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It’s that time again

This article was constructed with the help of either writings, lectures or shiurim of Rabbi’s , Berel Wein, Naftali Reich, Yossi Bilius and Dr. Abba Goldman
I felt it was a pressing need to write about this topic for the Rosh Hashana holiday is already upon us. How can that be?  How did it come so fast?  It sneaked up on us rather quickly.  I’m still paying back tuitions!!  Did seven weeks of camp really end? What’s the old expression – “In the blink of an eye”? I didn’t have a chance to have my cherry flavored Marino ices, which is my ritual every summer. Late at night, on a hot summer night, after everyone’s asleep I would go to my old childhood neighborhood and have my ices. Goodness gracious, I just looked out my back porch and saw my neighbor preparing the walls to putting up his Sukkah….YIKES!!
 What is the most precious commodity in life?  Is it gold? It would make sense. Money makes the world go round. Perhaps, it’s oil? If the Arabs didn’t have oil, they would be just a bunch of schlemiels. What about food?  Every Jewish neighborhood has a late night sandwich bar, fried schnitzel and all. I guess it’s a pressing need. However, intriguingly, many of us, at one point in our lives, have said “If I had to do it all over again, I would change this, I would change that.” This is a key expression in life which is inevitable. Often, we have such regret that the moment escaped us. Often we envision a different scenario.
 It’s a shame, for one often never has the opportunity to do it again. The moment is gone. Time has come and gone, and now it’s just a memory. It’s the spilled milk on the New York street, no way is it going back in the bottle. Can one imagine if a time machine would exist? It would be priceless!! Has anybody found the fountain of youth?
“Time is money!” we are told, but a wise man once turned this expression around and said, “Money is time!” Time, not money, is the fundamental currency by which the value of all things is measured.
After 120 years when a person leaves this world, Rabbi Ariyeh Kaplan writes a mind boggling concept that in the Heavens there is no concept of time. Past, present and future are all the same. Everything happens at once. It always hurts to think, perhaps it’s off limits to his creation, of the notion that G-d lives forever and was never born. When we stand to be judged and the prosecutor accuses the individual “why did you sin?’ He will be too ashamed to answer for his sin is right in front of him… He cannot say “well, I don’t remember that one” for past, present and future are one.
 However, it’s different here, in our existence in this world. Time is a big part of the picture. Why the world is structured this way?  Why do we need time in this world?
 There are two aspects of time which should be addressed.
Firstly, let us reflect for a moment on one of the more notorious features of our society – the mad rush that characterizes our daily existence. The rhythm of our lives is driven by the tictacking of the clock. Our jobs, our schedules, our appointments, rush hour traffic, all the aspects of our contemporary lifestyles are measured and regulated by the inexorable clock. But this is not really a new phenomenon. The accelerated pace of society has simply highlighted one of the fundamental truths of the world – that the most precious commodity by far is time. G-d gave mankind a tool to accomplish and that is time.
 We learn the purpose of time from the Hebrew word. The Hebrew word for year is “shana,” which is linked to the word “shinuy,” meaning change. For time to be used productively, it must be accompanied by growth and change. In another allusion to the concept of time being linked to accomplishment, the Hebrew word for time, “Zman,” is connected to the word “Zimun,” prepared, for every moment of time is embedded with a built-in potential for greatness and achievement.
 So we are given time for it is a measuring stick to prepare for the next world. We are on the clock and we have to use company time wisely. So we see time which is part in parcel with change and is for our benefit.
Rosh Hashana is about repentance – teshuva and one is on a time limit to accomplish it. We have to realize that life is moving very quickly and we have to ask what I accomplished so far. What can I show the heavens, how many brownie points did I accumulate? How much time is left? Did we live up to the best of our ability?
 There are incidences where we overanalyze time. We pull the trigger and say it’s “not time” or take the nuttiest incident and say it’s a sign from heaven.
Rabbi Yossi Bilus was once at a wedding where, at the chuppah, the Chattan was given the ring and as he was about to place the ring on the Kallah’s finger it dropped to the floor. The Chattan tried again and again for the second time it dropped to the floor. The crowd was stunned. The guests were indicating by their frightening sighs AHH and OHH that perhaps this couple is doomed. Then the quick thinking Rabbi performing the ceremony bends down picks up the ring and raises it above his head showing it to the guests. He then proceeds to give it to the nervous Chattan and firmly orders him to place it on the Kallah’s finger. As he placed the ring securely on his Kallah’s finger the Rabbi said to the guests “a few minutes ago it wasn’t time, however, at this moment it’s the right time!! MEKUDESHET- she is betrothed!”
The second aspect of time is the cycle of weeks and years. We learned earlier that G-d and the heavens are not governed by time. Interestingly, G-d’s first commandment which He gave to the Jews, after they left Egypt, was associated with “time”, the mitzvah of establishing the calendar. One might have expected a loftier ideal, such as the commandment of Emunah, faith in G-d, or perhaps, a commandment of personal refinement, such as loving other Jews as oneself. After all, the world is built on kindness. But no! It was the very practical mitzvah of establishing a lunar calendar to regulate the annual cycle of festivals and observances. This is really quite baffling. Why this particular mitzvah? Would it not have been more appropriate perhaps to initiate the Jewish people with a mitzvah that represents transcendent spiritual concepts? Coming out of bondage, the Jewish people were presented with a sudden wealth of time. As slaves, their time had been stripped away from them. This is freedom and now they have time to live.

When designating the new month, the Beth Din – Jewish high court declares, “Mekudash, mekudash! Sanctified, sanctified!” G-d gave the Jewish people the power to sanctify time by what they say and do, not only to give it worth but to imbue it with holiness. Rosh Chodesh, the first day of the new month, has the status of a minor festival, reminding us that we can consecrate all the moments of our lives. By living in a way consistent with Torah values and ideals, we consecrate our time and preserve it for all eternity. This mitzvah, therefore, does indeed represent some of the most transcendent spiritual concepts in the Torah. This mitzvah, delivered with the gift of time, was indeed a most fitting beginning for the special relationship between G-d and the people He had chosen as His own.

 Why by sanctifying time are we building a special relationship with G-d? What is so special to commemorate a holiday? Why is it so important to know precisely when a holiday begins? Jews can be funny that way. It’s humorous how they rush before Shabbat. What’s the big deal if they’re a little late?
 We were not privy to have left Egypt. However, G-d heard our cries and felt, at that moment, a tremendous degree of compassion and with kindness took us out of slavery.  We commemorate the holiday of Shevuot – receiving the Torah because G-d felt it was the right time for us to have it.  Rosh Hashana is a time of repentance. The Torah describes all these holidays by the word “zman – it’s time for” introducing these special events in that manner… The reason why it was so important to establish the Jewish calendar was to figure out G-d’s exact moment of that compassion, kindness. The Seder night, which we commemorate on Pesach, we sit around and recreate the exodus from Egypt on the grounds that in essence since G-d’s not governed by time and for 3000 years and every Seder night since on the same night. Similarly, that night, we can arouse G-d’s compassion and kindness the same exact way as our ancestors did. We then are ready to ask what we wish for whether good parnassa in our financial quest, a good mate, if one is single, children, if one doesn’t have.
 Rosh Hashana is a time where we ask for forgiveness that is the zman to accomplish repentance. The calendar repeats itself year after year; we have another opportunity to make our case for this is the time HE listens with a compassionate ear.
 As King Solomon said there is a time for everything. We are headed towards the repentance time. Let us hope all our prayers will be accepted and this time and all the times till 120 we will be written in the book of life!

 

Standing on the Threshold of Rosh Hashana

Rabbi Baruch Dopelt quoting the RAN hakadosh, Rabbi’s Yitzchak Aminov, Yossi Bilus Dr. Robert Goldman
          Today even a 4 year old has access to making a music video. We are so attached to the computer that some of us have become anti-social. The computer has replaced the dog as “man’s best friend”. One can proclaim that all the modern technology, things like the iphone, ipad, pc, smartphone and laptop have dehumanized us; it has influenced us to an extent where in cases we’ve been transformed and mimic the dull-machine-Mr. Spock personalities of our circuit brain friend. However, one can argue to the contrary, that focusing so much attention on these new gadgets our vulnerability and  humanity manifests itself the most.
          Such is the case many years ago at my bar mitzvah, although it seems like the stone age compared to the gadgets today. By coincidence, the photographer my parents chose to take pictures and video of the event happened to receive the latest technology on the market first, Oo la la “sound super 8mm film!”; WOW,  what a revelation!! Apparently, we were the first family to have a movie of a bar mitzvah with sound in our community.
          The element of surprise and excitement was evident the way many of the guests  stood on line to wish the bar mitzvah boy their best wishes. Today many of us are familiar with the routine and have a set standard greeting when the camera is motioned around the table. “I want to wish the bar mitzvah boy and his family mazal tov may he grow up….yada yada yada……”, however it was funny to see how people clumsily struggled to hold the big mike, some for the first time in their lives, and speak into it. The cat would bite their tongue, even though nobody else at the party was listening, and they would, in a very funny way, get camera shy.
There was one poignant moment though, bringing out the emotions and inner-feelings of some as the camera was given to three guests at one particular table. They were my parents friends and, like them, migrated from Israel to America. Seemingly they missed  the generation of their parents which they experienced as children and young adults; in other words, they were nostalgic. Their parents were immigrants themselves coming to Israel, from the old country, many years before.
One of them said “lets give the mike to him he’ll sing us an old song”. Apparently  one of the three had a nice voice and gifted where he was able to mimic perfectly the old tunes with the accent. As he was singing to the camera, with only the other two listening, they began to get misty eyed as they were reminded of their youth a world far away.

When I was 15; I remember seeing the bar mitzvah movie and thinking what audacity, what chutzpah, three middle aged men at a happy occasion crying. Their emotions seemed misplaced. It may be a time and place to get nostalgic but not to cry. Hey guys! you are supposed to make the bar mitzvah boy and his parents happy. WHY ARE YOU RAINING ON MY PARTY!……THE NERVE.

          As time went on, it’s funny, but 15 years later when I was 30; apparently I had a change of heart of those three fellows and that scene. I didn’t look at them in a negative way anymore; I understood them a bit, however there was a disinterest. One, at this age, is trying to climb the latter of success. My age group, at the time, wanted to establish ourselves financially and socially. It’s an age to built an identity. There was a sub-conscience part of us that looked at our parents for guidance and help us shape up. As our high school principal said at graduation “these graduates have the world in front of them, let them go out and explore”. There was also the time consuming dreadful process of looking for a soul mate. With all that on our plate who had time to reminisce about our young  past?  We were on a mission. We also wanted to have fun. There is excess energy that one just feels like running as fast as he can to win the race. After all we were living in the metropolis of the world.
In my mid-forties though, the attitude changed once again. One sees life totally different. There is an element of experience where one doesn’t jump into things, and I think most importantly, a certain ability to appreciate life and what G-d has on this earth. The prayer we read in the AMIDA- MODIM-appreciation becomes more apparent on the awareness scale; it’s more emphasised . There is a certain sensitivity that one develops. He sees life through a different lens. He also appreciates the past. One cannot help but to say where did that time go? Wouldn’t it be cool if technology developed a time warp?

          There seemed to be a huge transformation in attitude from the age of 15 to 45. What happened to that tough edge personality who didn’t put much emphasis on the past?

In this weeks parsha Moshe informs the people (29:3) after forty years you are now ready in all aspects of life, feeling, seeing, hearing to enter the promised land. Rashi develops this idea, saying  time had to pass and the nation had to grow up, lick their wounds from the sin of the spies and experience that chill time. A time spent wisely developing their Torah skills in order to graduate to the level of entering the land. Dr Goldman points out, we learn from here one does not fully comprehend a Rebbi’s or teacher’s message until forty years later. One can acquire a vast amount of informational knowledge and with it build the world; however it will still be somewhat on a superficial level. A vital part, an emotional edge, kicks in later.

          For this reason one has to show respect and stand up for an elder gentile as well as a Jew. Because through certain painstaking experiences he has acquired wisdom and understanding.

          The Jews who received the Torah at Mount Sinai did not fully comprehend the magnitude of the event until later. Then they had a clearer and deeper understanding of G-d’s masterpiece; they needed years to digest the monumental event. They needed time
One cannot rush time
          Rav Avni said whoever presses his luck before its time will forfeit it entirely. For example, Avshalom, who tried to dethrone his father David. He lost his life and never became king. But whoever waits for the right time will be able to survive the hour of his bad fortune.

Such was the case of two Rabbis, Rabbah and Rav Yosef. The time came for a new head of the Yeshiva. A vote was cast and Rav Yossef was chosen. Nevertheless Rav Yossef did not accept the position because the astrologist had told him that he would officiate as Rosh Yeshiva for only two years and then he would die. So Rabba was chosen and headed the Yeshiva for 22 years then Rav Yossef was chosen. He served for two and a half years before he passed away. During the 22 years Rav Yossef never had a doctor come to his house. By waiting for the appropiate time Rav Yossef gained 22 years of life.
Tractate Brachot
Jews have the power to manipulate time
          Jews have the power to manipulate time. An example of their power is kiddush, whether it be Shabbat or Festivals. The idea of kiddush-sanctify but also means separation. A Jew has the power to bless and separate the day or days and make it special.
How can you make it special?
          A Jew is able to bring back time. One has the power to bring back the first Shabbat or the first Pesach, where G-d had mercy on our ancestors and released us from torture and slavery. We manipulate time to bring that moment of mercy back. If we have the proper intention when we pray or make kiddush, we can receive the same special treatment our ancestors received because we deliberately performed the commandment at the designated times.
Why is Rosh Hashana a day of Judgement?
          It doesn’t state anywhere in the Torah Rosh Hashana is a day of judgement. It only refers to it as yom teruah,  a day of blowing the shofer. So how do we derive that its one of the holiest times of the year?

          The more popular opinion is that Rosh Hashana is when G-d created the world. To be more precise, the world was created on the 25th day of the month of Elul and after six days of creation, the day that G-d created man, Judgment day was proclaimed.
Why was judgement day proclaimed when G-d created man?
          Well,.it was an eventful day to say the least. The first hour G-d thought about creating man; the second hour he asked the angels their opinion. We learn even though one thinks he’s the greatest, he should always ask advice. The third hour G-d gathered dirt from the four corners of the earth. The fourth hour he gathered all the materials together; The 5th hour he created the body; the 6th created a golem, a walking body; on the 7th man was able to speak – he instilled a neshama-soul; on the 8th hour he created Gan Eden. On the 9th hour he warned man not to eat from the tree; an hour later man sinned. The eleventh hour G-d judged him that he should be put to death. However on hour twelve, G-d had tremendous mercy on Adam and let him live for 930 years.
 
          The mercy that G-d displayed, on the first day, was a textbook blue print of the ultimate mercy ever. We said earlier a Jew has the power to bring back time, as long as it’s in the time frame of the time warp. Pesach seder is the same date as when we left Egypt. Shabbat is a day of rest as it was the same seventh day from the inception of the world.
          Rosh Hashana is the same day G-d showed his tremendous mercy.  We purposely manipulate time by making kiddush and conducting special prayers, sanctifying the day. We attempt to enhance the day to bring back the feeling of mercy that G-d displayed on that very first day Adam was created.

          Rabbi Kamenetzky once gave his son a present, a watch. The card said this is the most precious commodity you’ll own. It will guide you to organize your day and allocate time correctly.

          Another year has passed and I will be soon the same age as my father and his friends were at the time of  my bar mitzvah. Its true I understand life a lot better then when I was younger. I also realize the precious commodity ” time”; it’s marching on and not waiting for anybody. As we stand on the threshold of a new year we have to be prepared to submit to G-d what we accomplished this year proclaiming we were productive. We must draw up a plan that the coming year we will improve even more and perhaps he will say we are righteous enough to merit not just entering the promised land but entering another year of good life.

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Septmeber 1, 2011
2 Elul, 5771

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In This Issue
Are You a Leader Type?
Important Times of the Summer
Hurricane Irene & Your Best China

 Are You a Leader Type?
 leader

‘You may set a king over yourselves’ (Devarim 17:15), G-d told Moshe. Take Yehoshua the son of Nun, a man of spirit’. Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz teaches us in the book, Sichot Mussar, the Torah is pinpointing the particular quality, which determined the selection of Yehoshua as the leader of the Jewish people, who would bring them into the land of Israel. We know that Moshe was denied entrance into the chosen land and therefore his replacement would have a crucial and monumental task in this pilgrimage. The leader after Moshe would have huge shoes to fill knowing that Moshe was considered the greatest leader we ever had. Although in hindsight, Yehoshua was an excellent leader, why was he chosen to take over for Moshe? There were far greater men than Yehoshua. In fact, the Baal Haturim, in his analogy of the Torah text, determines that there were thousands greater then him.

The Torah defines Yehoshua’s attitude for leadership as ‘a man of spirit’. What is the quality of ‘spirit’ that makes it the key qualification in assuming the mantle of leadership of Israel? Rashi, one of the main commentaries on the Chumash, defines it as: he is capable of adopting himself to each person in accordance with his personality. This was the intent of Moshe’s request. ‘Master of the Universe, each person’s disposition is manifest to You and they are not similar. Appoint a leader who will be able to tolerate each one according to his disposition. (Rashi, Bamidbar 27:16)

If one notices, this is a quality that many politicians seek to emulate. All too often we see presidential candidates set up a cameo scenario where they go to a blue color fast food restaurant, in the heart of America, jacket off and rolled-up sleeve and no utensils, having a hamburger with big Jim. The camera catches the candidates joking, schmoozing and knee-slapping, having a good time, like good old buddies. The candidate is painting a picture of ‘a man of spirit’; showing the voters that he can mingle with anybody.

Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz teaches us that one can achieve this leadership quality by mastering tolerance. Apparently, it is difficult to wear many different hats; one has to have patience and tolerate many difficult personalities as well as different social levels which can contradict your style of living. Then, after mastering tolerance (like a parent), he will be able to make the adjustment and achieve ‘spirit’, by having the ability to transform himself temporarily into that kind of social level. Perhaps then, it will be easy to ‘switch gears’ and even speak and act like the person whom he’s trying to accommodate.

Yehoshua was a master in his ability to accommodate each individual to his social needs. All of the Israelites felt comfortable with Yehoshuah bin Nun believing he’s their own kind, a man of spirit.

Important Times of the Summer
 kid w/ ice cream

           Can you believe the summer is coming to an end? It went so fast! It was just yesterday that I wrote about the excitement of anticipating having Marino’s Ices during those long summer hot days. I’ve been pushing off mentioning this fond memory, but does anybody remember Howard Johnson’s ice cream? My parents and I would walk on a warm evening to HoJo’s and meet others from our small close knit community and have pistachio ice cream. Back then, Queens was more suburbia and the white building with the red roof, which Howard Johnson’s was known for, like many stores like it, was a block long, situated around a beautiful landscape. Today they would never allow such valuable real estate to be wasted on a one-floor ice cream parlor; they would carve up the space into a ten-story office building and have a couple of flower plants at the front entrance. The past is a memory; summers come and go and time doesn’t wait; it just marches on.

          Rav Moshe Chaim Lutzatto writes in Mesilat Yesharim, one of the classic works in Jewish literature, that we have become like horses that run toward their destination without looking to the left or right. Perhaps we too, in our fast-paced high pressured American lifestyle are running, achieving our financial goals, but are missing out on some of the more important things in life.
          A number of years ago, I heard the unfortunate news of the sudden death of a friend David Kagen. A few weeks later, I received a phone call from a mutual friend, Ronny Alibayof, asking if we can get together for drinks. ‘It would be nice to hang out’ he said. Kagen’s death made him realize that life is too short; one never knows what’s going to happen tomorrow. Therefore, enjoy the company of your buddy today and have a couple of laughs with him. We have to take advantage and appreciate friends and loved ones.
          The Mesilat Yesharim teaches us through the sages, that King David was concerned, and suggested to hasten the coronation of his son Solomon to the thrown. The Talmud asks, wasn’t it destined that Shlomo be king? The Talmud answers, ‘many adverse affects could occur between now and Gichon (the place where Shlomo was to be coronated). The sages teach us that when one has a precious opportunity in your hands, take advantage before it is too late and time will pass.
          There have been many films and books written about one of the all time classic fantasies man has had since the creation of the world, and that is of entering into a time warp machine. Oh, how much fun will it be to spend one more moment with people that you never had a chance to say the proper goodbyes, or just wanting to experience the warm moment one more time?
           I think if one wants to feel good about their self, he should appreciate the people, experiences of the past, and apply that same appreciation and warm feeling to the people who are currently in his life. The biggest culprit is not realizing that time is passing, resulting in putting off the people most dear to you, thinking, ‘I have time’.
          I recently too my son to Carvel ice cream parlor, even though I was quite busy. Although it’s a lot smaller than in my days, nevertheless, the joy of ordering his favorite ice cream and seeing the pleasure in his eyes made me reminisce of those days at HoJo’s and how good I felt. I sat back and enjoyed the moment of watching him enjoy the moment of summer.

Hurricane Irene & Your Best China
washing dishes
The question is asked, if one lives in Far Rockaway, is one allowed to wash dishes after the Shabbat afternoon meal and put them away, knowing that an evacuation notice has been issued, and anticipating Hurricane Irene late Saturday night? Wow! Now that’s a loaded question. It sounds a bit far fetched, right?

We all know that one is not allowed to make any preparations on Shabbat, for after Shabbat. It says in the Torah ‘zachor’ (remember) and ‘shamor’ (watch) the Shabbat. By watching the Shabbat, one does not violate it (turning on lights, driving, etc). Remembering means to give it kavod, the proper respect and honor for this special day. For example, wearing fine clothes, presenting flowers to your wife at the Shabbat table, etc. Thus, even ordinary activities, which involve no melacha (activity which would violate Shabbat) and are perfectly permissible when done for Shabbat purposes, may not be done in preparation for after Shabbat. For example, if one has a dinner party Saturday night, the table cannot be set up on Shabbat. However, perishable goods and items which may break due to certain circumstances if left in an unsafe environment (would constitute a loss), therefore would be permitted to be put away and the food refrigerated.

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience