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A very important hidden message in the seder

This article was constructed with the help of either writings, lectures or shiurim of  Rabbi’s,Yisschar Frand, Yehuda Prero, Berel Wein, Yossi bilus,

  Many of us wait, in anticipation all year round to sit at the Seder table. The once a year fancy silverware and china, the prop games for the children are all part and parcel of an action pact, amazing evening. Interestingly, one of the first things we do when we participate at the Seder is proclaim our freedom (Ha lachmah anya). In a poignant moment each individual, dressed in their formal attire, holds the 3 matzos (the middle broken,The piece that remains on the Seder Plate is the “poor man’s bread” over which the tale of our slavery is said. Poor people only eat a small part of their bread — they need to save the rest in case tomorrow there is none. ) placed in a white special made covering with the letters of matzos embroidered on it, and recites, as it is passed around the table, a declaration. “This year we are here, next year (May we be) in the Land of Israel. This year we are slaves, next year (May we be) free!”  The proclamation, by each person attending, if one is made aware of the important meaning of the words, enables them to “feel” being free. A special gift given by G-d!   It also forces the individuals attending to be a part of the evening Seder. It’s funny, some have a phobia to speak in front of large gatherings, shy away and reluctantly refuse the invitation to say the Ha-lachma’anya.  The slightly more bold ones recite the proclamation with a trembling low voice. However, some seem to cherish the spotlight and are unwilling to let go of the matzos so quickly. One sees all the personalities emerge in a night where everyone is scripted into the evening program.

 The Seder, though, is never perfect like the ideal Pesach Seder.  What is a proper Pesach?  THE Seder should include the Pesach and Festival offerings. But “this year” it is not that way.

 If we examine the Haggadah more closely, we discover that the Seder also ends with this same theme. “L’shana haba b’Yerushalayim – Next year in Jerusalem.” The reason why our Pesach Seder will not include a Pesach offering this year is because the Beis HaMikdash [Temple] was destroyed. Our Sages teach us that the Second Temple was destroyed because of ‘Baseless Hatred’ (Sinat Chinam). We are taught that the Bet HaMikdash will not be rebuilt until we somehow correct the defect of baseless hatred toward each other. If that is the case, why are we not prompted somewhere during the Pesach Seder to address this sin? If the Seder in fact includes the request that next year we should be in the Land of Israel and in Jerusalem, why are we not told exactly how to take corrective action to make that happen? We should be explicitly taught to remedy our behavior of Baseless Hatred at the Seder!!

 

   Rabbi Yissachar Frand quotes the Ben Ish Chai (Yosef Chaim (1 September 1835 – 30 August 1909) authority on Jewish law and master kabalist) states that indeed there is such a notion in the Hagaddah. He says that this is alluded to by the question which we (for the most part, children) recite at the MA NISHTANA- “Why is it that on all other nights we do not even dip once, and on this night we dip twice?” The Ben Ish Chai suggests that the first dipping on the night of the Seder-KARPAS (into the salt water) reminds us of the first place that “dipping” is mentioned in Jewish History: “And they dipped (Yosef’s) coat into blood” [Bereshis 37:31]. This is the prototype of the sin of Baseless Hatred, which has plagued us throughout the generations and started the spiral down leading to slavery. The second dipping at the Seder (into the Charoset) corresponds to a second dipping that we find mentioned in the Chumash: “And you shall take the bundle of hyssop and dip it into the blood” [Shmot 12:22]. Hyssop is an herb in the mint family with cleansing, medicinal, and flavoring properties, was prolific in the Middle East and was used in a variety of ways. This pasuk [verse] refers to the dipping into the blood of the Pesach offering. That dipping was the first step of painting the door posts and lintels of their homes with the sign of blood — in order to save them from the Plague of the First Born on the night of their deliverance from Egypt. It is no coincidence, says the Ben Ish Chai, that the Torah uses the language of Agudah [bundle (of hyssop)] regarding the second dipping. The word Agudah comes from the root word Igud, which means Unity. Thus, the dipping of unity, which took place at the end of the Jewish Nation’s stay in Egypt, was a remedy for the dipping of Baseless Hatred, which had triggered their descent into Egypt. Perhaps, for this reason, it is why the Sephardic and Central Asian custom is to have the second dipping in the sweet Charoset.  This concept symbolizes that we too will emerge from our current exile — which was also triggered by Baseless Hatred — with unity and harmony amongst ourselves.

 “French police officers stand guard outside the Hyper Cacher kosher supermarket near Porte de Vincennes”

 

 Anti-Semitism is real!!! It existed then and it exists now. The make-up, attitudes, outlooks of our entire family changed because the Anti-Semitic Bolsheviks threw my grandfather out of a moving train for the one and only reason that he was Jewish. Every family has to deal with their share of this particular grief.  Rabbi Frand mentions that Rav Elchanan Wasserman (1874 – July 6, 1941) was a prominent rabbi and rosh yeshiva in pre-World War II Europe. He was one of the Chofetz Chaim‘s closest disciples and a noted Torah scholar) expressed amazement that of all the slanders that the anti-Semites have used against the Jews over the centuries, one of the most recurrent lies has been the ‘Blood Libel’. This is a claim that is not only patently false, but that makes absolutely no sense as well.

The last thing a Jew would ever eat is blood. The Torah has numerous prohibitions distancing a Jew from blood or anything that is mixed with blood. How could it be that we have always been accused of this specific charge?
Rav Elchanan Wasserman suggests that this is a Divine punishment that corresponds to the sin of “they dipped (Yosef’s) coat into blood”. When the brothers dipped Yosef’s coat into blood, that act did something to the system of Heavenly Justice which caused Jews in future generations to be susceptible to the slanderous libel that as if we bake our Matzahs with the blood of Gentile children, G-d forbid.
Unfortunately, Pesach has many reminders of Baseless Hatred. Rav Mattisyahu Solomon points out the irony that the Blood Libel always emerged before Pesach. (The libel claimed that as if the Matzahs were baked with blood; as if the 4 cups of wine actually contained blood, G-d forbid, etc.) Why specifically Pesach? Why did they not say that we dip our Lulavim (palm branches, used on Sukkot) in blood?
The answer is because Pesach is the Festival of Redemption. It is the holiday of “In Nissan they were redeemed and in Nissan they are destined to be redeemed” [Rosh Hashanna 11a]. As long as we have not rectified the original sin that led to the slavery — Yosef’s brothers – Baseless Hatred, which caused them to dip his coat in blood, the blood libel rears its ugly head around the time of Pesach.

THE FOUR SONS AND UNITY 

The Haggadah speaks about the famed “Four Sons:” The Wise son, the Evil Son, the Simple Son, and the Son who does not know how to ask. The dialogue of the evil son is particularly interesting. The Haggadah Says: “The Rashah (The wicked son) – What does he say? ‘Of what purpose is this service to you?’ To you (he said), (implying) and not to himself. Because he took himself out of the community, he has denied the basic principles. Therefore, you should strike his teeth and tell him ‘Because of this, G-d did this for me during my departure from Egypt.’ For me, and not for him. And if he was there, he would not have been redeemed. “

Why is the evil son so bad? Why his comments are considered “heretical?” Furthermore, what is the unusual response of striking his teeth supposed to accomplish? In order to get a fuller appreciation of this dialogue, it is necessary to understand the true meaning of the conversation. Therefore, a little background information is needed.

 Interestingly, the Seder rides on the shadow of the episode of Yosef and his brothers. Our forefather, Yaakov, was the father of the 12 Tribes of Israel. We find in the Torah that Yosef, Yaakov’s favorite son, was not liked by his brothers. Yosef had dreams about how he would be in an elevated position over his brothers, which he related to his brothers. These revelations combined with other factors that our Sages discuss caused a large rift between Yosef and his brothers. Yaakov was not oblivious to this rift. Indeed, he knew that Yosef distanced himself and was distanced from his brothers, and he attempted to ameliorate the situation.

We find in Bereshit (37:11-14) that the brothers were tending to their father’s flocks in the city of Shechem. Yaakov sent Yosef to check on his brothers. The language that Yaakov used to request this of Yosef is odd. He told Yosef “To check on the peace of your brothers and the peace of the sheep.” Why did Yaakov give this lengthy order, when he could have simply stated “Check on the peace of your brothers and the sheep?” Why a separate sentence for each?

The answer is that Yaakov was telling something more to Yosef than to just check on his brothers’ well being. There are two types of “peace.” There is a type of peace which is merely an absence of war. People do not necessarily get along, nor care for each other. However, as long as one does not bother the other, all is well. This is contrasted to a vastly different type of peace. It is a true peace, where people care for each other. People more than just co-exist with each other: They live together as a community, a collective whole, where all are concerned for each other’s benefit, and where cooperation is the norm, not an exception, not a burden. Sheep are a perfect example of the former type of peace. One sheep does not necessarily care for the others in the flock. As long as any specific sheep gets its food to eat, it will not bother any other sheep. Sheep co-exist with each other. The brothers of Yosef, on the other hand, demonstrated the latter type of peace. They lived together in a unit, caring for each other’s needs, concerned for each other’s welfare. The brothers lived in a harmonious unit, a unit which typified the peace we long for.

Yosef, by acting in the ways he did, was distancing himself from his brothers. His relationship with his siblings was like that between sheep: as long as Yosef did not bother his brothers, they did not bother him, and vice versa. Yaakov knew that it was of utmost importance that this needed a change. Yosef had to realize that he had to make himself a part of the whole. He could not be content with his status as an individual, separate from his brothers. He had to realize how important unity was, and act on this realization. In order to point out to Yosef that his behavior was not as it should be; Yaakov told Yosef “Go, and look at the peace of the sheep. See how they act towards each other. That is how you are acting towards your brothers, and it is wrong! How should you act? Go see the peace of your brothers! They are truly a unified group, where care for each other is of utmost concern. That is how your relationship should be with your brothers!”

 The first night of Pesach always falls on the same day of the week as the night of the following Tisha B’Av.  5 months from now we will commemorate another Tisha B’Av (hopefully not, may Moshiach come before than and it would be a happy holiday instead), it is because we did not properly learn the lesson of Pesach. We forget the lesson of the “two dippings”. We can only remedy the sin of Baseless Hatred, symbolized by the dipping in salt water, through the unity symbolized by the bundle of hyssop.
There are many reminders of the connection between Destruction and Redemption. The way that we can emerge from the Destruction that we are experiencing, and merit the Redemption that we so desperately need, is by once and for all remedying “dipping (Yosef’s coat) into blood” by creating its antidote of “dipping with the bundle of hyssop – through one common bundle of unity.” 

Parshat Acharei Mot

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A Quick Thought”

 

 

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 Acharei Mot

April 13, 2011

9 Nissan, 5771

In This Issue
Verbal Importance of the Seder
Breaking the Glass

Verbal Importance of the Seder
 haggadah

When one thinks about Pesach, the first thing that comes to mind is matzah. It is called ‘lechem oni-bread of affliction’. Another way of understanding ‘lechem oni’ is ‘lechem shea onim alav de’varim harbeh -bread over which many things are said’. This is the reason when we are about to start ‘avadim hayinu-we were slaves’, after reciting the ‘ma nishtanah-why is this night different from every other night’; we uncover the matzah and point at it. At this juncture, we are called upon to ‘talk’ about the exodus of Egypt. The very word ‘Pesach’ has been interpreted as ‘peh-sach-the mouth talks’, to stress the importance of putting the meaning of the event into words. As slaves, words were not spoken because slaves are not allowed to speak or to think. It’s important at the Seder to verbally read the Hagaddah from beginning to end. We see speaking as a sign of freedom. Any American can tell you the special privilege that is granted to us in freedom of speech; it’s a constitutional right. The Americans took example from the exodus of Egypt and incorporated them in their very own experiences and constitution. There is also an emphasis on the father and son dialog, because of the very reason we gave above, ‘freedom’. That relationship doesn’t exist when you’re a slave. There is no tradition that is passed down; one is obliged only to his master. However, freedom has a lot of fringe benefits and strengthening  that bond of the father and son is one of them.

In some places, it is customary for the father to repeat the mah nishtanah after the child has finished. The reason may be perhaps the child asked without understanding. It’s important to note that it is desirable that the entire Haggadah should be translated and explained for the benefit of all the Seder participants. After all, the Seder is not meant to be an empty ritual, but an effort to grasp and relive the experience of our ancestors. Somebody who does not understand the Haggadah has actually not fulfilled his obligation.

Another reason why the emphasis on ‘talking’ is important is that our very essence is speech. When Jacob came to receive the bracha from his father Isaac, Isaac said ‘hakol kol Yaacov v’hayadim yedei Eisav’-the voice is the voice of Jacob and the hands are the hands of Eisav’. Jacob’s power is in the speech. This is our strength and we are utilizing this gift that G-d gave us with pride at the Seder.

Besides Torah, which is part and parcel with speech and is our life force, there is another advantage, which we exercised that I feel proud of. When I was younger in the late 1960’s & early 70’s, the 25 year-old generation would create rallies and an enthusiastic energetic environment to make their voices heard for Soviet Jewry.  It worked by putting pressure on the government, and it unified the Jews whether they were American or Russian. It was a tremendous show of solidarity and it showed that with ‘kol Yaacov’, we can make a difference. The Seder is not the time to keep quiet; one should ask, answer, sing whatever they can, to strengthen our gift.

Breaking the Glass
breaking the glass

 

Baruch Hashem, there is always an abundance of weddings before Passover. It never fails, as one watches the bride and groom, to reminisce when we actually took those very steps ourselves. How interesting it is to witness a couple’s significant moment in their lives. I’m sure one can guess that a chupah ceremony has strong traditions and deep meanings. There is a lingering question that is often asked about the breaking of the glass at the end of the ceremony. We have learned it’s for the remembrance of our holy Temple, which was destroyed approximately two thousand years ago. This unpleasant memory is incorporated into our joyous occasion so we should not feel overly happy where we experienced such grief as a nation.

But why such an emphasis on diffusing the joy? Why not live with having a purely happy occasion without a bit of sorrow? Why can’t we just be happy to the fullest? Furthermore, one would have to look at a significant event in our history – which I’ve been scratching my head in wonderment – in order to understand what Rav Chaim Shmuelevits is trying to convey to us in this d’var Torah in which I had the pleasure to tell over.

The lineage of the Mashiach comes from the tribe of Yehuda, but the turning of events of how the inception came about will startle you. Yehuda’s daughter in-law was widowed twice; G-d punished and killed Yehuda’s two sons (Tamar’s 1st and 2nd husbands.) Consequently, he told her to go to her father’s house until his third son is old enough to marry. Jewish tradition prevents a widow from marrying out of her husband’s family if she didn’t have children (although this does not apply today.) Usually, the brother is required to marry his brother’s wife, in order to preserve the deceased sibling’s name (yibum), or else he has to give her Chalitza (equivalent of a divorce). But, in light of what happened, Yehuda gave her the old line ‘don’t call me, I’ll call you’ and as the third son came of age, the call to Tamar never came. Perhaps he viewed her as bad luck and was reluctant to give over his son, fearing the black widow would strike again. Tamar, the widowed daughter in-law, had an intuition of the importance of the family and would not give up the right to be the mother of the messianic family. She disguised herself as a prostitute and seduced the widowed Yehuda. These uncharacteristic actions of both Yehuda and Tamar have put every living being off guard, as we will soon see. The news came out that Tamar was pregnant which angered Yehuda. ‘She is bound to our family and has committed a severe violation; she should be burned,’ he proclaimed, not knowing that it was he who impregnated her. Tamar made Yehuda realize through her discrete hint, that it was he who will be the father of her twins. Even though he was in front of the leaders of the world, Yehuda earned great admiration for his admittance, showing honesty, seeking to do what’s right and taking responsibility, therefore resulting in being crowned leader by his father and brothers.

But why does the Mashiach have to come in this manner? The great Jewish savior is presented in such an un-dignifying way; this is how you want the Mashiach to come? The mere thought of Yehuda not knowing who the mother of the messianic lineage is at the time of the physical relationship, is mind boggling!

Rav Chaim teaches us the world operates in such a manner that every holy act cannot exist unless it has a small mixture of negativity. Therefore, the Mashiach would not be able to come in a natural way because the evil powers were too strong and would not allow the inception of this significant occurrence.

This leads us to this week’s Parsha where we realize that the power of evil could prevent goodness from blossoming unless the evil is satiated. Then and only then goodness can operate. The Torah mentions that on Yom Kippur, besides bringing a sacrifice to G-d, an identical young he-goat would be given to Satan. ‘What!!’ one may ask ‘Satan?’ Am I watching a B-movie late Saturday night on one of those low-budget channels? Perhaps it seems to be some form of idol worship. By throwing a bone to the devil, you’ll prevent any additional intervention.

My father had dinner once with his cousin, Mr. Mayer Abraham, who was one of the leaders of the Bukharian-Afgani community in Queens. They were on a business trip in the Far East.  Mr. Abraham left some food on his dinner plate. My father asked him ‘why don’t you finish? We have a long day ahead of us tomorrow.’ He retorted back ‘I always leave a little piece for Satan so he should be happy also. After reading the d’rasha by Rav Chaim, I realize where Mr. Abraham’s source came.

Rav Chaim quotes the Ramban who lived a thousand years ago. The breaking of the glass quiets Satan so he doesn’t harm the couple. He is satisfied with the event not being 100% pure joy because the guests remember an unpleasant memory. It is the chatan that reads ‘if I forget Jerusalem (where the Temple was destroyed) let my right hand forget its skill.’

Some communities are scared of the evil eye. Therefore, they perform a real chupah the night before, and the chupah at the hall with all the guests is staged. Realizing the importance of feeling a little sorrow when breaking the glass and its significance of fending off Satan, one should conclude there is no need for additional protection of the chatan and kallah.

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience

Parshat Metzora

“A Cup of Coffee 

 

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 Metzorah

April 7, 2011

3 Nissan, 5771

In This Issue
Unity and The Seder
The Four Sons

Unity and The Seder
family seder

 

If there is one night an American secular Jew could relate to a gentile’s Thanksgiving Day, is Passover eve ‘the Seder’. It’s a night where family travels from all over the world to be together. But besides being a wonderful family reunion, it is also a powerful night spiritually, connecting to G-d and unifying us as one nation. Every so often one hears an interesting thought which is inspiring.

This was the case many years ago hearing a d’var Torah from Rabbi Feivel Wagner z”l of the Young Israel of Forest Hills. He started the d’rasha (speech) by asking ‘why do we call it Seder?’ and he replied ‘Seder means order’. The sages created the proper order so we can elevate ourselves on this holy night. Rabbi Wagner began to explain the sequence from the beginning of the night: Kiddush is making the blessing on the wine; urchatz is washing your hands without a blessing; karpas is a vegetable (either celery or potato), dipped in salt water; yachatz is breaking of the middle matzah and magid is telling of the story of how we were slaves. But wait, how do the Rabbis proclaim the evening is in order when it seems like it’s out of sequence? Perhaps, karpas – the dipping of the vegetable in salt water, should be incorporated into magid – the telling of the story or our enslavement in Egypt. Apparently, isn’t that telling of the story?

We know from experience how meticulous our sages can be. Everything they wrote in the Siddur was carefully orchestrated and fit perfectly into its proper slot in the prayer.  So too, one would expect the pattern of preciseness at the Seder also. They are very smart; they won’t leave anything uncovered. Ahh, these Rabbi’s…. they always have a motive for everything. They always have something up their sleeves. Did they get careless here? So why is it out of sequence?

Our holy and smart sages did put the sequence in the right order. To understand the proper sequence of events, we have to back track years before the Jews entered Egypt, to the book of Genesis parshat vayeshev. There was jealousy against Joseph by his brothers who were the twelve sons of Jacob, our Patriarch. Joseph received an exclusive coat for a present by Jacob, which fueled the fire of jealousy and divided the brothers even more. The brothers decided to sell Joseph; but how would they explain their action to Jacob? Yehuda, the leader among the brothers, devised a plan; lying to his father by telling him a wild animal killed Joseph and showing Jacob the present, the ripped coat dipped in blood. The dipping of the coat was the climax of the hate and division toward their brother Joseph. Dipping is the action that broke the camel’s back and started the exile. Therefore the dipping of karpas, which the commentary Rashi defines, a coat, symbolizes the negative action of Yehuda and the brothers and one reason we’re in exile.

Someone wrote to me last week about my article titled ‘Passover Custom’ where I wrote how important it is to keep our traditions and customs because, apparently when eating over a friend’s house, the traditions could differ. So as a precautionary measure, one has to be careful when eating out. This person had a very strong question; this meticulous caution breeds disunity he proclaimed. I would like to add and make his question stronger by stating what audacity I have by alluding that the brothers were wrong in selling Joseph and dividing the family, while in last week’s article, I encouraged caution at eating by the brethrens, seemingly causing division.

One has to realize that respecting your fellow Jew’s customs and not forcing your traditions on him is the ultimate love and unity one can express. Joseph was different. It’s not so strange that brothers are not on the same page. Perhaps they weren’t sensitive enough to understand his personality. Perhaps Joseph too, should have realized his actions and words would cause a negative reaction from them.

My father z”l once raised my right hand and said ‘you see son, are any of your fingers the same? Different size, shape. But all the fingers on the hand work in unison. So too, people.  We are all different, and when we realize and respect each other’s quirkiness then we will be a unified nation’.

The Four Sons
 4 sons

Rabbi Olbaum, in quoting the book, Or Yael, asks a question: What does G-d love most about Abraham, our patriarch? Abraham was the first to recognize G-d; he had ten tests and passed them all and he publicly displayed his belief; he didn’t hide it by putting his kippah in his pocket. But the one item on a most impressive resume was his ability to pass down the tradition to his sons and grandsons. We learn it out from Parshat Vayera 19:18; ‘I know he will command his children and household’.

There are so many reasons why G-d can love Abraham – so why this one? Although, it is important, so is ‘welcoming guests’, ‘mastering kindness’ just to name a few of his many virtues. So it’s a little puzzling why this particular one is singled out. The Chafetz Chaim says ‘a person can be the most pious Jew and live an entire life learning Torah in his private domain, but if he doesn’t pass it down to his children, friends, students and neighbors, the word of G-d will disappear. Abraham had the ability, had the gift, which no one before him could.

The Haggadah introduces us to the four sons and one may ask: what’s the motive? What’s the moral lesson that the sages want to bring out? A person should realize that one of the primary goals of the Seder are the children, and we have to be in tune and read between the lines of the questions they ask.

We can deduce wisdom and interest from the detailed question of the Chacham (intelligent son). There is a sense of sincerity in his tone. The tone of the voice is essential to read what they are really trying to say.

Next is the Rasha (wicked); one might say the fact that he’s asking a question at all, is wonderful. There is no such thing as a bad question, one may think. Well, as long as there is an open channel for an answer, then yes. However, that question might be a statement; therefore, the lines of communication are closed. By the tone and attitude, the Rasha is not very open minded and not interested in hearing answers. His question has a negative connotation by excluding himself by speaking of ‘you’ and not ‘us’; therefore, his statement is understood as criticism. The statement or the very act of separating oneself from the Jewish people is a form of separation from G-d.

With all of this bad attitude, the Rasha is surprisingly number two. Although he’s dangerous and his aura can spread, it will not be a good idea to leave him with the kids. However, there is a famous gemarah that tends to give some hope. The example they give is when Haman, who wanted to destroy the Jews, went to find Mordechai. He found him teaching Torah in a classroom where he had a brief curiosity. The Talmud tells us that the genealogy makeup of being curious – no matter how brief – can be manifested itself years later in great grandchildren.

This is quite the opposite with the fourth son who has no ambition, no curiosity, and might end up being an inactive Rasha. He’s not curious to be interested. This leaves us with the third son who is curious and takes upon himself some sort of commitment of Torah. But his intellect is limited. But every so often, he gets a spark of energy where the teacher has to take advantage before he hibernates for another length of time.

What we’re hoping for is sincere curiosity from their questions and this is what we bait the kids for. But how do we accomplish that? If you observe closely and see how the Torah handles each son individually, each one got a different response. We learn from the sages the importance of handling each child in a different way. It’s a tremendous injustice to teach using the same technique. The optimal choice is every individual should get a different approach to education. It may not be so practical but it is needed.

The Vilna Gaon says some kids like blood and knives, so one has to guide them toward being a mohel or a shochet. There are children that can’t sit still. I remember learning in yeshiva where guys would pace from one end of the study hall to the other. Some of the greatest minds had the greatest pacing. What would one do? Would you tie them up to the seat? NO!! That would destroy them. Let them walk the halls; this is how they learn.

We learn from the sages to approach every child differently. This was Abraham’s method; his extreme sensitivity toward ones personality, and that is why he succeeded to pass down the torch.

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience