Parshat Vayeitzei

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Spark Of Jewish Experience
  Vayeitzei

December 1, 2011
5 Kislev, 5772

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In This Issue
Parshat Vayeitzei Highlights
Parshat Vayeitzei – Appreciating What One Does for You
Are You Aware of Your Talents?
Is There a Section in the Yellow Pages for a Kabbalist?

 Parshat Vayeitzei Highlights
 

 

* Yaacov leaves his parents’ home and is on his way to his uncle Lavan to presumable marry his cousin Rachel. 

 

* He stops in this place where he camps outside and settles for the night, where he has a dream that angels are going up and down a ladder. G-d tells him in the dream, ‘I am the G-d of your fathers, Abraham and Isaac. This is a holy place where you are lying and I will give this land to you and your children. Your children will be plentiful and I, G-d, will watch over you and your offspring’.

 

* When Yaacov wakes up, he vows ‘if G-d is with me then I will follow his ways’.

 

* On the way, he spends time in the study hall of Shem and Ever, where he learns more about G-d and spiritual concepts.

 

* Eisav’s son Elifas is instructed to kill Yaacov but is convinced by his uncle that if he robs him of all his money, then he is as good as dead.

 

* Yaacov arrives and meets Rachel, Lavan’s daughter, by the well.

 

* We are informed by the narrative that Lavan has two daughters; the oldest, Leah, who has tender eyes, and the youngest, Rachel, who is very beautiful.

 

* Yaacov has an agreement with Lavan to work seven years and then to marry his youngest daughter, Rachel, whom he loves.

 

* Lavan tricks Yaacov and switches Rachel with Leah.

 

* Yaacov agrees to work seven more years to marry Rachel.

 

* G-d sees that Yaacov loves Rachel more then Leah. So, G-d opens up Leah’s womb and she produces four boys in succession: Reuben, Shimon, Levy, and Yehuda.

 

* Rachel is jealous of Leah since she can’t have children. She gives her maidservant, Bilah, for a wife to Yaacov stating ‘I too will build a family through her.’

 

* Bilah gives birth to Dan and then to Naftali.

 

* Leah sees she stopped giving birth, so she too gives Yaacov her maidservant, Zilpah, for a wife.

 

* Zilpah gives birth to Gad then to Asher.

 

* Reuben finds these special plants called dudayim, (thought to be good for fertility) and presents them to his mother. Rachel likes them and exchanges a night with Yaacov for the dudayim.

 

* Leah has two more boys: Yisachar then Zevulun.

 

* Rachel gives birth to a son named Yosef.

 

* Lavan changes the wages, as well as agreements many times in their business affairs, and Yaacov still comes out a winner.

 

* G-d tells Yaacov ‘It’s time for you and your family to leave after Lavan and his sons over-stepped their boundaries.’

 

* Rachel steals her father’s magical idols.

 

* Lavan chases after Yaacov and his family, and accuses him of stealing his idols.

 

* Yaacov is angry at the accusation and proclaims, ‘Whoever stole your idols shall die’, not knowing it was Rachel who stole it.

 

* G-d appears to Lavan in a dream, stating he should not harm Yaacov.

 

* Lavan and Yaacov make a treaty.

 

Parshat Vayeitzei – Appreciating What One Does for You
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The King of the Jewish nation, Shaul, felt threatened by David who became very popular by winning one of the most lop-sided one-on-one battles in history, by beating the giant and heavily favorite, the ferocious Goliath. Goliath represented one of Israel’s archrivals, the Philistines. It was a tremendous show of courage and David became an instant hero. David was from the tribe of Yehuda where the kings were to be chosen from. Shaul, who came from the tribe of Benjamin, knew inevitably someone from Yehuda would become king. Later the prophet Shmuel anointed David the future king of Israel, which infuriated the present king. Shaul’s animosity became so great toward David that he wanted to kill him. However, as time went on, David became stronger, gathering up men to join him. In one of the more famous incidences in the Tanach (Prophets), David snuck up to where Shaul was sleeping, who was in the midst of chasing him, and cut Shaul’s garment. By demonstrating this act and showing it to him later, he wanted to be clear, as to convey that he has no hostility toward Shaul and how easily it would have been to kill him.’ I have no ill will toward you’; perhaps, Shaul should soften his stance towards him.

It’s most puzzling that when David who was on his deathbed, he could not keep warm; he was constantly cold and no garment could make him comfortable. Apparently, he was being punished for cutting the garment of Shaul. But why? David wanted to make a point of strength; he wanted to make peace between them. Perhaps Shaul was humiliated, but, even so, it was not intended to be a malice act. Why was he punished so severely?

In this week’s Parsha, we find Yaacov wanting to marry Rachel. He knew though, that her father, who has a reputation of a cheat, might trick him. Therefore, he gives Rachel signs that when implemented will ensure that indeed it would be Rachel he’s marrying. However, Rachel gives over the signs to her sister Leah, stating ‘I do not want my sister humiliated when Lavan’s plans foil and Yaacov discovers it’s Leah who he’s marrying and not me’.

By Rachel giving over the signs, it fortified the marriage between Yaacov and Leah and through that union producing six out of the twelve tribes. In essence, Rachel sacrificed her having all of the twelve tribes because she did not want her sister Leah to be humiliated.

The question Rabbi Olbaum asks, ‘I understand there’s no street lights and it’s properly pitch dark, but didn’t Yaacov realize it’s not Rachel he’s with? Even the breathing of a person is recognizable. If Yaacov was so careful with the signs, then wouldn’t he be as diligent and on the alert at this crucial juncture too? Nevertheless, the next morning he was surprised. How can that be?

Our sages teach us that Rachel’s virtue was modesty, to such an extent that the sensitive Yaacov wasn’t able to discover and recognize her scent and voice. This characteristic of Rachel’s embracement of modesty enabled Leah to be saved. If it were any other woman, she would have been discovered. Clothing is the face of modesty; it creates a barrier from sinning. David, who is the descendant of Leah (from the tribe of Yehuda) cut the garment of Shaul (from the descendants of Rachel).

In essence, you cut the hand that feeds you. If it weren’t for Rachel, where would Leah be? The modesty of Rachel saved Leah. David targeted one of the strengths of Shaul who also practiced, and was known for modesty, just like his ancestor. Seemingly, this lack of respect was a grave sin.

We see modesty is one of the building blocks of Judaism and clothing is its vehicle. One of the reasons a Jew wears a Talit or Tzitzit is because it is a spiritual garment in which G-d gave us. It too is a garment that represents the foundation of Judaism to the highest degree.

Are You Aware of Your Talents?
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Because of Thanksgiving, last week was a short week, and yours truly had to submit the articles for this amazing newsletter earlier then the usual time. Unfortunately, because of the pressure of the early bird special, I forgot to submit a dedication for my Grandfathers yartziet.

I’m not known as a person with tendency to execrate sarcasm, as my wife would complain, is more of an accurate description of me. So if I say that my grandfather was one of the best, if not thee best Chazzan (cantor) in the Bukharian community in Israel during the period 1935-1970, it’s safe to believe the accuracy of the statement.

My grandfather, Moshe Kimyagaroff z’l, had enormous talent and a lion of a voice. It’s a shame I wasn’t able to hear him in his hey-day; I guess that’s life. Perhaps, I believe, the most important aspect of his talents is that he always gave his all; he never held back.

A very important lesson comes to mind in Tanach (prophets). There was a very talented chazzan named Navot. Three times a year, Shavuot, Sukkoth, and Pesach, many of the Jews all over Israel would walk to Jerusalem to participate in the Temple ceremonies of sacrifices and festivities. These three holidays till today are known as the Shalosh Regalim (3 legs, walking to the temple).

Apparently, Navot fell under the trap of being pampered as a result of his extremely talented voice. His moodiness made him a bit lax and he felt the trip to Jerusalem was a bit much on one of the Holidays (shalosh regalim). So he decided to skip it.

The sages describe G-d as being angry with Navot. ‘I gave you a beautiful voice purposely so you can sing and beautify the holiday, and you don’t want toperform. The voice I gave you was to be utilized and if you’re not performing and using the tools and talents I gave you. Well, maybe you don’t belong here.’

Soon after, the wicked king of Israel (kingdom was split in two: Judah and Israel), Achav, took a liking to Navot’s vineyard and expressed interest in buying it. Navot mistakenly refused which propelled Achav to desire it more. Achav was so distraught that he desperately placed his wife Izevel in charge, who framed Navot with treason. She had him and his family executed.

The sages teach us this was the result of not using the gifts that G-d had given. We all are given gifts that we have to bring out to this world and perform. Sometimes, those gifts are apparent to all; sometimes not. Although, we think we are talented in some areas, it’s not so; it’s just something we like. A person, for example, wants to be a singer/actor and perform on stage because he wants to be famous and be applauded; that’s not talent, that’s trying to satisfy the ego. One should not get tricked by his bad traits and pursue something he might regret later.

In the case of making a living, some go in to their father’s business, even though they don’t have the knack or talent for it. One has to figure out where his gifts lie. The Chovot Halevavot says one has to make use of his natural talents.

When the Jews were in the desert and they were constructing the Mishkan (Temple), everyone was asked to volunteer what they are skilled in. This was difficult and new to our ancestors at the time, because they had just come out from slavery and were not privileged to express themselves. But with heart and soul, they each brought out their best.

We have to take advantage of our freedom and to make it a priority to find out where our talents lie, whether for making a living or just to better our lives.

Is There a Section in the Yellow Pages for a Kabbalist? 
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            If one asks most Americans the question, whom do they confide in the most? Many would have on top of their list, a therapist. If one asks a religious Jew, especially from Sephardic origin, who they confide in the most, who’s on top of their list? They would answer a kabbalist. No one should leave home without one. How can any one survive without a kabbalist? Everyone wants to have the edge on life, and a kabbalist provides that crucial information. But does it really make a difference following their advice?

After hearing this Gemara, (Tractate Succah), one may have second thoughts. One day King Solomon see’s the angel of death feeling sad, sitting hunched over. ‘Why are you so sad?’ King Solomon asks. ‘I have to kill these two good looking and strong slaves’, replied the angel of death. Shlomo realized these two slaves are two of his trusted servants. He immediately summoned them and instructed them to quickly, with armed guards, run to Luz. Luz is a secret town, which no one ever dies. Only a few know how to get there. The servants were escorted by King Solomon’s trusted guards to Luz. When they finally reached the entrance of Luz, they unexpectedly meet the angel of death. He takes out his sword and kills them both. The next morning, King Solomon see’s the angel of death happy and smiling from ear to ear. ‘Why are you so happy?’ Shlomo asks. The angel of Death replied ‘you tried to outsmart me, well, you can’t outsmart an old fox. These two slaves were destined to die at the gates of Luz; but there was no way to get them to that destination. How am I going to get them there? I asked. I threw the fish in the water and you took the bait.’

When a person is destined to be somewhere, he’ll be there, no matter what. If one starts to play around with an extra-terrestrial being, doing hocus pocus, hee-gee gee-bee, well, somehow it seems like it might be futile. One has to use his own abilities and know-how through his absorption of the Torah to guide him in life. One should not rely on a kabbalist. Unfortunately, the hardest seller of this article is yours truly. It’s awfully tempting. Isn’t it?

Sincerely,
Rabbi Avi Matmon
Spark of Jewish Experience

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