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Re’eh

August 25, 2011
25 Av, 5771

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In This Issue
Parshat Re’eh – Hard To Find Good Neighbors?
A Man With No Country
Kosher Alert

 Parshat Re’eh – Hard To Find Good Neighbors?
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In this week’s Parsha (Parshat Re’eh), (13:29-31), G-d warns the Jewish nation that when they will conquer the land, there is cause for concern that their ideology and everything good they built will be threatened. This is because of the temptation to follow the ways of your non-Jewish neighbors. Apparently, we learn from here that neighbors should not be taken lightly. They have a tremendous impact on us. Ahh, but one can say, I don’t go out partying with him; he’s not part of my chevra (group of exclusive buddies). However, a neighbor is always there and it’s hard not to bump into. One may inadvertently walk home together after temple on Shabbat. His wife may borrow a cup of sugar. One may have a quick pick-up game of two on two or even one-on-one in his driveway garage basketball game, since one is too lazy to go to the friend of choice, who is a little further away. The constant contact, the Baal Haturim in his commentary to Pirkei Avot says, forces the unavoidable influence. He goes so far to say that a neighbor has more influence than a good friend.

Rabbi Baruch Doppelt quotes Rashi (one of the mainstream commentaries on the Chumash) and says the reason Korach was able to influence Dassan and Aviram of his rebellious plan against Moshe in the desert by joining him was because they were neighbors. They absolutely had nothing to gain by this argument. It wasn’t their fight!! Dassan and Aviram lent a sympathetic ear to Korach after he had a hard day at the office. Before one knows it, you’re being dragged into battling a war that one doesn’t know how he got involved. Eventually they were all killed, both Korach and Dassan and Aviram, as the ground swallowed them up.

The same holds true with good neighbors. The tribes of Yehuda and Yissachar were known as tremendous talmidei chachamim (well-versed in Torah knowledge) because they all lived next to Moshe who had enormous Torah knowledge and dedication toward G-d. Apparently Moshe had made an impact on the neighboring tribes.

This neighborly influence has an effect on a broader scale. One adopts the culture and way of life of where he lives. This is evident by seeing Jews from different backgrounds taking up residence in their new country, America. Each one of these Jewish groups were influenced greatly by their neighboring Goyim (non-Jews).

One may joke of the humor of the popular scenario where a man is looking out of his window with binoculars while complaining to his wife about what the new neighbors are doing. ‘They’re so different then us ‘; one doesn’t realize but eventually not only will he get used to their differences, but start copying what they do. We don’t have much of a choice when new neighbors move in. However, when one is planning to move, he should first find out who is living next door. This should be on top of his list.

There was a slogan ad by State Farm Insurance many years ago; ‘And like a good neighbor State Farm is there’. Neighbors apparently are held in such high esteem that they are labeled as ‘always there for you’. Yes, they are there and influential.

A Man With No Country
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        I often feel I’m not understood; does that sound familiar? But wait; seriously, there is a feeling of uniqueness among us. We’re a certain kind, and therefore one cannot hold it against us for not complying with any particular culture. Who is ‘my kind’ one may ask? Who is ‘us’? Well, let’s start from the united nation type background. My grandparents were Bukharian. Although both my parents were born there, they moved to Israel as children and consider themselves Israelis and I was born in the States, to be more precise, Boro Park. Like many of my kind, we moved to Queens and lived as a close-knit very small community. Most of us had a strong influential American Ashkenaz schooling through Yeshiva. I remember some of the kids in the class would ask us “what’s your background”, and we would answer “Bukharian.” They would look at us strangely and ask, “Where’s that?” They had no clue. If we would have answered ‘its part of Texas’, they would have believed us and truth be told, if it were convincing enough, we too would believe it as well. 

 

We’re not considered Ashkenaz American; they’ll be the first to testify to that. We’re not rough and tough enough to be Israeli. My mother-in-law always asks me “why didn’t you marry your own kind?” (My wife is born and bred in Bukharah). So if we are not any of the above….SO WHAT ARE WE???…ARE WE FROM MARS??!!

I’ve tried to bond with different cultures but I never really felt comfortable with any of them. It wasn’t home, and when I asked my fellow ‘men without countrieans’ (name created by fellow member Rafi Sharbat); they had the similar feeling.

Although there are advantages, Ofir Haimoff (one of the clubmembers) said we could appreciate every culture to the fullest whether it’s chulent or osevoh, (different Shabbat tables) understanding jokes and sarcasms or different music. We know what good things a particular culture has to offer and appreciate them like they do; ‘Men with-out countriean’ could fluctuate between cultures as easy as changing hats. One can go to different synagogues being aware how the service is ran and even lead it (hazan) and not feel awkward; the convenience of having a choice of more synagogues and the ability to tolerate certaincuisines in ‘high pressured-no time New York’ is a big plus. People, who are not like us, go to a Temple that’s not of their kind and feel like lost puppies. Another club member says I feel I’m not committed to anything; I’m a free bird. There is no pressure of ‘having to follow the Jones’. However – and trust it’s a big however – we’ll never feel at home anywhere.

 

 

Last year I gave a lecture on this topic and it was such a hit. I received so many responses. Someone stopped me in the street and said ‘I can really relate, we’re unique.’ The ironic thing is the person who approached me was Bukharian who came here from the Soviet Union when he was fifteen. If you think about it, there are 30,000 people with a similar background. If we had four Bukharians in our eighth grade class we felt important. He has an entire city just like him, how can he relate?! How absurd is that!!

 

Presumably, the reason many people feel a sense of not belonging, a feeling of seclusion, unable to express ourselves resulting in stifling our emotions and feeling too uncomfortable to disclose our inner thoughts, is because there is no common denominator. What do you mean, one may ask? I believe I found the answer.

 

I have a friend (Boaz Davidoff, fellow member) who made Aliya (moved to Israel) about ten years ago. The reason is because it is our Jewish homeland. He said ‘it was very difficult to make the adjustment in the beginning and I was very homesick. I still can’t swallow some of the characters and how the country is ran. However, surprisingly, I could get into an argument in the street with a stranger (which as an American I always made fun of) about politics, security, economics and religious issues very easily because I care. It’s my country. Yes, that’s correct, it’s my country; it’s the Jewish homeland; the land of my Fathers. I was never able to say that about Queens, New York, although, I grew up there. But the feeling I have for Israel is deeply rooted. I feel this is my home and all of us living here have a commitment to make this country flourish and work correctly. This is the common denominator we have.’

We read in birkat hamazon ‘thank you for giving us the good land’ our land, a land we can call home, which we can go especially for our fellow ‘men without countrieans.

 

 

 

 

Kosher Alert
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A good friend who happens to be in the catering business for a long time, Gershon Meirov (from the famous catering Meirov family) made me aware of something interesting this past week. The Chicago Rabbinical Council is taking the lead in this area and holding a conference on the topic of exotic kosher animals. The Torah draws the guidelines of what is kosher and what’s not, and we have a Mesorah (tradition) how to use those guidelines in helping us to determine what’s acceptable to eat and not. There are the classic meats that our ancestors have eaten traditionally (among those: chicken, sheep, lamb) but the list changed with the introduction of animals which were unknown due to coming to the new world (America).

The classic example is turkey, a virtually unknown species that was introduced in Europe in the 16th century to the elite, but popularized later in the United States. The leading Rabbinical authorities in America at the time determined through the kosher guidelines standards, that it was permissible for consumption. There is no Mesorah of our ancestors eating turkey. But that doesn’t mean it’s not kosher.

A number of meats that are on the agenda at the conference are elk and quail. Another kosher animal that up until recently was never commercially available was buffalo (some buffalo are controversial), although it is a bit pricey. But for those who like the lean meat, it’s something to look into. There are other exotic animals that are being examined for kashrut. Jewish organizations like CRC and the OU to name a few, are exploring the new age of kashrut and would like to increase the menu beyond pastrami and corn beef. As long as it passes the traditional guidelines of Kashrut, we’re good to go. Thanks Gersh.

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience