teaches us that there is a reward in the end for our pain and difficulties which we endure initially by taking the path of the good. (Imrei Shefer)

Moshe’s greatest attribute was his ability to recognize that he was really only a vessel for something much greater than himself. The Torah describes Moshe as the greatest Anav, the most humble person that ever lived. More than anything else Moshe was able to get out of his own way.

How often do we get so wrapped up in ourselves, and so caught up in making sure we get what we want, and what we need, that we forget that it isn’t and never was supposed to be about us; we are merely the vessel for something much greater, for the entire world.

Can I be the earth others walk on? Can I get in touch with the very real notion that I am meant to be a vehicle for light? Being a vehicle for G-d, being able to see myself merely as the wick for the flame….

Moshe was so in touch with the reality of what he was a vessel for that he was able to demonstrate that without the Jewish people, there was no longer a point to his existence.

In a time when rulers and monarchs were acting as gods, and assuming that the people existed to serve them, Moshe was teaching the world that it is not the people who serve the leader, but the leader who is meant to be a vessel to serve the people, and indeed the world.

And that is what this week’s portion, and particularly this mitzvah is all about. It is about connecting to real purpose, and valuing the vehicle for achieving that purpose.

Just like Moshe, the Menorah was only the vehicle for bringing light into the world. So often we are so dazzled by the Menorahs in this world, we forget they only have value if they are vehicles for light. Our mission as a people in the end is simply to bring light into the world.

Yet, this mitzvah is given to Aaron and his sons before they are actually invested with the mantle of the Priesthood. (See 27:21, and 28:1)

Apparently, the mitzvah of lighting the menorah was given to Aaron irrespective of his position as a Kohen, a priest. In the end, the priesthood was Aaron’s role, but the lighting of the menorah reflected who Aaron really was, and what he was all about.

In fact, it explains why it is Aaron fulfilling this mitzvah, and not Moshe. Shouldn’t it have been Moshe’s job to light the Menorah, especially as it was Moshe who brought the Torah to the world?

The answer is, Moshe was meant to bring the Torah down to earth, but it was Aaron’s mission to spread it to the world. And the reason Aaron was such an appropriate vehicle for doing this was because the attribute that epitomized Aaron was shalom; peace. In Pirkei Avot (Ethics of the Fathers) Aaron is described as the Ohev Shalom and the Rodef Shalom: the lover and pursuer of peace. The idea of being a vehicle for bringing G-d in to the world is all about peace.

In fact, the word Shalom itself is one of the names of G-d (hence the tradition that we do not say Shalom in the bathroom…). Through peace, Shalom, we succeed not only in bringing G-d into the world, but also in spreading G-d to the rest of the world.

There is an interesting connection between this mitzvah and the concept of Shalom.

The Talmud (Shabbat 21a) draws an equation between the kindling of lights in the Beit HaMikdash (the Temple), and the candles we light in our homes every Friday afternoon, ushering in Shabbat.

The Talmud explains (23b) that (at least according to Rashi), the essence of the Shabbat candles is that they bring Shalom Bayit; they bring peace into the home. Ultimately, suggests Rashi, there cannot be true peace in a place without light. The explanation given there is that if a person is stumbling in the darkness, he is not at peace. (And indeed, if people are moving around in the darkness, they will inevitably bang into each other and create discord between themselves.)

But perhaps there is a different way of looking at this idea. Ultimately, it is my ability to see and be at one with everyone, (Shalom which is based on the root Shalem, or whole) which is what peace is all about.

Shabbat begins with the lighting of candles, because Shabbat reminds us what this world is really all about, and what it is supposed to be: all about light. And if the Mikdash is a sanctuary in space, whose essence is related to light, Shabbat is a sanctuary in time whose essence is also light. (Thus, unless one specifies otherwise, the lighting of the candles automatically ushers in the Shabbat.)

May G-d bless us soon, to become, as a people the vehicle for light we are meant to be, and create together a world of light and shalom, truly whole all of us together.

The significance of the various names of G-d

This article was constructed with the help of either writings, lectures or shiurim of Rabbi’s  Asher Hurzberg, Henoch Leibowitz z’tl, Eliyahu Dessler z’tl


Ever wonder why in the siddur there are many variations of the name of G-d? Here is a little glimpse of some of G-d’s many names, SHALOM, EMET, KEL SHAKAY, ELOKIM, HASHEM…… What is the reason for so many different ones? Couldn’t one just suffice?
The answer lies in the explanation of how G-d runs the world. Rav Eliyahu Dessler, in his book Michtav Me’Eliyahu, explains there are two major methods in which G-d runs the world. One of them is through Rachamim – compassion, and the other one of them is through Din – harsh judgment. Yearly, daily, or even hourly, Rachamim and Din constantly seesaw back and forth. We, as clever Jews, push the right button at the right time and place to capitalize on the moment on hand. It’s similar to musical chairs; when the music stops you better be seated. For example, morning prayers are under the cover of Rachamim, while afternoon prayers fall under Din. When the time is ripe for compassion then one prays his heart out. When it’s time to do business then so be it. So As King Shlomo writes in Mishlay “There is a time for everything.”
By comedians, of course, the opposite of what we just said is true. They shock the audience with something contrary to the norm, using the most improper timing available. For instance, one of the most hilarious scenes in the history of comedy was “Chuckles the clown” where the clown got killed by an elephant who stampeded him. Following the news many of his friends were laughing and reminiscing at the clown’s antics including how he died. However, the main friend was mortified at how everyone was making light of the clown. After all, he just passed away. “Show some dignity” she scolded her friends. However at the actual funeral, the same stern and usually morbid character who berated everyone for not being serious was giggling and laughing uncontrollably and noticed by all, while the rest were somber.
As Jew, however, we know the proper times. The Seder night when we celebrate Pesach, for example, is considered a powerful night. It’s a night where G-d shows compassion therefore we have to seize the moment and apply what is needed to optimize our chances to receive the proper brachot.
The most famous examples of “choose your battles” would be the month (Elul) before Rosh Hashana where we say slichot every morning or possibly even after midnight, if you’re a night owl. Why do we say it at those particular times? For we’ve learned that after midnight G-d proves to be leaning towards the Rachamim side and in order to invoke more compassion we ask forgiveness during that period of time.
(Shemot 6, 2) “V’YEDABER ELOKIM EL MOSHE V’YOMER EHLAV ANI HASHEM”
In this week’s parsha, Vayera, it’s very interesting to note that by the narrative of the verses, we can see how G-d fluctuates between DIN and RACHAMIM. G-d manipulates the moment changing the tone, the mood. We notice this through the use of the Master of the Universe’s name.
 
The parsha starts in an unusual way. Its starts with VAYEDABER- a harsher way of saying “and he spoke”. The name ELOKIM connote G-d judging with strictness. “VAYOMER” the other variation of “and he spoke” is softer and is found in the second half of the verse. The passuk ends ANI HASHEM G-d’s other name. Hashem implies compassionate, kindness, mercy. So ELOKIM and HASHEM are in the same sentence.
The underlying deep meaning of this first passuk is ELOKIM has been running the show. Strict judgment was in the air and the Jews are suffering. The Egyptians have not treated them very well; they were not being good hosts; they went overboard. The original intent of the Egyptians was to give the Israelites normal accommodations. One of the key tests in life is to treat subordinates with the proper respect. It is very tempting to take advantage when one is at a high position. The Egyptians failed that test. The became a super power thanks to Joseph and the Jews. However, it seems like they forgot who buttered their bread. The Egyptians denounced G-d who butters everyone’s bread – “We do not recognize your G-d” was the popular slogan. Their arrogant nature resulting from success was apparent. We see another lesson from here – the freedom of choice in the world. For its not just the Jews that have the ability to choose but the gentile nations as well. They too are being tested.
G-d is implying in the first part of the passuk that the Jews have been on DIN-justice mode however “ANI HASHEM” now I will demonstrate compassion.
(Verse 3) “I appeared to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob with [the name] Almighty God, but [with] My name YHWH, I did not become known to them.”
The next verse G-d mentions that he came to our forefathers in the form of another name KEL SHKAKY but my compassionate name I did not show them.
We have mention previously the definition of the word OLAM -world is hidden. Our job is to discover G-d and draw him out in the open. Avraham was the first man to do so. KEL SHAKAY means to draw G-d into nature. Avraham accomplished that feat through the ten tests. There was not one person before Avraham who was able to draw G-d into the world. However our forefathers wanted to be judged with strict judgement. As it states in the verse “I did not show them HASHEM”, which is referring to compassion”. The end of the passuk again refers as now I will change gears.
We learn from verse 5 through 8 that G-s has heard the cries of b’nai Yisrael and sees the Egyptian torturing the Jews. He then said “I will remember the covenant I made with your forefathers. I will take you out of Egypt, I am Hashem”. I will now be on compassion mode, however once will form b’nai Yisrael into a nation I will switch back to ELOKIM; this means I will go back to strict judgement mode.
An obvious, powerful question arises: Why go back to strict Judgement? I would be perfectly okay with compassion! Why did our forefathers ask to be judged with strict judgement?
In order to answer the question we have to fast forward when the Jews were in the desert and Moshe, the leader, and his brother Aharon, the high Priest, were in the twilight of their lives.
 
One of the most tragic incidences in the Torah is the death of the two sons of Aharon – Nadav and Avihu. The Sages indicate that everyone assumed they were the heir apparent to the leadership. They were smart, charismatic and came from one of the leading families of the Jewish people. A matchmaker would undoubtedly label them a ‘catch’. They brought an unauthorized sacrifice to G-d ‘and they were killed, consumed by the fire’.
It is hard to believe that for such an act, one is to be punished so severely. In fact, it’s a bit confusing. Some commentaries view their act as one of the greatest bonds between G-d and man; while others view their demise due to a few character flaws. The main one was haughtiness, which resulted in consumption of wine while conducting sanctuary work. In addition this also led to them believing nobody is good enough for marriage. How do you rectify the two opinions?
Elaborating more on the flaws that the two brothers had, Rav Henoch Leibowitz, zt’l explains they were punished because they gave the impression of being interested in many women, and a caused them great pain. The women had the wishful thinking of ‘I’ll wait by the phone’ but the call never came for them. Rav Henoch asks “But they didn’t ask these women to wait! They didn’t say, ‘I’ll call you back.’ Why punish them?” He answers, “One has to be clear and say ‘I’m not interested.'” One should not create a false impression or else the girl would wait by the phone or the boy will keep on calling and it will be humiliating for both. Of course rejection has to be handled delicately but nevertheless firmly.
We are still, however, left with the question, why were Aharon’s sons punished so severely? There would be no singles scene if G-d judges us like that today!
The answer is, the reason for the harsh judgment was at the request of Nadav and Avihu themselves! But that’s insane; why in the world would you want justice if G-d will be more accepting with compassion? This can be explained with the following example: When a father is in a “justice mode” and demands much from his son, there is obviously more pressure and a higher standard is expected. If the son delivers and succeeds in the task at that high level, the father would be astonished, and say, “WOW! My boy was able to withstand my justice and live up to my demands.”
Rashi, one of the mainstream commentaries on the Torah, mentions that Nadav and Avihu were ‘sick with love for G-d’. When a gifted, smart, but young and inexperienced person has an interest in a girl, he will succeed in approaching her faster than the average person, only to get rejected right at the threshold. The Gra (commentary) explains their love toward G-d was skin deep, which didn’t develop, and a false enthusiasm was created because of their inexperienced young age. Their fearlessness, resulting from haughtiness, made them explore levels of spirituality that no man has gone before. Nadav and Avihu thought they can be judged with Din, not realizing that, because of their haughtiness, they had flaws. So any minute, any speck of negativity was magnified, therefore receiving the severe punishment.
We can clearly see there is positive and negative to being judged with strictness. On the one hand, one is going through difficult times. On the other hand the reward is tremendous and one will be highly regarded.
But be cautious! Our forefathers Avraham, Yitzchak and Yaacov asked to be judged with strict judgement for them the reward is far greater. “Come on, bring it on, I can take it and I’ll pass the test”. Our forefather passed the test. However Nadav and Avihu were not ready. King David too asked to be tested and failed. I too, many years ago asked to be tested and failed. Out of “love for G-d” many people ask for things they are not ready for yet. They ask to be tested with strict judgement. Our tests in our lives consist of many difficulties, and some are as of result of harsh judgement – ELOKIM. But we don’t ask for these tests and we shouldn’t. It comes by itself. One should be aware between the fluctuation between name of compassionate HASHEM and the strict ELOKIM.
 
Therefore, some of our prayers are best suited for Rachamim and some are best suited for Gevurah (another name for harsh judgement) and in response G-d’s names, some are names of compassion some are of strict judgment, are placed accordingly.
(Shemot 14, 31) “And Israel saw the great hand, which the Lord had used upon the Egyptians, and the people feared the Lord, and they believed in the Lord and in Moses, His servant.”
It seems like the pasuk is redundant. The first part of the verse already confirms Israelites belief in G-d. Rav Henoch Leibowitz z’tl enlightens us that the second part of the pasuk is not referring to b’nai Yisrael at all. The second half is referring to the Egyptians. How is that possible? The Egyptians drowned!!
The answer is a powerful lesson in regards to a test. We are tested till the last breath we take and we can realize our mistake even in the last moment. Rav Henoch says as the waters were closing in and the Egyptians realized that they were going to drown that was the moment they realized the hand of G-d and believed

Parshat Bechukotai

 

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 Bechokotai

May 19, 2011

15 Iyar, 5771

Dear Friend,

THIS SATURDAY NIGHT AND SUNDAY

 IS LAG BA’OMER!!!

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There is a section in this week’s Torah reading, Parshat Bechokotai, where they are many curses. Yes, you heard me correctly, big time nasty curses. G-d warns us ‘if you do not go in my ways then I will punish you’. My father z”l instructed my bar mitzvah teacher that I not read that portion, citing it is not appropriate that a wet behind the ears bar mitzvah boy, who is introduced to G-d’s commandments for the first time, read such negativities; after all, a bar mitzvah is a happy occasion. It’s a custom that the Rabbi or chazan get an aliya (called up to the Torah) for both the curses as well as the brachot (the Ten Commandments, Az Yashir etc.), and avoid any uneasiness on the gabai to pick people for the undesirable aliya. The negative portion is read in a lower tone than usual.

In the Torah (26:18), G-d warns us ‘If, in despite, you do not listen to me, then I will punish you seven ways for your sins.’ According to our sages, punishment is meant to wake us up and correct our mistakes and become better people. However, Rav Henoch Leibowitz, z”l points out ‘there are those who do not take criticism very well and it’s counter productive to rebuke them.’ How easy it is today to get depressed when we encounter negativity. We live in a very pressurized society where the stress level is beyond normal. The amount of responsibilities is enormous; just paying bills is overwhelming; we are billed for everything; if opportunity strikes they’d bill us for breathing. There’s the headache of finding the right mate and the difficulty of trying to conceive. It seems like when one takes a breath of fresh air, new problems arise; therefore we are susceptible to be ‘down and out’. So how are we able to cope with our problems?

To shed some light on this question, I’d have to go back to this past Shabbat where I would take my customary walk after Rabbi Olbaum’s shiur, with my friend Ophir Haimov. Ophir reminded me of a gemarah that fits this d’var Torah perfectly. He said, ‘We all know King David wrote psalms, which happens to be one of the greatest dedications to G-d. However, believe it or not, it was almost surpassed by the psalms of none other then, the egotistical maniac, Nevuchanetzar.’ Nevuchanetzar was the king of Babylon who destroyed the first temple approximately 2500 years ago. This king of Babylon was a very complex character. On one hand, he was notoriously known for his cruelty towards humanity and also having the audacity to proclaim himself G-d. However, shockingly, there was a glimpse of strong appreciation and acknowledgement of G-d. He reached the heights of holiness and the depths of evil on a daily basis.

The gemara continues, ‘G-d sent an angel to knock his pen down and Nevuchanetzar never wrote again’. The commentaries explain the difference between the two; King David went through so many knocks but he never put down his pen. He was labeled an illegitimate son where he was ostracized by his father and brothers after beating Goliath. Instead of being embraced by King Shaul and given his daughter for marriage, Shaul tried to kill him. His own son rebelled and tried to kill him and in turn was killed against David’s wishes. But through these painful adventures, David never put his pen down and even proclaimed, ‘I feel closer to you then ever’. On the contrary, Nevuchanetzar never recovered from his ordeals and denounced G-d.

Similarly, we find Joseph, one of the twelve sons of Jacob, who was hated and sold by his brothers to a strange land. Joseph had to go through one of the biggest tests of all time; his boss’s wife was trying to seduce him for approximately a year; this was especially difficult being seventeen. Could the guys reading this dare to believe they cannot sin in that situation? One would figure after passing the test, G-d would reward him handsomely. Not so – he was put in jail for a lengthy time. Throughout his difficulties, we never heard Joseph complain. On the contrary, every conversation he had, Joseph praised G-d.

David and Joseph were able to persevere and reach the heights of being leaders of Israel because, of what Rav Leibowitz describes, people of their character have an ability to believe that whatever negativity they experienced, is inflicted by G-d himself for the direct results of their sins. As David writes in Tehillim, ‘I know that whatever happens, G-d will never leave me’. They were able to learn and become better, stronger people from their experience; there is always room for improvement. They didn’t say, “I’m just going to take a vacation and turn myself off from life until this bad time goes away.”

Before Ophir and I departed to our respective synagogues, he offered a great example. ‘It’s like poker; you don’t need a good hand to be a winner.’

Lag Ba’omer
 upsherin

One of the most spiritual and exhilarating times of my life occurred on lag ba’omer (the 33rd day from the 2nd day of Passover), five years ago. On that day, my family and I were in Miron, Israel; the site of the gravesite of Rebbi Shimon Bar Yochai, (also referred to as Rashby), the founder of Kabbalah (zohar), commemorating his yartzeit. It’s a custom not to cut the hair of young boys until they reach their third birthday. The cutting of the hair ceremony is called upsherin or kalacha. At the gravesite in Miron, there are many little boys awaiting haircuts. One of them was my son, as well as yours truly, when I was three, many years ago – well, not that long ago. It’s not your ordinary gravesite and we weren’t the only ones there. There are approximately 600,000 people visiting the site where bands play music, food stands are put up and various foods are distributed for free. I’ve never experienced a place where people are so friendly and polite to each other then lag ba’omer in Miron. It is Jews at their best and one experiencing this can really feel proud of being Jewish.

Why the custom of celebration on his yartzeit? Why the cutting of the hair? In fact, there is a strong Bukharian tradition of commemorating the yartzeit of a loved one by reading the portion of the zohar, which describes the death of Rebbi Shimon Bar Yochai. Why is the connection between his death and others emphasized? Also, why do Bukharians celebrate with a meal?

There is an emphasis in the zohar that Rashby died in peace, which in Hebrew is pronounced ‘shalom’. The root of the word shalom is shalem – complete. Therefore we learn that Rashby passed away in a perfect state, complete. The idea of kabbalah is to be completely infused with Torah in order to connect with it on every possible level, or worlds. The knowledge of Torah, through kabbalah, enables us to change frequencies, similar to changing channels on a radio dial. One hears different sounds when changing the dial even though he’s situated in the same spot.

Another example of different views of reality is the status of a woman accepting a wedding ring presented by her chattan, after he says ‘you are betrothed to me with this ring’. In the process, her status changes. Although the woman’s appearance is noticeably the same as before but on a different frequency, one can apparently notice the change of her being branded her husband’s name and the status of a married woman; so one must be careful and realize how powerful words, or any act for that matter, can be. When one makes a bracha on an apple, he doesn’t notice, but in other worlds (there are three) the apple changes status. Good and evil are more apparently noticed in other frequencies. Rashby’s philosophy was that material and physical are the skin that hides the holiness of the soul. The light has to come out. That is the reason haircuts are given on lag ba’omer. Hair represents materialism in its highest sense. Presumably, that is one of the reasons married women wear shaitels (wigs). Ask any person what is one of the main features of beauty in a woman. One of the leading answers would be the hair. Women take tremendous pride in beautifying the hair. It’s a tremendous self-sacrifice to cover one of their pride and joys. No matter how nice the wig is, any woman would still like to show her own hair. In essence, what a woman is saying to G-d, “I’m giving this up because of your commandment.” This is one of the biggest tests of faith the daughters of Israel have.

Rashby died achieving peace and completeness. Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan writes ‘one has to be at peace with himself in order to attain peace with others, and only then he can achieve great heights’; this is hinted in the zohar. The yartzeit was the one important part of Judaism in which Bukharians practiced in public back in Russia; it united people, and unity is the result of peace. Incidentally, ever wonder why one tradition at a yartzeit dinner are that there are no knives? Because that would go against Rashby’s message of shalom and shalem (peace and complete). Knives represent strife and war.

We also try to connect this zohar that we read to when one passes away. It describes how Rashby died complete and we try to symbolically connect the deceased to Rashby through the concept of ‘he died complete with peace.’ This is the reason why we read that particular passage in the zohar. We hope that with the read, G-d will have mercy and guide the soul with that of Rashby. Also, the passage describes a fire that came out of Rashby and into his disciples; this symbolizes the transformation of the Torah to the next generation. Here too is a transformation from one generation to the next.

There is a passage that says ‘G-d makes peace in the heavens by putting together fire and water, then He can surely make peace here on earth’. One reader asked a great question pertaining to last week’s article referring to opposites, which cannot exist in the spiritual world. So then how can fire and water co-exist together?  Opposites are usually at odds with each other! G-d made a miracle not only enabling fire and water to co-exist with each other, but He made peace (shalom and made them shalem) between them, wedging them together through the common denominator, G-d; now they have similarity.

Seeing my son smile while I gave him his first haircut as the music was blasting the song ‘Bar Yochai’ which is one of the favorite songs that was sung by Pop, z'”l, and I, at the Friday night Shabbat table, made that moment an extremely happy occasion. Rashby said, “I want People to celebrate my yartzeit with tremendous joy”. Well, I sure did.

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience